Unclaimed Baggage
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The great lyrical genius Chuck D of Public Enemy once said, "If you cant change the people around you, change the people around you". Now, that quote, as poetic as it is, is so multi-dimensional, that you can take it left, right, down the middle, up or down and still never come back to where you left, without being right or straight up the middle on where it took you. Of course there is much more than that said that was before and in the aftermath in that statement that resonated within me when I first heard many years ago, but that is the centerpiece on what I feel I need to vent to you today, so welcome back again, for tha first time. I guess what really hit home with me when I heard that the other day in my head, is that as I have been growing and maturing in ways I never thought I would, and I am noticing things changing with and within me and leaving me at the same time. You know like the ole saying says, "Three or four things can and will change a man, 1) jail, 2) church, 3) death or 4) a child". Well I think I am free on bail for a while and have been for many years (smile), I have always considered myself a good Christian and man of faith, I am not dead I do not think, but yeah, I do have Tha Heir, bugging the hell outta me on a regular basis, so maybe thats what is happening (smile again). But I am changing, and for some strange reason, it either seems like I am changing, or the people I am around, staying the same in a different way. I do not think the change on my part or others is good or bad, but as the world keeps spinning, I think gravity is pushing to pull me, somewhere magical. I even ask and answer questions differently, and I am not sure if I got any smarter or wiser, or just noticing things more and spending less time worrying about tha shit that will never be worth pissing on from this point forward. But anyway, this Phenomenal Woman recently asked me, "Do men really like or are they seriously attracted to women that are barely dressed and showcase their body more than their mind". Well I think thats a fair question, and seeing how I am a man that was once only a male, felt and deeply feel qualified in answering it, since she freely asked. Now to me, there are many parts to that question, and for the most part, I think it is where a man is at in his life, what he finds stimulating, how he feels about himself and how he feels about women and females in his own perception on what he sees. Now for me, hell yeah, I love looking at a woman with a cute face or bangin body, barely showing clothing and shaking and using what her mama gave her to get attention, I do not have a problem with it. Now in saying that, when I was younger and did not know any better, and was only thinking with one head, or at least half of that one, she was tha bomb as far as I was concerned, and I honestly did not give a woman with a good conversation a chance to say anything to me because simply, that was not what I was looking for. But then after running through those "types" of women like water through a water hose, I found that in the majority of cases, everything stopped after I could not get pass how I got them or what made me go after them in the first place. I guess you can say that the bait I used to use to get and catch those fish, was and is not the bait I use now, to keep them. Now I am not saying they were dumb, stupid or anything like that, and to be fair, many felt that was a way to get a man not knowing they are simply males, and more than likely, learned it from the examples they had growing up in their lives. And its true, the "hot chick" in tha spot will always get you to look and the attention I think, and for them, at least in my experience, may get a few winks and drinks, jewels, things and interest. But to me and knowing what I know now, its pretty hard to keep a man of substance when the way you got him, is based on style and flash. What I laugh at is when I am out with a woman, and how you can see the jealousy in how she reacts to women doing a little bit, too much. To me, it silently speaks volumes when I see someone hating on someone else, and basically tells me things without a word being said. In my humble opinion, I truly feel that men eventually, will date someone like the most influential woman in their life, and that could be their sister, mother, guardian or someone they grew attached to and respected. Thats just one avenue I think is fair to say, pretty much accurate, as I also feel there are many more branches to that tree, I may not know. But overall, hell yeah, there is not a man I know or do not know, that does not mind "looking" at women scantly dressed, but will also tell you, there is a low percentage that would take them home to mama, or introduce them to their core group the way he seen her at first in that outfit that barely covered her nipples or ass. Now some things can not be hidden and rightfully so, but some things should not be hidden, as they also should not be displayed. But for me, I actually prefer seeing women when I am out and about dress like that, for if nothing else, its entertainment, and alerts me on who not to go after, when or if I was looking for a woman to share my time with. Its not really an image thing for me, but like Paris of EPMD said, "If you hang with nine broke friends, you are bound to be the tenth one". So if nothing else, at least for my reputation and what I wish to represent, I may slip a woman dressed or displaying her intentions like that my number on tha unda, not my business card, but on a napkin the run down. I will more than likely have her meet me outside and take her to my condo or to Tha Mo-Mo and hit and freak it on tha under if I am feelin like I need that in my life and its worth it. But trust me, she will never be riding shotgun with my top down in tha Benz or over to the house for a bar-b-que