Regrets
April 14th 2009 07:37
My computer is (finally) fixed, and at long last, I'm back.
So, a friend said to me the other day that he could not understand why anyone would live with regrets. He hadn't spoken to a girl that he thought he should have spoken to, and he couldn't figure out why he hadn't. In his opinion, the only reason people live with regrets is because of fear, because at the time they don't have the courage to act as they should and regret not doing so.
I, on the other hand, have a different theory.
There's a phrase I like to use. Everybody has 20/20 hindsight. In my opinion, the only people that live without regrets are the people too blind to see how they should have acted. Some situations require a long thought process to arrive at an ideal solution but require immediate action. That is how regrets are born: You do what you think is best at the time, but after you have sufficient time to analyse the situation, you can think of a better alternative. However, by that point it is too late.
Come to think of it, I have a question for you Orblers. Is it really a regret if you act in the correct manner at the time? Take a game of poker, for example. You fold a bad hand after a large pre-flop raise (say 7 2 off suit), and the flop is 7 7 2. You acted in the correct manner, but still regret folding. Is that really a regret, seeing as you did what was best at the time?
So, a friend said to me the other day that he could not understand why anyone would live with regrets. He hadn't spoken to a girl that he thought he should have spoken to, and he couldn't figure out why he hadn't. In his opinion, the only reason people live with regrets is because of fear, because at the time they don't have the courage to act as they should and regret not doing so.
I, on the other hand, have a different theory.
There's a phrase I like to use. Everybody has 20/20 hindsight. In my opinion, the only people that live without regrets are the people too blind to see how they should have acted. Some situations require a long thought process to arrive at an ideal solution but require immediate action. That is how regrets are born: You do what you think is best at the time, but after you have sufficient time to analyse the situation, you can think of a better alternative. However, by that point it is too late.
Come to think of it, I have a question for you Orblers. Is it really a regret if you act in the correct manner at the time? Take a game of poker, for example. You fold a bad hand after a large pre-flop raise (say 7 2 off suit), and the flop is 7 7 2. You acted in the correct manner, but still regret folding. Is that really a regret, seeing as you did what was best at the time?
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Comment by Janet Collins
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You are right though. Most of the time we have done what we thought we should do at the time but only later revised the situation. Regrets.....I've had a few.....but I did it my way! See even Frank Sinatra had a few
Comment by Someone
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Thanks for the comment. I suppose if a legend like Frank can't avoid regrets then what hope do us little people have?