Sometimes Progress is not Intelligently Planned
July 17th 2008 03:58
One of my favorite quotes is
Leonardo Da Vinci accomplished amazing things. Of course, back then, there were 24 hours in a day. --Anonymous
This quote got me to thinking of numerous conversations my wandering friend and I have had regarding the excuse of busyiness. Someone is always having to have the "biggest sandwich of busy". Readers you know what I mean....the "no-one-is-as-busy-as-me" talk. When describing their busy lives, the speaker leaves the listener glazed over and without the will to live.
This begs us to widen our perspective. Do we really listen to others? Do we hurry past others emotionally with a blend of guilt and irritation and promise ourselves to listen better or be a better friend next time? Or are we annoyed by the unbidden demand of others on our time? Do we "pretend to care" just to be polite? Does our decision change depending on our mood or on our guesstimated time of engagement with another.....ie: partner problems take longer to explain than pet antics. What's the moral mathematics of these moments?
So is it me or in spite of a glut of "labor-saving" inventions and the growth of production efficiencies we have little time left to grow healthy relationships with others? Robert Harris has an idea. He believes that these are some of the culprits in today's society:
1. Poor Choice Management. Much has been written about proper time management, but sometimes the advice focuses merely on making more efficient use of time: do two tasks at once, get up earlier, delegate everything. Such advice does not really effectively address the problem of too many tasks. In fact, too much emphasis on time management makes one obsessive, always watching the clock and thinking about what task is scheduled next. So perhaps the nervousness over time management should give way to a more thoughtful care about choice management. Manage your life, not your time. Modern society suffers from an unwillingness to say, "No." Faced with too many options and too much pressure, we respond with too many yesses. We are afraid to deny to others or to ourselves the many opportunities, the many options, we face daily. But everything we choose requires Use Time. We buy cable TV, a computer (with an Internet connection!), a model railroad set, a magazine subscription--and all cry out to be used and use requires time. There is an old proverb somewhere that says, "To accomplish more, do less."
2. Inefficient Learning. We rush through things, learn them partially, and must repeat the work. Or what was learned gets pushed out by too much other new information. We have yet to accommodate our ideas of education to the information age. With the aggregate of knowledge doubling annually (someone has guessed), we can no longer expect to cover everything. Yet we try. The fabric of learning that is a hundred miles wide and about as deep as a sheet of paper is not going to be useful. Slow down, and learn a few lasting things.
3. Fewer Support Structures. We do more of our own secretarial work, have fewer helpers, less delegation. Sometimes support workers are not as dependable or committed and cannot be relied on to do a good job. People are so busy with their own tasks that they no longer help us with ours.
4. Higher Expectations. Rather than having more leisure time, we have less because we expect to do more and others expect us to do more. We try to match the pace of a fast society. This is related to poor choice management, since we want it all and want to do everything, thus raising our expectations for activity. "Ah, tomorrow is Saturday, a day for leisure. Let's go to the amusement park in the morning, a movie in the afternoon, and to dinner with our friends in the evening. Then we will still have time to see that video, check our mail, and watch the news before bed."
5. The Freeway Effect: We are so overloaded and tired that we get less done. We waste time frittering and procrastinating because we are too tired (mentally, physically, or both) to get ourselves working. When the number of cars passes the optimal that can travel on the freeway efficiently, traffic slows down into a jam and many fewer cars can travel on the freeway. If 6,000 an hour try, 6,000 an hour can travel, but if 10,000 an hour try, only 4,000 an hour can travel.
6. The Smorgasbord Effect. Our choices are like a smorgasbord at a restaurant, so many, that we try to take a little of each and thus overload our plates. We need to return to the restaurant model, where we make a deliberate choice, and then enjoy a fixed amount of food. It has been noted by someone that we are often afraid to make deliberate choices because we realize that every choice precludes others.
7. Maintenance Time Costs. The products we buy require maintenance time. Computers, cars, VCR's, copiers, all need attention. The more items we have, the more time we spend maintaining or taking care of them--not using them. Cars, for example, need gas, oil, washing, servicing, tires, batteries. Every nifty computer program or add-on we buy requires substantial time to learn and to use. Want to become a slave? Just buy one of those personal accounting programs that requires you to enter every financial event in your life into the computer.
8. The Change Effect. We live in constant change. The psychological stress of change can be dealt with, but the main effect of change is a time expenditure for a learning curve. New software, a new car, a new VCR, a detour to work, new rules to follow, all require time to learn.
Well Mr. Harris you left one possibility out:
When you avoid contact with people by sanctimoniously lecturing them on how busy you are, it’s disrespectful. What you are saying in essence is that the person to whom you are speaking has no understanding of what it’s like to be as “busy” as you are. (The message is "I am magnanimous to even deign to have the "I am so busy" discussion with you.) Why can’t people come out and tell you they are no longer interested. I guess these bastards must have important tasks to get back to such as completing their cure for cancer.
Leonardo Da Vinci accomplished amazing things. Of course, back then, there were 24 hours in a day. --Anonymous
This quote got me to thinking of numerous conversations my wandering friend and I have had regarding the excuse of busyiness. Someone is always having to have the "biggest sandwich of busy". Readers you know what I mean....the "no-one-is-as-busy-as-me" talk. When describing their busy lives, the speaker leaves the listener glazed over and without the will to live.
