"While a part of me feels like I need to get my hands on this book, it’s sad that we would need pictures and descriptions of “considerate men” to jerk off to rather than expect it or have it from the men in our actual lives. Porn generally consists of sexual fantasy; making me dinner should be a standard, not something I fantasize about."
Also, I noticed that some of the female commenters felt that the idea was inherently sexist. The first comment:
"not to mention the fact that it's robbing women of their sexuality. i'm so sick of hearing that women A. LOVE SEX OMG, GIVING BLOW JOBS RULES!!!! or B. hate sex, can't have it because of a "headache" would rather eat chocolate and watch crappy romantic movies. personally, i would rather see a real book of erotica aimed at a female audience."
another commenter:
"What bugs me here is that they're trying to sell us back to ourselves as sexless."
I can understand what they're saying... it's like assuming that porn for men should be stereotyped to a single ideal.
OMG I didn’t want to anal-yse it to death, (haven’t you heard of paralysis from analysis), it was a good joke and let the records state, that the biggest aphrodisiac I know, is laughter.
However, since you raise these points, I have to agree with the notion of it being a form of stereotyping .. but no less simply a single form of porn. No more or less, than any other individual strand of porn on the market. For example Gay sex, Blow Jobs, Cum shots, Big boobs, etc., ad nuseum.
Having said that, you have to admit, there are also many strands of porn for women too, amongst them this single genre is very much alive and ‘real’ in fantasyland, for many… again, quite lightly relevant in David’s equal and opposite reflection.
Any analysis will only reveal that, different strokes for different folks, is the only authentic stereotype at all, unless endless hours of debate is what turns you on?
Thanks for the additional website link Cib, I am not a “practicing feminist,” I got this copy from a friend, ‘in the (e-)mail’ … but my rampant curiosity and need to learn new things, will probably make me visit there, to see if I can find a ‘laugh or two.’
Oh Lilla,
I loved it. My man does all those things.....But in the man way. eg - takes out half the garbage and 'doesnt notice' the other 3 bags, or cooks me dinner - a burnt pie with a lump of something frothy on the side that might be a failed pasta dish(and his qualification is 'cook' thank god he discovered tool making!) One thing he does well is shop. I only get the tinyest of man tantrums if there are no good games at the electronics shop. He actually loves taking me clothes shopping.....
As for all the analysis - I have never, ever seen decent porn for women. Kman and I actually have an idea for a porn movie for women but that men would love too - changing the structure of the 'porn movie' entirely. Problem is it wont be cheap.
I dont know whats sadder - women seeing these reactions in men as suspicious or the fact that this is such a joke because if any man did these things in context he would have to be gay!
But I loved it Lilla. Gave me a laugh.
a burnt pie with a lump of something frothy on the side that might be a failed pasta dish(and his qualification is 'cook' thank god he discovered tool making!)
K-man is special if you take him shopping, that’s all I can say. I am not a big consumer by a long shot, but when I’m on one of my bi-annual stocking-up spree’s, by GOD I do not want anything pathetic and whingy hanging around, looking like I have just notified him that he only has three days left to live !!! *hysterical lol’s* I am not that cruel.
/seriously/ you raise the most valid point of all, perhaps…
I don’t know what’s sadder - women seeing these reactions in men as suspicious or the fact that this is such a joke because if any man did these things in context he would have to be gay!
I’m glad you had a laugh, that’s what counts, really.
Lilla …
PS : (Echoing CIb) ... Any clues on what this film is about?
For those of you curious about our movie - First of all, anyone want to put in to fund it?
Being afraid of plagarisim I wont say much - Except that it has a STORY and no its not a "I am here to clean the pool" story either! We theorize that with woman preferring romance novels to porn mags then there must be evidence of emotion, anticipation and suspense. A foundation to work on. No matter how the sex is portrayed its got to be more than just sex. REALISIM is our most obvious drama - No vacant eyed porn stars that do not appear to be enjoying themselves whatsoever.
