Kristin WolgemuthWild Sleeper
May 25th 2009 12:13
sleeping peacefully
My husband is a wild sleeper. Jim flails around at night, often hitting me in the process. Sleeping with him has posed problems for me. I’ve tried different things, like placing a pillow in between us, but that doesn’t always work. Sometimes it does keep me safer and that’s great. The pillow has sometimes between something for my husband to cuddle, though, in which case I’m back at square one.
The pillow, despite its working sometimes, has also become a source of contention. Not only does Jim cuddle with the pillow but his fingers will sneak up to the top of the pillow and make this faint scratching sound. It drives me bonkers. And he’ll hit the top of the pillow, too, and tap on my head, not hard enough to hurt me, but annoying just the same. Another bad thing about the pillow is the space it takes up on the bed. This is likely another reason the pillow doesn’t work- Jim just needs more space. I think it would be better to have a king-sized bed rather than a queen, but I don’t know if that would fit in our bedroom very well.
One night Jim started cuddling with the pillow, and then he started drumming on me. His legs flailed and his arms hit the pillow and me. Luckily he wasn’t hitting hard, but after the fourth time he hit me (just in the arms), I decided I’d had enough and got up. He half woke up while I was leaving the room and apologized for his craziness in bed. The next morning he didn’t remember what happened until I told him about it. He started laughing! He apologized again and then explained what happened.
My husband is a drummer, and although he doesn’t play as much as he used to, he still gets into it now and then. Apparently he got into it that night in his dreams. He dreamt he had put a band together with him on the drums. We suspect that it was while he was engaged in a wild drum solo that was when he started drumming on me. It was too funny; I couldn’t be angry about it.
Sometimes, as you can probably guess, I get too anxious to sleep in the same bed as Jim. I try not to worry about possibly getting hit, because it usually doesn’t happen. I do, however, get really anxious about this sometimes, in which case we don’t sleep together. Luckily we have a spare bedroom with a small bed in it, and one of us will sleep there at times. It’s just safer that way, and it causes me less angst.
I try to sleep with my husband as much as possible. I think it’s only right for a happily married couple to sleep in the same bed! I know that at times it feels impossible, but I am trying to get over that. Jim has tried to stay on his side of the bed, which has helped. He tries to get it into his head that he has to stay on his side of the bed right before he goes to sleep. This has definitely helped. I have to try to keep this in mind, too, though, because I have elbowed Jim in the head a time or two. Luckily they have been only light taps and I haven’t even bothered to tell Jim about them. Ha, ha. I get away with so much.
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Comment by Tracy
Movies and Life
I'm not the best sleeper, prone to insomnia so I sometimes end up in the spare room like you said. Sometimes you just have to do it to feel OK and to get through the next day.
Comment by Kristin Wolgemuth
Poetry Lighthouse
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Time to Get Up Club
I think I'll be sleeping in the spare room tonight! Ha! Thanks for the comment.