Final FantasyWe all need friends
May 5th 2007 08:47
This is a subject that i will be returning to from time to time. I was reading a blog a friend wrote and it set me thinking (as all his blogs do .... well when they are not making me cry that is) about MY friends.
I am not one to make friends easily .... well I don't think so .... you see I am fundamentally a shy person. I blush easily and can get very well uncomfortable in crowds. Part of that stems from being so small - in larger groups of people I tend to feel claustrophobic if I cant see which at my height I cant usually. So I began to avoid crowded places unless I could sit up higher and look beyond other peoples shoulders. Anyway whats this got to do with friends I hear you ask!! Well I am rambling again (something I am good at) but also trying to set the scene.
So you may say to yourself so you don't makes friends easily you have issues regarding you height hmmmm do you have any friends?? And Yes I do - I have quite a few friends. I may not see them on a regular basis but they are very dear to me.
So in my mind what makes a good friend?? Well for me the people in my life that I count as good friends are such because when the chips are down they are where? They are there for ME! I have one friend who drove a 200 mile round trip just to take me to lunch not so very long ago ..... what more could you ask for in a friend? My friends are there for me when I need them and I hope I am there for them. They make me laugh and they offer a shoulder to cry on when I need it. They have seen me through good times and laughed along with me and seen me through some very dark days when they have listened with endless patience and support and love to my woes and my moans and they have never judged me or my decisions. They have always supported me and bolstered my confidence. They are the constants in my life and I thank god, the spirits, the angels whoever for bringing them to me.
I do wonder though if I thank them enough? Probably not and ask yourself the same question we look to our friends to share the good times which are great because we know they enjoy those as well but what about when we share our not so good times? Do we go back when we are feeling better and say, "Hey thanks for being there for me, again I do appreciate it and love you for it." ? I don't think I do it anywhere near often enough.
So let me take this opportunity to say thank you so very much for being a part of my life - you are very dear to me and I do love you all - I don't say thank you often enough for all that you do for me but please remember that I do appreciate it and am truely blessed to have you all as friends
I must also apologise for shutting you out at times, like now when really i need you, but I am too hurt right now to talk or see anyone so i am drawing up the drawbridge and putting down the shutters - i may be back out there some time but it wont be any time soon.
I am not one to make friends easily .... well I don't think so .... you see I am fundamentally a shy person. I blush easily and can get very well uncomfortable in crowds. Part of that stems from being so small - in larger groups of people I tend to feel claustrophobic if I cant see which at my height I cant usually. So I began to avoid crowded places unless I could sit up higher and look beyond other peoples shoulders. Anyway whats this got to do with friends I hear you ask!! Well I am rambling again (something I am good at) but also trying to set the scene.
So you may say to yourself so you don't makes friends easily you have issues regarding you height hmmmm do you have any friends?? And Yes I do - I have quite a few friends. I may not see them on a regular basis but they are very dear to me.
So in my mind what makes a good friend?? Well for me the people in my life that I count as good friends are such because when the chips are down they are where? They are there for ME! I have one friend who drove a 200 mile round trip just to take me to lunch not so very long ago ..... what more could you ask for in a friend? My friends are there for me when I need them and I hope I am there for them. They make me laugh and they offer a shoulder to cry on when I need it. They have seen me through good times and laughed along with me and seen me through some very dark days when they have listened with endless patience and support and love to my woes and my moans and they have never judged me or my decisions. They have always supported me and bolstered my confidence. They are the constants in my life and I thank god, the spirits, the angels whoever for bringing them to me.
I do wonder though if I thank them enough? Probably not and ask yourself the same question we look to our friends to share the good times which are great because we know they enjoy those as well but what about when we share our not so good times? Do we go back when we are feeling better and say, "Hey thanks for being there for me, again I do appreciate it and love you for it." ? I don't think I do it anywhere near often enough.
So let me take this opportunity to say thank you so very much for being a part of my life - you are very dear to me and I do love you all - I don't say thank you often enough for all that you do for me but please remember that I do appreciate it and am truely blessed to have you all as friends
I must also apologise for shutting you out at times, like now when really i need you, but I am too hurt right now to talk or see anyone so i am drawing up the drawbridge and putting down the shutters - i may be back out there some time but it wont be any time soon.
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Comment by Riff Raff
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if you're down at the moment, your true friends will do all they can to help you up. the true test of a friendship is not how loudly you laugh together, but whether you're prepared to cry together.
are you afraid to reach out because you truly doubt whose hand will be there to grab yours? or do you know for sure that a friend will be there?
one of the great things about friendship is it's ability to make you laugh when you think you should be crying. it has that ability to take you from one headspace to another without you even realising it.
the problem with locking yourself away, is you lock yourself into your own headspace. that's the last thing you want to do when your down. call your friends. get into a shared headspace. divert your thoughts. breathe some fresh air.
you'll thank yourself for it.
Comment by Nickoftime's Sanity Corner
true friends will never get angry at you for you needing space and needing to be alone with your thoughts...
If they do, then they're NOT good friends...
Sometimes we tend to take unintentional advantage of close friends because we know they're never judge us or turn away when we need them..
Sometimes to that end, we neglect to thank them for being there for us...
I for one have never felt neglected or ignored by you...
You are a good, loyal and trustworthy friend...and I''ll love you the rest of my life...
Take care Scouse Wench,
I love you,
Nick