And LILLA, my dear, Ive spoken of shopping with Kman before, I think, he's a dream! We plan out the day and he leaps out of bed, ready for his store bought breakfast and cappucino, and drags me around the shops with a child like enthusiasam. The year he took me to the markets because all my clothes were too big I wore out first. He's running up and down - "what about THIS! Youd look great in THAT! How bout one of THOSE!"
Groceries are even worse. I usually bring our shopping in at under $100......When he comes its all "No, I want the good one. OooH lets get 10 of these, theyre good!" next thing you know the shopping budget just stretched to $150......
Not a porn fan, but THAT sounds like a good porn film, and I reckon' it's time for something new... how about reality... a great concept *chuckle* I look forward to a preiview copy, okay?
WIll check the bank balance to see if I can donate a dollar or two... you could make it on shares. LIke a co-operative where everyone has a vested interest?
As for K-man, you wouldn't thnk of hiring him out to raise the funds would you? Justt for the shopping instruction for my husband mind... *lol* he sounds like a dream Kleo, hang on to him!
I'll know I've found true love, the day I can do the grocery shopping with a man and not have a headache at the end of it... that's something worth waiting for *chuckle*
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hahahaha
can i have one for my birthday? Christmas would be better...
smiles and hugs L i l l a,
~Lily
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If that is what it takes I going to be come a monk.
I HATE SHOE SHOPS.
All red shoes look the same to me.
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Luckily I have a hubby that does a few of those things for me for real - truly!!
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sad thing is that when men actually try something like that our automatic reaction is SUSPICION
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*winks*
I’m gift wrapping him now *lol*
*boomerang Hugs*
Lilla …
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*rofling* You and my husband could go to Supa Cheap together, whilst we girls get amongst it ... *giggle*
/seriously/ who in their right mind would take their man shoe shopping?
Not me, we have gay friends for that, they’re more fun.
Lilla …
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Me too…(on both counts)…God knows they have to do something to earn their keep, don't they?
Lilla …
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Not me, give me a man who asks directions and I’ll give you someone who’s probably gay as well! *chuckle*
As for flowers from nowhere? … yup, my mum was always like that too…she’d ask “what have you done wrong?” *lol* used to crack me up!
Lilla …
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Glad you got a chuckle out of it!
You raise a good point…”real” porn turns me off... nothing beats spontaneous intimacy.
Lilla …
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HAHAHA, I love them!!
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That’s not you in a couple of them, is it?
…lunacy you call it?
*chuckle*
Lilla …
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Now you know all the tricks!
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Me too... completely cracked me up - especially that last one!
*giggle*
Lilla …
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They're so funny, I thought I'd put some porn for men up.
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Also, I noticed that some of the female commenters felt that the idea was inherently sexist. The first comment:
another commenter:
I can understand what they're saying... it's like assuming that porn for men should be stereotyped to a single ideal.
Comment by Lilla
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You bet it is, although this probably caters to the downtrodden housewife with four kids hanging of her aprons…however…. You never know?
Lilla …
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*loool* I like the analogy, although I think in this context, women are more natural at being pornographic then men? *chuckle*… or unwitting?
Thanks for the equal and opposite reflection.
Lilla …
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OMG I didn’t want to anal-yse it to death, (haven’t you heard of paralysis from analysis), it was a good joke and let the records state, that the biggest aphrodisiac I know, is laughter.
However, since you raise these points, I have to agree with the notion of it being a form of stereotyping .. but no less simply a single form of porn. No more or less, than any other individual strand of porn on the market. For example Gay sex, Blow Jobs, Cum shots, Big boobs, etc., ad nuseum.
Having said that, you have to admit, there are also many strands of porn for women too, amongst them this single genre is very much alive and ‘real’ in fantasyland, for many… again, quite lightly relevant in David’s equal and opposite reflection.