or dinner event with my family and friends when the foundation, is based on something cosmetic and presented on a surface level. I mean I disagree with Dr. Dre, I think you can turn a hoe into a house wife, but only if that house is made of glass and you can look at yourself at the same time you are looking at what you brought home. And granted, that is now, at this time in my life, but can honestly tell you, it was not always like that or this. Hell, if there ever was a hoochie high school, I used to be the principal, so I ca not put it down, for once, it was what I was up for. You see like my grandmother once told me, "There is a time and place for everything", and if she shows the "goods" to the good and bad people that do and do not know her, then what is left for me when I do get to know her to absorb and savior when I want to sample the "goods" and wanna feel better than good in a bad way? Better yet, I could be guilty by association, so when and if you do anything, do it in knowing, it may do you in ways you never knew because you never know, what you do not know until you know it. And that can sometimes be, too late. So in knowing all of that now, I then told the woman that asked me the initial question, "Think about where you may see a woman dressed like this or that. Think of the environment, the surroundings and more", which is where and when the line / statement Chuck D said, came in my mind. And his statement is not about trying to control or change people into what you think they should be, but it is about being aware and taking in consideration, the situation and views you may not see. So yeah, "If you cant change the people around you, change the people around you", and if that does not work, work on something else, or at least, have it work for you, cause someone will buy it.
So now this leads us into another arena, where one needs to ask, "Is perception, really, reality or a blind nightmare?" I mean really, how much of what we see, is really what it is or what we want to make it? Thats something I thought about the other night, when I seen The T.O. Show, and thought, why is this man doing this? I mean yeah, he is gifted athletically, has a body like a Greek God, good looking, paid, well paid by his efforts, can do what he sure and well pleases and more. But when I seen him renting out Hollywood homes, renting Bentleys, partying at high-end plush spots in South Beach and Los Angeles and more, I knew and know for a fact, he has the bread to butter it up like this, but why I ask myself? Was this to beef up his already popular reputation, is he insecure or what, because if it is and to me in my opinion and living that lifestyle to the fullest, its strictly overkill at this point, and super sizing a Happy Meal for no apparent reason. I mean maybe he invested his millions from The Dallas Cowboys bad, and needs to make some extra bread for a raining day or because he could? I was simply perplexed when I seen this the other day, as I start thinking, hell, why not if people are going to watch it? But how much of that is real and how much of that is show I wonder? I mean take Brett Michaels and my man Ray J for example. There is no way they have that much bread saved up to live the way they are doing on television, and in all reality, how many of those women, really were into them, the person, or the character they portray in their floundering profession? Are they really like this in real life, and if so, does it take Rock Of Love #14 to find that person that is there for you on season number 3? How many chicks do you have to do to find out what is what I start asking myself, as I looked into the mirror and realized, I have had my own reality show doing the exact same thing, but it just was not televised for many to see. But is this real or simply, entertainment I wonder. I mean everyone can have their opinion, but all in all, no one really knows but the people themselves, and they themselves, were no where around before the show, so that leans me towards the show affect over reality and how I define it. But how much of this is show and how much are they showing me is my question. What will get my attention to wonder, and what will keep me from not looking, is another point of view I am now seeing. Hell, I know Flavor Flav physically is not the most handsome man in a world of ugly ones. The man has child support issues, been out of the spotlight and more. But that does not discount him as a bonafide man, and a man looking for love, or does it, when he goes on television claiming that is why he is on there? I mean what ever happened to meeting women in church, walking down the street, at the supermarket or in a meat market over a few cocktails? I mean I ask you and myself, is television and the internet the new meeting place to interact? If you go back to what I was just talking about, maybe what he and every other person that has a reality show is and was doing, was doing what the women wearing barely nothing in tha nightspots were doing, and did not know how to do it any other way to get attention or a few gifts and fame. Maybe this was an avenue he felt might work, and if so, who can blame him? Maybe deep down after the little bit of clothing is lifted behind doors, a person can find more than what they seen. Maybe you can find that needle in the haystack, and instantly transform into Optimus Prime on a television screen, if you get that blowjob in the backseat of a limo. I mean are all women that dress like freaks, freaks, or can a conservatively well dressed woman, be just as freaky or a undercova lova unda tha covers, once you take off that business suit I wonder. Its that wolf in sheeps clothing myth that may be fact, that I am talking about right now. And how you never really know until you find out, and one can only hope that when and if they do, they selected the right door if, The Price Is Right to claim that Unclaimed Baggage.
