Some reasons why dating doesn't work
July 22nd 2010 09:10
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1. Your list of what you want in a partner prevents you from actually "being" with the people you meet, so relationship can't develop.You have a relationship with your comparative list instead of a person. Also, checking each other out keeps you in your head and out of your heart where love lives.
2. You are so busy trying to impress each other that authenticity goes out the window. Relationship can't build when people are hiding, pretending, trying, etc. Relationship flows when people are honest and real.
3. You think who you see on a date is who the other person really is. But it isn't. So you miss out on who this person could be or might be. People are not rigid and fixed.
4. You think how they are now is how they always are and always will be. But people are not rigid and fixed.They are ever changing and evolving and becoming.
5. Judging and loving can't exist in the same space so there is no way to feel or develop love with someone you are judging. When you judge someone, you lock them up into your story about them. Real love lives inside no story.
6. Your fear of getting hurt or creating another failed relationship produces anxiety, which has you act weird.
7. Finding a partner is futile. Relationship is not a thing to find.
8. Wanting a relationship prevents you from having one, so unfortunately, the more you long for a relationship, the more relationship can't show up. Wanting and having can't exist in the same space.
9. Your identification as a single person keeps you stuck in a single mindset; from here, you cannot be in relationship.
10. You feel victimized and hopeless in the relationship department, expect to be disappointed and are, because whatever you expect to see you get more of.
2. You are so busy trying to impress each other that authenticity goes out the window. Relationship can't build when people are hiding, pretending, trying, etc. Relationship flows when people are honest and real.
3. You think who you see on a date is who the other person really is. But it isn't. So you miss out on who this person could be or might be. People are not rigid and fixed.
4. You think how they are now is how they always are and always will be. But people are not rigid and fixed.They are ever changing and evolving and becoming.
5. Judging and loving can't exist in the same space so there is no way to feel or develop love with someone you are judging. When you judge someone, you lock them up into your story about them. Real love lives inside no story.
6. Your fear of getting hurt or creating another failed relationship produces anxiety, which has you act weird.
7. Finding a partner is futile. Relationship is not a thing to find.
8. Wanting a relationship prevents you from having one, so unfortunately, the more you long for a relationship, the more relationship can't show up. Wanting and having can't exist in the same space.
9. Your identification as a single person keeps you stuck in a single mindset; from here, you cannot be in relationship.
10. You feel victimized and hopeless in the relationship department, expect to be disappointed and are, because whatever you expect to see you get more of.
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