Any analysis will only reveal that, different strokes for different folks, is the only authentic stereotype at all, unless endless hours of debate is what turns you on?
Thanks for the additional website link Cib, I am not a “practicing feminist,” I got this copy from a friend, ‘in the (e-)mail’ … but my rampant curiosity and need to learn new things, will probably make me visit there, to see if I can find a ‘laugh or two.’
Cheers,
Lilla …
Comment by Kleonaptra
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I loved it. My man does all those things.....But in the man way. eg - takes out half the garbage and 'doesnt notice' the other 3 bags, or cooks me dinner - a burnt pie with a lump of something frothy on the side that might be a failed pasta dish(and his qualification is 'cook' thank god he discovered tool making!) One thing he does well is shop. I only get the tinyest of man tantrums if there are no good games at the electronics shop. He actually loves taking me clothes shopping.....
As for all the analysis - I have never, ever seen decent porn for women. Kman and I actually have an idea for a porn movie for women but that men would love too - changing the structure of the 'porn movie' entirely. Problem is it wont be cheap.
I dont know whats sadder - women seeing these reactions in men as suspicious or the fact that this is such a joke because if any man did these things in context he would have to be gay!
But I loved it Lilla. Gave me a laugh.
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LM(Ears)O Kleo….
K-man is special if you take him shopping, that’s all I can say. I am not a big consumer by a long shot, but when I’m on one of my bi-annual stocking-up spree’s, by GOD I do not want anything pathetic and whingy hanging around, looking like I have just notified him that he only has three days left to live !!! *hysterical lol’s* I am not that cruel.
/seriously/ you raise the most valid point of all, perhaps…
I’m glad you had a laugh, that’s what counts, really.
Lilla …
PS : (Echoing CIb) ... Any clues on what this film is about?
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I’m glad it afforded you a chuckle or two
Lilla …
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So wonderful.
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Comment by Kleonaptra
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Being afraid of plagarisim I wont say much - Except that it has a STORY and no its not a "I am here to clean the pool" story either! We theorize that with woman preferring romance novels to porn mags then there must be evidence of emotion, anticipation and suspense. A foundation to work on. No matter how the sex is portrayed its got to be more than just sex. REALISIM is our most obvious drama - No vacant eyed porn stars that do not appear to be enjoying themselves whatsoever.
And LILLA, my dear, Ive spoken of shopping with Kman before, I think, he's a dream! We plan out the day and he leaps out of bed, ready for his store bought breakfast and cappucino, and drags me around the shops with a child like enthusiasam. The year he took me to the markets because all my clothes were too big I wore out first. He's running up and down - "what about THIS! Youd look great in THAT! How bout one of THOSE!"
Groceries are even worse. I usually bring our shopping in at under $100......When he comes its all "No, I want the good one. OooH lets get 10 of these, theyre good!" next thing you know the shopping budget just stretched to $150......
Comment by Lilla
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Not a porn fan, but THAT sounds like a good porn film, and I reckon' it's time for something new... how about reality... a great concept *chuckle* I look forward to a preiview copy, okay?
WIll check the bank balance to see if I can donate a dollar or two... you could make it on shares. LIke a co-operative where everyone has a vested interest?
As for K-man, you wouldn't thnk of hiring him out to raise the funds would you? Justt for the shopping instruction for my husband mind... *lol* he sounds like a dream Kleo, hang on to him!
I'll know I've found true love, the day I can do the grocery shopping with a man and not have a headache at the end of it... that's something worth waiting for *chuckle*
With love
Lilla...
PS the interpretation is ready and waiting....
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*giggle* that would be nice, wouldn't it?
Lilla ...
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Glad to see you tee hee-ing, too...
Gosh this response took a while, didn't it (apolgies, it the one that got away)...
L..xx
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Oh you naughty girl, I owed you one for that shot of GB... gosh, I still can;t get my knees to lock in!
*L*
Glad you enjoyed it...
Lilla ...