Public displays of affection (PDAs)
March 21st 2007 02:36
How far is too far? Most places I've been pretty much draw the same lines, but there's a whole half of a world I haven't seen yet, so I'd like to know all views. A quick kiss goodbye at a train station? Holding hands? Arms draped over each others' shoulders?
These all seem pretty innocuous to me, but what would you think if it were a same-gender couple? I think whatever standards we establish must refer to everyone involved, so I have no problem with anyone who practices the above PDAs.
Much further than that, though..I get uncomfortable. I don't subscribe to the "If you don't like it, don't look" school when it comes to certain standards (or lack thereof) of public behavior. To me, a couple that is practically hyphenating in front of me at a theater is being rude. Am I wrong? I was raised on the belief that good public manners were for two main reasons: 1) To establish self-regulation amongst a society so that a lot of nitpicking laws don't have to be made, and 2) To ultimately get along as a society, people must have respect for each other in public, and must establish what most people in the area find acceptable in public.
So, say you're in a restaurant. A couple next to you in a booth start to kiss very noisily and passionately. Are you a "prude" for feeling uncomfortable? A "pervert" who should mind your own business (by this I guess you'd have to wear a blindfold and earplugs)? Or are you justified in asking the headwaiter or manager to ask them to stop while in a public restaurant?
These all seem pretty innocuous to me, but what would you think if it were a same-gender couple? I think whatever standards we establish must refer to everyone involved, so I have no problem with anyone who practices the above PDAs.
Much further than that, though..I get uncomfortable. I don't subscribe to the "If you don't like it, don't look" school when it comes to certain standards (or lack thereof) of public behavior. To me, a couple that is practically hyphenating in front of me at a theater is being rude. Am I wrong? I was raised on the belief that good public manners were for two main reasons: 1) To establish self-regulation amongst a society so that a lot of nitpicking laws don't have to be made, and 2) To ultimately get along as a society, people must have respect for each other in public, and must establish what most people in the area find acceptable in public.
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I took my kids to see "Hapy Feet", and there was a couple two rows in front of us practically undressing each other!
I said nothing, as my kids hadn't noticed and couldn't really see over the seats, and they eventually got up and left (to get a room, presumably!), and making mention would only have drawn the attention of all the kids in the room to the action...
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Those aren't your friends, X.
They're not interested in your company--just your hot tub. From their behavior, it sounds like they're hinting (not very subtly) at a foursome.
Time to get mad, X. Your "close friend" is taking big-time advantage of your polite nature.