When Was The Last Time (LINK)
Can I ask you a question, of course I can, you're reading this and I'm no where near to hear your reply, at least physically that is. But seriously, when was the last time you made love? Now I know that came out of left field and may seem a bit forward, personal and or unjust, but take a step back to maybe go forward and a relaxing moment to really understand what I'm saying or should I say asking right now. Travel with me for the sake of whatever since you came this far already. When was the last time you made love? is not a trick question or a riddle, just a simple question, when, why and where was your mind, body and soul during this moment? Were you with it in full unison, or absent looking at it, dazed and confused. So once again please, when was the last time you made love? Okay, now that we've gotten that out of the way, lets freely go into this theory and surface from the depths with hopefully a little more than what we started with. Have you ever read, seen or felt something so strong, that it truly made you smile before you really understood what in the heck was really going on or just happened to you. Something that lifted or propelled you to a place that you may have forgotten out of habit or routine, or maybe never knew or met. And made the bright a little bit brighter, the blue a little more deeper and the red a little bit richer? Something that displayed the many good things in life and why we live it, something that portrays the end results from the effort and the sweat, and gives definition and solutions to the why's and the why nots and all in between of the transparent but very real spectrum? The feeling of purity, love and genuine concern for someone or thing beyond the selfish needs we place uponothers and ourselves. A thought that had you sharing your individual beliefs unconditionally, made you feel loved, wanted, appreciated and made you not want to reach the other end of that spectrum, because you are knowledgeably aware of its power, which leads to destruction, a place you don't wanna be. Well if so and you have felt that bond of pure love, and you have been there and stayed, Isomewhat envy you in the most humbling way, and if not welcome aboard to my world, where growth is not measured in size, but in spirit and stature for the everlasting. The price for entering in here is free, but the cost of admission is this. Answer this question now and then again when you have finished reading, and then ask someone near and far from you the same. Compare the answers even if theyare the same, as you ask it in ways never spoken how they will be heard. The question is this, When was the last time you made love? Now have you ever concentrated on any level, at any one moment, and not worry or wonder about the next frame of time without regretting missing what was happening and or passing you by while it is standing in front of you? Was your mind there or somewhere else? Where was your soul during this transaction,while your body idly raced to leave where it was destined to be. Did you find that the things you were searching for and trying to reach obtainable and warranted from your effort, or were you grasping at the straws that would eventually break the camels back, and not worth the energy to go or try any further? Did you make love and conceive the moment for what it is and was, or solely masturbate with your mentally separated partner as you both ignorantly used each other as a substitute for what you really both wanted, needed and craved, love? Its a simple thing to get, more difficult to have and hold, and almost impossible to describewhen you have this feeling. You see words are limited to certain topics and subjects, and this emotion is limitless and forever growing and unique in its own regard. Love is like a child produced by two people, with its own DNA,characteristics and features. Some love is healthy,some not healthy. Some normal and abnormal, while some is conventional and other types creative to say the least. Regardless on how it is viewed, it is love, in its purest form, taking on a life of its own with the help of its participants and providers. So once again I ask the question,when was the last time you made love?
Now think about this view, do or can you remember the last time you had sex and or was sexually involved with another person? Were you comfortable, satisfied before during and after, lured or enticed to the encounter and was it what you wanted it to be, or did you make it what you knew it wasn't? I want to know the answer to that, and you can tell me though no words need to be spoken. The reason I ask this is to explain my question from the beginning, and travel deeper into this topic, with you aboard of course. Now I often wonder when I see the reflection of myself in the eyes of those concerned and not aware of topics like this, do they know the difference in love and lust, or am I only one of a few or the last to realize the mystical and magical wonder I know is out there, that fills my soul, defines my being, consumes my purpose and fuels my search, though personally I have no proof it is real. I can honestly say that I can not recall a time when I was mentally faithful to any of my partners, though I wanted to be cosmetically. I have had more threesomes than Ron Jeremy and Jenna Jameson put together, I was and I guess still, a pure slut. Now in saying that, understand how I am defining that, for vision is the key to seeing the entire mirage. When I say threesomes, I am speaking on the fact that I would always be thinking of someone or some other thing while physically relieving myself of fluids, and subjecting my inner health to more damage than my physical being. I have lusted for many, tried to love a few, admired more than I can count, but only just recently found a woman that eliminates all before her and more than likely after, if there will be any which I doubt. So now I wonder what took so long for me to find her? Was I really ready before we met, was she, would we have fit like we do now, and would the lessons learned from this journey been taught different back then as they are being applied right now. So please don't think I am praising myself, putting my past relationships and the women down, I am asking them the same questions I ask you and myself with love in my heart, when was the last time you made love?If you now ask me about love, I would now say it is more mental than physical. Now don't get me wrong, the thought of flesh on flesh is great, but you can't compare that to mind, body, soul and heart. I do believe it can happen all at once, as I also think it can grow through and over time. I think though with time, a certain level of trust comes to play and one becomes comfortable in a good way. I would say that I would not really have it that way if I had my druthers, for I would question the magical bond that ignites such a flame in terms of chemistry, attraction and surface stuff that I would rather have than have not. It more than likely doesn't exist when in my opinion you limit your willingness and abandonment to compromise your passion, whereas when you know it and don't expect it, you can stay warm for years by the mere heat from the initial moment, that serves as a personal foundation to constantly grow up and outward. But yes, I believe both exist, all of a sudden or over time, and although I'm not trying to rhyme, would welcome either, any day, any time.
At glance, it all seems to just happen and in that theory, it will last a little while. But for it to make through the good and bad, happy and sad, there needs to be at least seven elements readily available to fall back on, or should we say, be the foundation to make it last forever and be the standard. These elements {not in any order} I like to call them are:
1 - visual appeal, respect and attraction
2 - mutual respect and responsibility for self, eachother, life and the relationship for the moment and there after.
3 - unique and passionate desire on a emotional,spiritual and mental level
4 - individual fantasies that can be accepted andfufilled within the relationship on all levels.
5 - realistic expectations and judgments
6 - trust and belief in the unknown
7 - interest that can be combined and seperatedwithout losing it validity.
Now there are more, but these solid seven can make anything something. You can and will breed these qualities to others without even knowing it. You will gain momentum to get over the hump, and elevate your lives together, as one. These listed items in my opinion takes lust to love, sex to love making, an associate to a friend and me to you {you know who you are}. So thanks for reading and oh yeah, if not in the last few minutes, when was the last time you made love -
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