Perfectly Blurred Vision
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This theory could have easily been called, "An Isolated Definition of the Word", but that would not have been as clear, a bit too long, not as direct and as catchy as the one I selected to use. This theory is not one of those writings that you can just mindlessly browse through, and is not for the closed-minded. Thats for sure. What or where you think I will be going, will not be where we end up, if I do what I am supposed to do, and you see what is being presented. To at least, get a glimpse of my delivery of thoughts, you will or may need to really go beyond yourself to understand what I am attempting to write, and give me a break if I can not or do not fully capture the place I am trying to go to when you realize where this will lead you. This theory will be a bit challenging for me, because I will really have to explain to you in deep depth, what I am trying to say to you today, what was said to me, yesterday. Now, the reason I was first going to use the title I wrote at first, is that when you take something for what it is, you also take along what it is not, remember that. Its like a relationship, when you get with one person for whatever reason and on whatever level, you are saying to the rest of the world, that particular specific part of you has been and is now closed off. It is not or nor longer available because of this person or reason, and for the good or bad of moments, you are committed to it until something better or worse disrupts the path, and has you traveling down another road to hopefully discover, what you are looking and searching for. And because "This Part" of you is no longer available, everything that comes with that, that will jeopardize what has placed you in the off limits category, is also off limits. You are not really shutting off all of "You" per se, but you are limiting, monitoring and controlling the access to those that may have encountered you in that area, and those that feel or felt they had a chance in disrupting and entering into that part of your life. Now I am about to ask you a question in a direct way, and while you are answering it, I would ask for you to think about why you simply answered it naturally one way, and then another, after reading this theory and what I have in-store for you. Think about why you may have thought one way, stayed with it or put a little more on the subject, once it is presented the way I will be trying to serve it. So without further ado, that brings us to the reason for this theory, and the question I was just recently asked, "Can money make an ugly man or person, look good?" Thats the question, and that is a great question if you think about it. My initial answer based on my own experience and without a doubt and every single time I will honestly say and tell you and whoever else wants to know, "Yes! Yes it does, can and always will". But to me, its not the "Money" part per se, but what they are focused on and what "Money" may mean to that person looking at only "it". That person that when they see it, means more than the rest of the person that has it. I feel I can speak and relate to this subject oh so very well, for so many reasons. I not only have I witnessed it, but also I have thought it and thought about it. I have had it done to me and done it to others while seeing it done to those around me. I mean yeah, when you may be in need or that is all you see when thats all you want to see, the isolated word "Money" does, make an ugly person look better. But do not get it twisted, I am not saying that just "Money" makes a person feel that way, it can be other things too. I do not think just the thought or word, "Money" makes a person better looking, but will say, all that comes with it, does make hat you would not have looked at, your focus on succeeding. This is where I need your help in trying to understand what I am trying to say. What I am trying to say or explain, is that if all you see or what you will allow yourself to focus on, or make you compromise yourself for the sake of self satisfaction on what stimulates you at that time, then all that you see, keeps you from looking at what others may view or see as ugly or un-attractive. So as you take the word and word alone, and the abilities of the word "Money", also take that word, and isolate it to give it a single entity. Almost get a piece of paper and list a bunch of words as the stand-alone principles across the top of the paper, and branch out from the bottom of them, into a tree of other divisions. Use the words, Personality, Breast, Private / Intimate Parts, Race, Body Type and any other word you can think of. Now rearrange the words and the single entity, "Money", and think about the things that also fit in this category. As you can say that "Money" makes a person look good, can not you also say that a persons "Face" makes them better looking, or that their "Breast, height, skin color, age, smile and more does the same?" If what stimulates you is one of those titles, then are you looking at the other things that may not be as attractive to you, as meaningless or not a important as what stimulates you is? Forget what it can do for you, forget that there are ugly parts about this person, and think about what is important to you, and the reasons you selected to be with someone at anytime of your life. Yeah, it may not have lasted or still is in a mental or physical sense, but what did happen, was that what you seen in them at that time, was something that is or was important to you, and that is