JessiccaWould you betray your best friend?
February 25th 2007 03:41
Today the sky’s been pretty gloomy compared to the other days within the Chinese New Year festive season. Everyday it has been hot and sunny during the daytime, and it rains during evenings or nights. Yet today was special. It was hot and humid as usual, but the sky was gloomy.
As usual I spend most of my holidays at home accompanying my parents and while I was waiting for them under the big angsana tree, I flipped the Sunday papers, browsing through the headlines to see what’s going on. The title column wasn’t very obvious, but it was enough for me to stop and read the details:
Girl offers best friend to settle debts
Article extracted from The Sunday Star Malaysia
By NELSON BENJAMIN
JOHOR BARU: A 17-year-old dropout, desperate to settle her debts to several men, “presented” her best friend to them.
Her girl friend was taken on a terror ride before they raped her.
The girl had asked the 17-year-old victim to follow her to a car park recently, telling the victim that her brother was being assaulted there.
When she reached the car park, the victim saw four men waiting in a car.
The men grabbed her and tied her hands, and drove to a house in Larkin.
The victim was then forcibly taken to a room where the men took turns to rape her.
After several hours, the victim was dropped off at her home.
She later sought medical treatment and lodged a police report.
Within hours, police rounded up the five suspects, who included a 26-year-old adopted son of a Tunku.
The others were aged between 15 and 28.
This seemed to be rather normal to see in the movies, years ago. But sometimes, we have forgotten that these issues still exist in our daily lives. We might have been overwhelmed with the dangers of our natural environment, or perhaps, endangered species; or even, our own health (or wealth, for those money making people out there). But do we still remember the human society?
Best friends – from what I understand through my phase of life is someone you can count on, you can trust, and someone who could stand up for you during rough times. Best friends exist outside marital status and family. I always remember the famous Chinese quote, “When you are out in the world, friends are very important”
But does that mean you can betray your friend? You may ask a favour from your best friend to help you out in some tight situations, but would you, sacrifice someone you trust the most, who in turn trust you as well, to dangerous, life threatening situations such as above, just so that you could get out of bad debts?
“But I have no choice… she’ll understand…she’s my best friend…” most “victims of thugs” would say that, whenever they surrender their friendship of trust and family to settle their horrible problems. Is that an act of responsibility? Are best friends just tools for you to shower your problems and an escape goat for your miserable problems?
“Ah young souls. They do not understand life meanings.” But does that qualify you to make such a decision that would tarnish the life of the person whom you suppose to trust the most?
I am not judging what the girl has done, because what has happened can never be turned back. Few people’s life has tarnished because of the path they chose. But I would like everyone to sit down and think and judge ourselves, deep within our soul, this question:
As usual I spend most of my holidays at home accompanying my parents and while I was waiting for them under the big angsana tree, I flipped the Sunday papers, browsing through the headlines to see what’s going on. The title column wasn’t very obvious, but it was enough for me to stop and read the details:
Article extracted from The Sunday Star Malaysia
By NELSON BENJAMIN
JOHOR BARU: A 17-year-old dropout, desperate to settle her debts to several men, “presented” her best friend to them.
Her girl friend was taken on a terror ride before they raped her.
The girl had asked the 17-year-old victim to follow her to a car park recently, telling the victim that her brother was being assaulted there.
When she reached the car park, the victim saw four men waiting in a car.
The men grabbed her and tied her hands, and drove to a house in Larkin.
The victim was then forcibly taken to a room where the men took turns to rape her.
After several hours, the victim was dropped off at her home.
She later sought medical treatment and lodged a police report.
Within hours, police rounded up the five suspects, who included a 26-year-old adopted son of a Tunku.
The others were aged between 15 and 28.
This seemed to be rather normal to see in the movies, years ago. But sometimes, we have forgotten that these issues still exist in our daily lives. We might have been overwhelmed with the dangers of our natural environment, or perhaps, endangered species; or even, our own health (or wealth, for those money making people out there). But do we still remember the human society?
Best friends – from what I understand through my phase of life is someone you can count on, you can trust, and someone who could stand up for you during rough times. Best friends exist outside marital status and family. I always remember the famous Chinese quote, “When you are out in the world, friends are very important”
But does that mean you can betray your friend? You may ask a favour from your best friend to help you out in some tight situations, but would you, sacrifice someone you trust the most, who in turn trust you as well, to dangerous, life threatening situations such as above, just so that you could get out of bad debts?
“But I have no choice… she’ll understand…she’s my best friend…” most “victims of thugs” would say that, whenever they surrender their friendship of trust and family to settle their horrible problems. Is that an act of responsibility? Are best friends just tools for you to shower your problems and an escape goat for your miserable problems?
“Ah young souls. They do not understand life meanings.” But does that qualify you to make such a decision that would tarnish the life of the person whom you suppose to trust the most?
I am not judging what the girl has done, because what has happened can never be turned back. Few people’s life has tarnished because of the path they chose. But I would like everyone to sit down and think and judge ourselves, deep within our soul, this question:
Would you BETRAY YOUR BEST FRIEND?
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Comment by Candice
Comment by Jessicca
Learning Something Everyday
Malaysia Found
Yes it was indeed a very sad reality that such evens still occurs. This shows how a person can turn into in desperate situations. You can either triumph or drop into depts of disaster.
Thank you so much for dropping by ^_^
Jessicca
Comment by Lilla
From The Home Front
Enviro Warrior
Dream Herald
Esoteric Bookshop
what a disturbing story!
I would not betray my best friend, but visit the police and tell them I wished to make good my payment and pay it off and that these thugs were harrassing me. I guess it depends on the level of protection there in Malaysia? As you know here in Australia there are restraining orders that can be acquired...
terribly sad story all round...
on a lighter note a happy (lunar) New Year to you ... I spent it watching the dragon dance too and some great fireworks here in Brisbane... It was quite special (as always).
Hope you are well, and your holiday's were fun.
Lilla~
Comment by Jessicca
Learning Something Everyday
Malaysia Found
Indeed it is a troubled story. Honestly, there are laws that are like in Australia. It is the people who wants to enforce it or not.
My holiday was good, until I had fever for a few days. Well it is a good break from all the work though. ^_^
Hope you enjoyed the dragon dance and your lunar celebrations in Brissie. How I missed those days.
Have a blessed day