So now let me ask you women reading this, and answer this in three stages. Answer it on where you were a few years ago, where you are at now and where you see yourself in five years. Okay, now when you see a male, guy, boy or man dressed a certain way, how do you describe the word, sexy, handsome, cute, fine or outrageously tacky? I mean when you see a man with his shirt off, showing off his six pack or keg, does it turn you on or off, and if so or not, to what degree and in which oven does it heat you up? Do you admire his physical craftsmanship, or do you simply window shop and place him in a box with the others you have stored and thought about from time to time when you need that stimulation you cant talk about? Or when you see a man in a well-tapered suit, do you assume he is all about business, or trying a bit, too hard to make a point? Now me, I have an athletic build, and wont claim to workout as much as I should, but because my metabolism is so high and I am always on the go, I tend to burn off the fat and calories naturally. But I can not recall myself, every boasting my chest or abs for the hell of it. I think the last time I took a photo with my clothes off, was for the cover of my biography that is due to come out soon, but thats because the title is called, "Half Naked, Not Nearly Dressed" and we needed both halves of my body to mesh into one with my clothes on and off. But I also like to dress well, well at least I think so, and layer myself in outfits that are custom made to subtly make a fashion statement I wish to display. Like my man Jigga once said, "I do not wear the bright watch, I were the right watch", and for me, that could never be more true. For if you do not really k now me and upon first viewing me, I would wager that many think I am either a playboy, prominent businessman or someone they think they should know that is trying to be what he is not. And if you did get to know me, what you would know is that I am pretty much all of those, but in all actuality, none of them. Am I a freak, well that all depends on how you define freaky, as to ask the same question on the other end, in wondering, how conservative am I. I think when you sum us all up as people, we all are a bit of everything, and only when we feel comfortable or in a setting or surrounding where we feel we can be ourselves or who we wish to be, does that allow that person, to surface. So for me, I prefer that woman that is the soccer mom slut type. The seductive looking stay at home mom, that on tha unda, can suck a golf ball through a straw if asked, and will cook dinner, serve me dessert wearing a simple dress with no panties if you know what I mean, and give me that wink that lets me know that later on, its on like Donkey Kong, so drink plenty of water or Gatorade, cause in a few, I am going to need to put in some work. But some things are safe when you feel safe or adventurous, as others may be dangerous when in its self, can sometimes be stimulating or a test, to see who will see past the wall of physicality we place up when wish for the conqueror to conquer and or climb it. I know many exotic dancers that are so conservative, that you would wonder, are they part time nuns or simply jaded from being around a sexual environment so much, that they are tired of it and seek purity in a world of sin. And on the other end, intimately know well-educated women that will fuck the hell out of you in an elevator, without thinking twice. So who is to say who others are, because we all are the same, in a different way, in my opinion. So the question is, what is real and what is fake? Is reality television, really what it is, or what we wish to make it out to be. I mean think of the women and men that we pass up because we think one thing, but they may be, another, if we were to become something we are not. Think of yourself, the roads you have traveled, the ones you wonder about and the ones you leave behind and does not invite you for whatever reason. Think of the things we forget, as we remember why certain things make us, who we are and who we are not. I have even thought about the many times I have been so close that I could smell it, as I can also remember the times I wish I could forget, in trying to be the person I know I needed to be to be who I wanted to become. So yeah, in many ways and many more times, I have been on the right train but on the wrong track many times, as I have been on the wrong track and on the right train just as much. But as I was traveling through life, maturing and trying to find what I actually needed in life, what I actually left behind, is what I brought with me, because yeah, life is a trip and you cant run from yourself. Life is a trip I always say, so it is wise in my opinion, to pack light, because you will accumulate baggage at each stop. Some of it good, some bad, but regardless on what you leave and what you take, there will always be, things. And that is what I call, Unclaimed Baggage -
May All Be With You As You Are Within It. Enjoy The Moment -
Anthony Douglas Gere
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