"Trying NOT to get in the middle!!"
May 21st 2007 21:33
Too far away to do anything about it anyway!!! my daughter Krystina called upset. her dad just took Chris's [my sons car] from her and left her and her man stranded at the vet office. The car is Chris's, a present for his 17th birthday but he just has his permit. me and their dad had agreed when they where born, taht we'd each buy one of them a car. her dads rebuilding her a sweet mustang, but it's not done yet. with chris just ahving his permit, we came up with the agreement that she would take the car half of the 7.5 weeks down there since she has no way of getting around and has friends and family to see, and chris would take it half, with his dad for driving practice. well when i called chris and her dad to see whats going on, he said he took it because 1. she said she was going to her grandmas but went to her boyfriends in the 'Basically like the Brox", he's looking out for chri's almost brand new car. they have a siter taht took her boyfriends new car there just a little while back and the windows where all busted out, the car was stripped. pluss its not a white place and she is maybe not safe there. theres also the issue with the boyfriend that dad doesn't aprove. i sooo understand her dads issues, but i look at this relationship with her and him a little differnet. she loves him and i think people change and wether i ok her to see him or not, she's going to see him. she likes bad boys. lots of women do. she's 19 and is the age where she gets to choose. he's done some things but they where spread out, with lots of great things in the middle.
her and her father are on the phone now. i asked hubby what we should do. she said she wants to come home NOW. i do believe it will all work out and she'll stay but just incase not, "What to do. my son needs to stay with his dad seven weeks. she doesn't want to. so we worked out taht chris will giver her his car and she'll drive home. in 7 weeks i'll drive back down and get him, or fly him home. so now it's a waiting game.
"What do you do!!!" <throws up hands and rolls eyes with a little giggle> i try and support my kids, UNLESS i see something REALY bad for myself. not sure if the boyfriends comming with her if she comes. i'm trying to see both sides, her dads and her own. i see good reason on both sides. she has her own place on our land here and sometimes thats the best thing in the world for her. she's had sooo much drama for this trip there anyway. her step mom said she couldn't stay there because she wanted to bring her little puppy. Then her best friend said the same thing. she was crying two days before she even went. she feels like she has no place down there anymore, except mayb with her man and she's not even sure about that anymore. one minute he's moving back in with her here, the next he's not. she's known him for ten years. he has ALOT of family there and leaving them isn't easy.
i can't fix everything!!! i can't make other peoples choices although as a mom you sometimes wish you could. <grins> not even sure in this case what i'd choose. not good taking the car there. we pay four hundred a month on the thing and i don't wnat it all busted up. we have insurance ofcourse, but it's just the idea. i'm also worried about her safety there too. This is sooo the reaosn we moved away from that entire area. too much drama. it wasn't like taht when i grew up there. when i met hubby we moved about three towns away, to a small, perfect, story book town. now here in PA we moved into an even smaller story book town. i like life here. no drama except when they all head there every summer. <grins> a mom has to worry the whole time they are there.
ok,i'm off to get some sunshine. see if help is needed for tilling.
Tammy
i can't fix everything!!! i can't make other peoples choices although as a mom you sometimes wish you could. <grins> not even sure in this case what i'd choose. not good taking the car there. we pay four hundred a month on the thing and i don't wnat it all busted up. we have insurance ofcourse, but it's just the idea. i'm also worried about her safety there too. This is sooo the reaosn we moved away from that entire area. too much drama. it wasn't like taht when i grew up there. when i met hubby we moved about three towns away, to a small, perfect, story book town. now here in PA we moved into an even smaller story book town. i like life here. no drama except when they all head there every summer. <grins> a mom has to worry the whole time they are there.
ok,i'm off to get some sunshine. see if help is needed for tilling.
Tammy
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Comment by Ash
Australian Traveller
Flashes of memories
my sister left 4 years ago over something similar to do with parental disagreement over her choice of man... I haven`t seen or spoken to her since then and my parents tried to see her but she wasn`t interested so now we have no contact. It`s something my parents regret and unfortunatley have had to deal with the hard way....
children are very difficult aren`t they?
I hope all turns out well in your situation.
ash
Comment by charliesgirl_992000
Histeries, Mysteries and what not
Lifes little slices
Mystical Creativity
Thanks, Tammy
Comment by Nickoftime's Sanity Corner
hmmm, kinda torn on this one, but what DO you do in a situation like that?
Only thing you can do is listen to your daughter bitch and whine about it on the phone...
I wish you luck!
Take care,
Nick
Comment by charliesgirl_992000
Histeries, Mysteries and what not
Lifes little slices
Mystical Creativity
her and her dad worked it out. he went and picked her up, but left the boyfriend, for his own family to pick him up. her dad said if she takes him back, he will wash his hands of her. i told her he probably doesn't totally mean it, he's just saying it, hoping she'll be scared and believe it and not take him back. <smiles> tough love! he adores her and just wants to protect her. i'm supporting her either way. so i'm still waiting to see if he's comming back or not. i don't care either way. i just can't wiat until she comes back. her and my son Chris. she may come home early because she has no where to stay. not since she has her puppy. makes me sad that her family and friends down there won't take her, pup and all. i don't like cats too much. i don't hate them, i'm just weird about them, but she has two and i have three. i sooo didn't wnat her getting Sabastion, but she wanted him, and so i let her. she's grown and has her own place next to my home. he's always here and i knew he would be. but she LOVES animals. i support that love. she wanted to be a vet, but she said the schooling is wayyy too long.s he's going for Medical Assistant instead. she loves that too.
Tammy