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All the following is from a book called Cutting by Steven Levenkron, it was published by Norton, in New York, 1998. I have absolutely no permission to reproduce any of the work but seeing as I've referenced it, I should be okay. And anyway, it's not like anyone from Norton reads my blog... *shifty eyes*
There are two types of cutters;
The nondissociative
"If parents themselves require support form the child, or the parents have an inadequate amount of warmth and attentiveness to offer the child, the child does not enjoy the security to express the natural negative feelings that all children occasionally express towards their parents.
"If a child experiences this reversal of dependence during her formative years, she can only bare to feel anger towards herself, never towards others. She... suffers from intolerable rage with which she is only capable of attacking herself" (Levenkron, pp. 48).
The dissociative
"The child who, during her formative years, experiences a lack of warmth and nurturance, or who is the subject of her parents' cruelty, [feels] disconnected from her parents, from others and ultimately self-mutilates" (Levenkron, pp. 48).
Cutters do not have the vocabulary to voice their feelings; their wounds are their way of talking.
The befits gained form cutting are listed as;
Pain as the goal
Self-mutilators may seem submissive; they may go along with other people's ideas because they think they will not be liked if they don't. They may also be involved in a role-reversal with the parents where they must be the mature one. In both cases, they repress their feelings, but these feelings need to be expressed somehow. One way is cutting.
An act of Anger
Cutting as a physical pain to combat emotional pain. Either the cutter hurts themselves the way they wish they could hurt the person (or people) that hurt them, or they focus on the physical pain because it is a distraction from constant emotional pain like the type felt by an incest victim.
Self-Medication
"When the body is injured, hormones called endorphins are released to fight anxiety, agitation and depression. The self-mutilator might be combining depression, anxiety and past history in order to become the architect of her own pain. ... The chemical interplay can produce an addiction to the 'drugs' manufactured by one's own body." (Leverkron, pp. 105-106)
There is so much more I would like to write but I would have to re-publish the book to get it all out. If you're interested, this book is factual and easy to read- I recommend it for anyone with any reason for being interested in the matter.
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I posed a question to my peers; if you could change one thing about the world, what would it be? Here are the answers.
I wish that life was just a little easier
It intrigued me that the person who wrote this is someone who I know to be having one of the rougher rides life's rollercoaster has on offer but they've still managed to find many things to be appreciative of along the way. Isn't that always the way though, those that struggle most always complain least?
I wish for more money
This one had two versions; those that wanted financial security and that that wanted a life of luxury.
The first group simply wanted to know that they could put food on the table and that they had money saved up in case of an emergency. They just wanted to sleep well at night knowing they had a reserve to dive into in case life was planning to throw them a curve ball.
The second group wanted the jet set life. They craved 5 Star experiences and the latest of everything. For them money would be a way to turn life into one big party. I say good luck to this group, just try to avoid becoming disillusioned with your glamorous life. If you ever start feeling that it's less than fabulous, I suggest you take a look at what else the world has to offer and how some others have chosen to live. Maybe there's a different calling for you, or maybe you've forgotten how much you wanted this life.
I wish for an end to animal cruelty
This question brought out the selflessness in people.
As much as we want to be happy and successful and lead good lives, we also want this happiness for others because, as the old adage goes, seeing you happy makes me happy. The person who wrote this reply is particularly sentimental towards animals because they do not have a voice and as such, this person has decided to act on behalf of them. There might just be hope for the world yet.
I just want to be happy
By far the most common answer. It was phrased in a variety of ways but essentially, most of the people that took part in my survey said this. They didn't allude to how this happiness would be achieved- some said they didn't mind by what means, just as long as this was the result. Happiness, perhaps our most simple but most wished for change.
Good luck world, I noticed no one wished for war or inflation 
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Hello Generation Y, this is God your monitoring authority speaking; please be seated.
As usual, I have been monitoring your progression through life and I have noticed a disturbing trend- you refuse to sleep. Now listen here, I didn't provide you with the capacity to sleep so that you could throw it in my face like some optional extra you don't need. I've decided that you do need sleep and as such, you will get it.
