Rights of Passage
October 19th 2006 13:14
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Rights of passage, you stopped wetting the bed, your first two wheeled bike, your first passionate kiss, first sex, getting your drivers licence.
Yes, there are many rights of passage we look forward to. The question is, do these rights of passage have any real meaning today? Do we grow and mature from the experience? Or is it just another thing to brag about? There are still societies in the world where the Right of Passage is more than just another short lived thrill gathered along the way to becoming an adult.
Standing with nothing but a spear in the face of a charging lion is certainly a thrill. But it is also a real test, a test of courage and strength of character, beyond reading a book and ticking boxes on a sheet of paper to get a learners permit.
First sex is a big one. But admit it guys, your first sex was a frantic wank in the toilet. Hardly a character building experience was it. Then when you do manage to find the courage, or you and her are drunk enough, it happens.
Was there love, was there caring, or was the first thing you did was to call your mates to brag about it. Was there anything to brag about? After all how long did it take to get your rocks off? Now be honest, this is your first sex. How long? Sixty seconds? Ninety seconds? Hardly the worlds greatest lover, eh.
Do you really think your partner was thrilled with the performance? Do you really think she wrote six pages of poetry in her diary describing the raptures of ecstasy she experienced. I don’t think so.
Did the experience help you mature into a better person? Did you gain a meaningful insight into life and relationships?
Now I’m all for sex and I don’t want to stop you from having it. The point I’m trying to make is, that when it comes to sex, your perspective is important. Are you making love or just having sex? When you’re making love the most important person in the equation is the person you’re with. Their pleasure is everything. If you can’t live with the word “No” then you are in the wrong relationship. If you can’t face the lion you are not ready to be an adult. If it’s just sex then leave the money on the table when you leave.
Rights of passage, you stopped wetting the bed, your first two wheeled bike, your first passionate kiss, first sex, getting your drivers licence.
Yes, there are many rights of passage we look forward to. The question is, do these rights of passage have any real meaning today? Do we grow and mature from the experience? Or is it just another thing to brag about? There are still societies in the world where the Right of Passage is more than just another short lived thrill gathered along the way to becoming an adult.
Standing with nothing but a spear in the face of a charging lion is certainly a thrill. But it is also a real test, a test of courage and strength of character, beyond reading a book and ticking boxes on a sheet of paper to get a learners permit.
First sex is a big one. But admit it guys, your first sex was a frantic wank in the toilet. Hardly a character building experience was it. Then when you do manage to find the courage, or you and her are drunk enough, it happens.
Was there love, was there caring, or was the first thing you did was to call your mates to brag about it. Was there anything to brag about? After all how long did it take to get your rocks off? Now be honest, this is your first sex. How long? Sixty seconds? Ninety seconds? Hardly the worlds greatest lover, eh.
Do you really think your partner was thrilled with the performance? Do you really think she wrote six pages of poetry in her diary describing the raptures of ecstasy she experienced. I don’t think so.
Did the experience help you mature into a better person? Did you gain a meaningful insight into life and relationships?
Now I’m all for sex and I don’t want to stop you from having it. The point I’m trying to make is, that when it comes to sex, your perspective is important. Are you making love or just having sex? When you’re making love the most important person in the equation is the person you’re with. Their pleasure is everything. If you can’t live with the word “No” then you are in the wrong relationship. If you can’t face the lion you are not ready to be an adult. If it’s just sex then leave the money on the table when you leave.
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