The Blame Game
January 26th 2007 06:09
I haven't had much to be inspired about lately. I've been reading, writing, and doing everything I can do focus myself on something other than myself. I hear stories from friends back home. These stories always involve others. It was HIS fault, SHE did it, and on and on.
The blame game started with Adam. When questioned by God, Adam states, "It was the woman that YOU created(emphasis added by me
. We, none of us want to blame ourselves for things that go wrong in our lives. When we have children and something happens we hurriedly blame their friends. When something happens in a marriage it's HIS fault. When do we learn accountability? It isn't taught in school. I don't remember learning it as a child although someone might have tried.
I'm not throwing stones. I've thrown them before. I blamed my ex-husband when the company fell apart, well, it was HIS fault! I blamed him when he took off with our daughter. HE did. I blamed that guy for beating me up and throwing me under the trailer. He did those things. I think I've blamed everyone that I've ever even become closely associated if something has gone wrong in my little world.
It's only been recently that I've had to look in the mirror and learn personal accountability. I made choices. Whether they were right or wrong, I made them. I can't blame anyone for the condition I'm in or the state I'm living in or the fact that I hate emergency rooms, closed in places and heights. I can't blame my daughter if she spills the milk if I'm the one that gave it to her.
No, not everything is MY fault but when I make choices, decisions, face problems, or anything else that comes my way it won't do anyone any good if I blame them. It won't solve the problem. Nothing will change it will only remain if we don't look in the mirror and say, "you did this to yourself". Hey, it's at least a start, right?
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The blame game started with Adam. When questioned by God, Adam states, "It was the woman that YOU created(emphasis added by me
. We, none of us want to blame ourselves for things that go wrong in our lives. When we have children and something happens we hurriedly blame their friends. When something happens in a marriage it's HIS fault. When do we learn accountability? It isn't taught in school. I don't remember learning it as a child although someone might have tried.I'm not throwing stones. I've thrown them before. I blamed my ex-husband when the company fell apart, well, it was HIS fault! I blamed him when he took off with our daughter. HE did. I blamed that guy for beating me up and throwing me under the trailer. He did those things. I think I've blamed everyone that I've ever even become closely associated if something has gone wrong in my little world.
It's only been recently that I've had to look in the mirror and learn personal accountability. I made choices. Whether they were right or wrong, I made them. I can't blame anyone for the condition I'm in or the state I'm living in or the fact that I hate emergency rooms, closed in places and heights. I can't blame my daughter if she spills the milk if I'm the one that gave it to her.
No, not everything is MY fault but when I make choices, decisions, face problems, or anything else that comes my way it won't do anyone any good if I blame them. It won't solve the problem. Nothing will change it will only remain if we don't look in the mirror and say, "you did this to yourself". Hey, it's at least a start, right?
Posted: Jan 25, 2007Add Comment Share Delete Edit Add to My Favorites Submit to be Fea
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