Where does the time go?
I got an email today from one of my High School teachers. I cannot believe that it was 9 years ago that I was sitting in her class learning about Jane Austen and Shakespeare. So many Flashes of Memories went through my head the whole of today as I went around my daily business and got mt to thinking about those 9 years and where they have disappeared to.
I spoke to my mum this afternoon and as she was talking I got to thinking about how different our lives were. When she was my age she was having her last child, I have not even thought about kids yet. At my age she had her own business, I have not even decided what I want to do yet. At my age she had been to two countries, I have travelled around the world. At my age she had not finished her High School education, I have a list of useless qualifications that I never use.
What defines success can be so different to two people you would think they were using a completely different word. So what is it tat makes you successful? Is it having the kids and the business and the education? Conforming to those societal unspoken laws of success or is it finding what makes you happy, no matter how long it takes? Living according to laws that challenge you and make you see the world from so many view points it makes you head spin and in doing so broadens your mind, so that yes! one day your brain does fall out!
I thought that approaching 30 I would be settled, have the career, have the happy family and as I have slowly worked my way to that age nothing has turned out that way - not one single thing. None of the plans that I had when I sat in that classroom all those years ago have become a reality.
So at what point do you draw the line between the two? Is there a moment in your life when you think....hhhmmmmm I am truly happy this is what I want? Or am I the only one that this changes CONSTANTLY for?
I spoke to my mum this afternoon and as she was talking I got to thinking about how different our lives were. When she was my age she was having her last child, I have not even thought about kids yet. At my age she had her own business, I have not even decided what I want to do yet. At my age she had been to two countries, I have travelled around the world. At my age she had not finished her High School education, I have a list of useless qualifications that I never use.
What defines success can be so different to two people you would think they were using a completely different word. So what is it tat makes you successful? Is it having the kids and the business and the education? Conforming to those societal unspoken laws of success or is it finding what makes you happy, no matter how long it takes? Living according to laws that challenge you and make you see the world from so many view points it makes you head spin and in doing so broadens your mind, so that yes! one day your brain does fall out!
I thought that approaching 30 I would be settled, have the career, have the happy family and as I have slowly worked my way to that age nothing has turned out that way - not one single thing. None of the plans that I had when I sat in that classroom all those years ago have become a reality.
So at what point do you draw the line between the two? Is there a moment in your life when you think....hhhmmmmm I am truly happy this is what I want? Or am I the only one that this changes CONSTANTLY for?
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Time does go by so quickly and from where I am sitting it has all but gone.
Life for everyone is different but I know for girls, if they are going to have a family, they should get right on choose a suitable, not perfect partner, who loves children and build a life and home together. Everything else can wait.
My mother always taught me that one should have one's children when young, then, if anything wrong is discovered there's time to fix it.
Not possible for everyone, but for most, female fertility declines quite rapidly after 35, this of course does not hold for everyone but that is what the stats tell us.
You sound like a great girl, just keep on keeping on, women, unfortunately have 'outfoxed' themselves, and there are too many males sliding in and out of the bedclothes with little sense of commitment, obligation and responsibility knowing they can quite happily defer parenthood, but that is backfiring for a lot of men ,too.
Reproduction is a serious business, not to be taken lightly. Life is a very precious gift. You've been give it and now it's your turn to give it to someone else.
I think we are living in one of the worst societies man has created.
Those other dreams of yours will fall into place, there is plenty of time for most people, with a few possible exceptions which are indeed extremely sad. And you have already achieved a lot.
katyzzz... hope I haven't added to your confusion
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Thanks for your comment - a lot to think about there. Your mum seems to be a very wise woman - I like her way of thinking.
It is very confusing all this life business - I think we should be born with a manual and a journey mapped out for us (not really but it would be a lot simpler!)
I would loe to have a child, but as you say you need to find that someone who wants to share in that with you which is sometimes a bit difficult. I still have quite a few years before 35 but again as your mum says you should be young to enjoy your children. I guess that is where the confusion is - it is the one part that is missing and that I have never experienced and it seems things click into place once it does happen.
One day! Until then I will have my little days of confusion like today that will drive me nuts and then wake up in the morning with some new thought to occupy its hours!
Thanks for stopping by!
Ash