This begs us to widen our perspective. Do we really listen to others? Do we hurry past others emotionally with a blend of guilt and irritation and promise ourselves to listen better or be a better friend next time? Or are we annoyed by the unbidden demand of others on our time? Do we "pretend to care" just to be polite? Does our decision change depending on our mood or on our guesstimated time of engagement with another.....ie: partner problems take longer to explain than pet antics. What's the moral mathematics of these moments?
So is it me or in spite of a glut of "labor-saving" inventions and the growth of production efficiencies we have little time left to grow healthy relationships with others? Robert Harris has an idea. He believes that these are some of the culprits in today's society:
1. Poor Choice Management. Much has been written about proper time management, but sometimes the advice focuses merely on making more efficient use of time: do two tasks at once, get up earlier, delegate everything. Such advice does not really effectively address the problem of too many tasks. In fact, too much emphasis on time management makes one obsessive, always watching the clock and thinking about what task is scheduled next. So perhaps the nervousness over time management should give way to a more thoughtful care about choice management. Manage your life, not your time. Modern society suffers from an unwillingness to say, "No." Faced with too many options and too much pressure, we respond with too many yesses. We are afraid to deny to others or to ourselves the many opportunities, the many options, we face daily. But everything we choose requires Use Time. We buy cable TV, a computer (with an Internet connection!), a model railroad set, a magazine subscription--and all cry out to be used and use requires time. There is an old proverb somewhere that says, "To accomplish more, do less."
2. Inefficient Learning. We rush through things, learn them partially, and must repeat the work. Or what was learned gets pushed out by too much other new information. We have yet to accommodate our ideas of education to the information age. With the aggregate of knowledge doubling annually (someone has guessed), we can no longer expect to cover everything. Yet we try. The fabric of learning that is a hundred miles wide and about as deep as a sheet of paper is not going to be useful. Slow down, and learn a few lasting things.
3. Fewer Support Structures. We do more of our own secretarial work, have fewer helpers, less delegation. Sometimes support workers are not as dependable or committed and cannot be relied on to do a good job. People are so busy with their own tasks that they no longer help us with ours.
4. Higher Expectations. Rather than having more leisure time, we have less because we expect to do more and others expect us to do more. We try to match the pace of a fast society. This is related to poor choice management, since we want it all and want to do everything, thus raising our expectations for activity. "Ah, tomorrow is Saturday, a day for leisure. Let's go to the amusement park in the morning, a movie in the afternoon, and to dinner with our friends in the evening. Then we will still have time to see that video, check our mail, and watch the news before bed."
5. The Freeway Effect: We are so overloaded and tired that we get less done. We waste time frittering and procrastinating because we are too tired (mentally, physically, or both) to get ourselves working. When the number of cars passes the optimal that can travel on the freeway efficiently, traffic slows down into a jam and many fewer cars can travel on the freeway. If 6,000 an hour try, 6,000 an hour can travel, but if 10,000 an hour try, only 4,000 an hour can travel.
6. The Smorgasbord Effect. Our choices are like a smorgasbord at a restaurant, so many, that we try to take a little of each and thus overload our plates. We need to return to the restaurant model, where we make a deliberate choice, and then enjoy a fixed amount of food. It has been noted by someone that we are often afraid to make deliberate choices because we realize that every choice precludes others.
7. Maintenance Time Costs. The products we buy require maintenance time. Computers, cars, VCR's, copiers, all need attention. The more items we have, the more time we spend maintaining or taking care of them--not using them. Cars, for example, need gas, oil, washing, servicing, tires, batteries. Every nifty computer program or add-on we buy requires substantial time to learn and to use. Want to become a slave? Just buy one of those personal accounting programs that requires you to enter every financial event in your life into the computer.
8. The Change Effect. We live in constant change. The psychological stress of change can be dealt with, but the main effect of change is a time expenditure for a learning curve. New software, a new car, a new VCR, a detour to work, new rules to follow, all require time to learn.
Well Mr. Harris you left one possibility out:
When you avoid contact with people by sanctimoniously lecturing them on how busy you are, it’s disrespectful. What you are saying in essence is that the person to whom you are speaking has no understanding of what it’s like to be as “busy” as you are. (The message is "I am magnanimous to even deign to have the "I am so busy" discussion with you.) Why can’t people come out and tell you they are no longer interested. I guess these bastards must have important tasks to get back to such as completing their cure for cancer.
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Comment by Urban Panther
Maintenance Time Costs - for a whole year I had a PVR to record TV shows. Everyone kept telling me I had to have one. You'll never miss your favourite show again, and you save time by not watching commercials. I ended up actually accomplishing less, because I recorded all these shows, just because I could. Now, we don't even have cable, and I maybe watch 2 hours of TV per week. And I don't miss it at all.
We can all get wrapped up in being too busy, and brush people off. I am as guilty as the next guy. But now when I catch myself getting impatient, and give myself a mental slap and dedicate myself to the moment and the person. The dishes can wait, and they aren't going anywhere. The same can't be said about humans.
Comment by Miswanderlust
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Maintenance Time Costs - for a whole year I had a PVR to record TV shows. Everyone kept telling me I had to have one. You'll never miss your favourite show again, and you save time by not watching commercials. I ended up actually accomplishing less, because I recorded all these shows, just because I could. Now, we don't even have cable, and I maybe watch 2 hours of TV per week. And I don't miss it at all.
Oh I am such a PVR whore. I really have to work hard on reducing my inclination to watch TV. What has helped is an active social and work life so I do not have time to watch a lot of TV so many of my recorded shows have rolled off the recorder. Congrats on pulling the plug. I admire your tenacity.
Mis