I don't want to hear about assignments that you need to finish (thought of starting earlier?) or this thing you call 'insomnia' (I programmed you with no such quality) impeding you, or some club you must visit (no building-destroying earthquakes are scheduled for tonight, come back at an earlier time tomorrow)- you will sleep.
Other generations have been more submissive, you are more rebellious but you have nothing to show for it.
Remember when you fell asleep at the wheel and crashed into that telegraph pole? I placed it there.
Remember when you fell asleep in class and as such failed to take notes? I made it do.
Oh and the grouchiness you exude towards your loved ones on the days that follow the nights you don't sleep? I make you do that, so you see, resistance is futile.
My plan is brilliant. My plan is unflawed. My plan is for your bodies to regenerate themselves while your eyes shut and I will not have a snotty little life form such as yourself telling my otherwise.
How do you get sleep? You establish sleep time- ideally 8 hours a day but if youre really good, as an early Christmas present I'll accept 7. Then, you must have all work done before this time. Stop and restart the next day if you must but sleep time is SLEEP time, I programmed you with enough intelligence to understand that!
As for this 'insomnia' you claim -liars- do not damage yourselves with alcohol and sleeping tablets! I did not sculpt you so that you could modify my design, simply exhaust yourself through out the day so that you can't help but fall into unconsciousness the moment the clock signals it's your sleep time. I don't care how you do it, just drain yourselves completely. While you sleep I'll refuel you with energy.
See? Simple. Now go to bed!
That is all.
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Hey hey my pretty readers, nice to see you're back
In this entry we will be looking at car hoons, ready? Let's begin
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Is it just me, or are my titles getting evermore cruder? Well whatever, today we will be looking at the 'little epidemic' of Chlamydia that has erupted among our Generation Y compatriots.
Because I like to pretend to be a good journalist, we shall begin this walk down Infection Lane with a little bit of background so you (and I) won't need to pretend to know what I'm blogging about- we can be certain 
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Sorry for the vulgarity of the title but it reflects the gist of this post i.e. it gets straight to the point. Furthermore, this entry is not about rape in general; I am looking at how Generation Y is growing up with rape. How many of us have been violated and how our various legal and social systems have reacted to it. This entry is meant to show you how your peers think about and deal with this issue.
We begin in Afghanistan where consensual and forced sexual encounters outside of marriage are both considered illegal sexual relations "because the Islamic rules say that it is". In Lashkar Gah prison, two thirds of its women prisoners are serving 20 year sentences because they were violated. Oh, how dare they! Away from the prison setting, even the women that stay home are not safe; 87% of females aged 7 years and older have been violently attacked in their own homes and half of these attacks are sexual. Furthermore, 60% of all marriages are forced, and once the marriage is performed you know a man is entitled to his conjugal rights. My information came from here
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Because I'm feeling social (there must be a full moon out), I've decided to post a range of activities my fellow members of Generation Penultimate Letter of the Alphabet may wish to revel in.
Firstly, Oktoberfest
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Ahh the motor vehicle- what a gorgeous, spectacular thing to own. Do we not all dream of laying claim to such an invention? Shockingly, the answer is no. While some of us (like our New Zealand brethren) have jumped at the chance to become car owners, others (such as our US variety Gen Yers) have shrugged off this purchase. Who drives what? What are their reasons and more, all in this explosive edition of Generation Y Life: Culture and Perspective!
We start with the traitors
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September 29th 2008 11:06
You may have heard of them being called 'ladettes'. They're the young women who insist on drinking purely to get drunk, they're rowdy, offensive and crude, well, superficially anyway. The Australian term for these young ladies is, apparently, 'yobettes' and they're getting plastered in a pub year you.
Last night's feature on 60 Minutes about this division on Generation Y spoke to two of these specimens and asked them, why? Why the drinking and the fighting and the sexual aggression
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September 27th 2008 08:12
Once again, hello all. I've returned to the blogosphere that is Orble and I've done so with a new focus on upcoming members of Generation Y who I predict will be making their mark on the world in the near future.
In my absence, I discovered Formula 1 (F1) and fell utterly in love with its hair-pin bends and top speeds of 360km/h but sadly, with the 2008 season nearly over, I needed a plan to get me through the off season and that ladies and gentlemen, is where the GP2 series come in
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That's not marketing, that's flat-out poaching.