Sexless Blogger needs HELP!
September 28th 2007 21:40
Ok, so here's the problem...
We have decided to meet in December, for an entire weekend.
Which is fine. Fucking crazy also...but fine.
I mean REALLY! What happens if we hate eachother? Certainly we're not trapped for the entire weekend.
Although I refuse to have fatalistic thoughts.
I can't imagine my life without this man in it, somehow.
For us to meet...and decide "Uhhh nope, she/he aint the one for me".
Would just be BEYOND weird. After so many months of growing into one another.....
I digress....
Anyway, he's flying in to see me.
And we've discussed how and where to meet.
Coffee is WAY to normal. We're both a bit mad CLEARLY.
In a bar...is just too weird. Too date-ish....too much like what normal people do.....not two people who've been communicating for 9 months and know EVERYTHING about one another.
(And I do mean EVERYTHING)
lol
So I suggest...(now hear me out) - that we meet in the dark hotel room...have passionate wild sex first...and then talk later.
Strangely, I am completely comfortable with this idea. Somehow feeling as if the tension and pressure will be released first....and then we can dabble with the "Oh my god, you're way fatter/shorter than I thought!"
lolol
He thinks this idea is magnificent of course (my male friends think I'm fucking insane)
But now we have a problem.....because I guess, off aforementioned 'sex site' - he met a girl in a hotel room, after exchanging a couple of emails....and she had said she was 'average' sized.
She turned up in hotel room looking like Gilbert Grapes mother (have you seen this movie) - she was HUGE.
And there's nothing wrong with huge.
It's the lying that seemed to piss him off most.
So it was, by all accounts, a disaster.
And I have been paranoid about this now. I already have some body issues....only because HE has made such a big deal about not wanting to be with HUGE people. And I get it, I know attraction is really important...and of course we've both seen several pictures of eachother...and we ARE attracted to one another.
But I can't help thinking.....what if this smart, clever, witty man...who I've come to really care for....thinks I'M too big?
A size 14-16-ish aint exactly small. But I don't rival Gilbert Grapes mother either.
So I find myself revolting against the 'dark hotel room' idea because I don't want it to be a disaster.....AGAIN.
So what do we do???
Where do we meet?
We're too close to just have a drink.
We're too involved for coffee...
And I would like to get laid. Several times over this weekend with him.
Is the hotel room a bad idea?
I mean really?
I'm not a serial internet dater people...I've never done this before.
But somehow, with him, it feels right.
I don't know.
HELP ME!!!!
Jo
We have decided to meet in December, for an entire weekend.
Which is fine. Fucking crazy also...but fine.
I mean REALLY! What happens if we hate eachother? Certainly we're not trapped for the entire weekend.
Although I refuse to have fatalistic thoughts.
I can't imagine my life without this man in it, somehow.
For us to meet...and decide "Uhhh nope, she/he aint the one for me".
Would just be BEYOND weird. After so many months of growing into one another.....
I digress....
Anyway, he's flying in to see me.
And we've discussed how and where to meet.
In a bar...is just too weird. Too date-ish....too much like what normal people do.....not two people who've been communicating for 9 months and know EVERYTHING about one another.
(And I do mean EVERYTHING)
lol
So I suggest...(now hear me out) - that we meet in the dark hotel room...have passionate wild sex first...and then talk later.
Strangely, I am completely comfortable with this idea. Somehow feeling as if the tension and pressure will be released first....and then we can dabble with the "Oh my god, you're way fatter/shorter than I thought!"
lolol
He thinks this idea is magnificent of course (my male friends think I'm fucking insane)
But now we have a problem.....because I guess, off aforementioned 'sex site' - he met a girl in a hotel room, after exchanging a couple of emails....and she had said she was 'average' sized.
She turned up in hotel room looking like Gilbert Grapes mother (have you seen this movie) - she was HUGE.
And there's nothing wrong with huge.
It's the lying that seemed to piss him off most.
So it was, by all accounts, a disaster.
And I have been paranoid about this now. I already have some body issues....only because HE has made such a big deal about not wanting to be with HUGE people. And I get it, I know attraction is really important...and of course we've both seen several pictures of eachother...and we ARE attracted to one another.
But I can't help thinking.....what if this smart, clever, witty man...who I've come to really care for....thinks I'M too big?
A size 14-16-ish aint exactly small. But I don't rival Gilbert Grapes mother either.
So I find myself revolting against the 'dark hotel room' idea because I don't want it to be a disaster.....AGAIN.
So what do we do???
Where do we meet?
We're too close to just have a drink.
We're too involved for coffee...
And I would like to get laid. Several times over this weekend with him.
Is the hotel room a bad idea?
I mean really?
I'm not a serial internet dater people...I've never done this before.
But somehow, with him, it feels right.
I don't know.
HELP ME!!!!
Jo
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Comment by CoreyM
Obviously you have some issues about your weight. Before meeting with him I sugest that you clear up those issues and do something to feel good about yourself.
You mentioned in there that you just want to get. What I sugest is to go and do that. Go and get as much as you can. The more you get the more comfortable you will feel with yourself.
I'm sure that you have some male friends who could help you out for a few nights.
Also, be cautious with internet dating. Make sure that you tell someone when are where you are meeting him - Just incase something goes wrong.
CM
Comment by Jo 3
Sexless Blogger
I actually said to my internet guy ages ago that I should just go and get laid. I NEED to go and get laid..with anyone...it doesn't matter who.
lolol
But I can't - for some reason my libido is directly linked to my heart and my brain.
I can't do casual sex. I never have been able to.
I need to care about the person I'm giving myself to...and I need to know he cares about me too.
I don't need to love them....just like, and respect them.
Plenty of my male friends have offered, believe me. And we laugh about it...but I couldn't sleep with one of my friends!!! If I had wanted to 'go there' I would have...many years ago!
lolol It would just be TOO weird.
Don't worry - three of my male friends know I'm meeting this guy and they will all have the contact, detailed information on the night it happens...just in case it's a disaster.
I'm not very good at this internet dating thing...clearly.
Which is why I really hope this guy is Mr Wonderful....because I never want to do it again!
lolol
Thanks Corey!!!
Jo