all you could see because at that time, that is all you wanted and needed to see to be with them for however long it lasted. Everything else is meaningless, and not that important to you if you travel down this road. So if you do not need or get overly stimulated by the isolated word and meaning of our now definition of "Money", then it does not matter how much money a person has, that is not what you deem as beautiful and important. But once you start growing and elevating yourself to a place where you can do things for yourself, or not place as much value on whatever it was before that did it for you, you will become more responsible and independent on what you deem as beautiful and ugly. You will not settle or sacrifice if you do not have to, in meaning you will not compromise and let the world know, this part of you, is closed off and no longer available. And if it does become available, this is what you at least need to bring to the table before even thinking about approaching it to obtain what is now, open to the highest bidder that meets and fits your criteria. I have heard from so many people telling me that they have been in at least two bad relationships, where they went to the other extreme after being abused on the other end or spectrum of the abuse. From men and women that came from successful and financially secured lifestyles, to dam near backyard shed living after going through a bad experience that completely, rattled their cage. They went to the other extreme because of the feeling they felt when they were at the other end going through a living hell. I know in the past I was guilty of this because I have went from straight laced Polly pure bread types to big city street walker stripper types when my heart got broken on the opposite end of each. I have only been in a couple really serious relationships, and even in those, I really was not truly "in there" anyway. Its not that I did not care or anything like that. It was just that in looking back, I do not even think I knew what I was doing, and before you knew it, I realized what I was doing and did what ever I could to get out of that situation. Thats is why I said I can relate to this, because I did go to the other extreme if for nothing else, to get as far away from what I knew I did not want to be close to, to have a chance at coming at me again. So even when I went into another situation, I was not going there on my own free will. I was running from something else and it was the reason I was where I was when I looked up and realized, where I was at and why I am here or there. So just like the word or question, "Can Money make an ugly person look better", hell yeah it can. But that does not mean it does! Because to me, if that is what is important to you, you could care less on what the other things look like that comes with it. And you can swap out the word Money, with a persons Personality, Career, Breast or whatever else you want to throw in there. Its about what you feel is important to you at that time, and how you plan to apply that importance, towards your future, if only for a reason, season or a lifetime. I mean, if you wanna say that Money makes an ugly person better looking, what do you define as ugly? What do you define as unattractive or simply, not to your liking. What besides "Money", can make that person, better looking? Thats the foundation of this theory that is humbly called, "Perfectly Blurred Vision", so welcome, and thanks for getting through that first paragraph with me. Told you it as going to be challenging, and only hope you understand what I have never understood. Lets go.
Now let us say that you already have money, and what you are seeking, has nothing to do with what you feel you need in your life to make it worth living and more complete. Lets say, you are into submissive women or men, and a person that does or has a certain quality about themselves, possess something that fully stimulates you and takes you to that place you know is there for you to enjoy. Do you discount their other qualities of greatness or failures, and solely concentrate on what you know will selfishly help you become a better person to help others? Or do you forget about your needs, and accept that person for what they are, and not get in touch with what brought you two together in the first place? Thats the question on the table, and to me, yes, a quality in and within a person that you feel is missing within yourself, can make an ugly person look better. In my situation, I know that I could make a strong case of mis-understanding in many of the relationships I have been associated with. In so many cases, I know that even though the person I was with was not like the person I was with before them, I can say that in finding out more about that person, I start noticing things about myself, that I found attractive and not that good looking. Its like in many cases, when I would regain a moment of clarity and actually realize what I was putting myself through, I start thinking, am I okay, or did what I just went through, really take me on a ride that I did not even know I was riding? I know in many cases, I was with women that I know for a fact that when in my right mind, I would have left before getting with them. But because I was so devastated on the things that previously happened, the direction it threw me in while coming out of the spin cycle of turmoil, landed me in a place that I did not even have a map to get out of. This is why I say many of my relationships in the past, were mis-understood. Some of them were basically bandages to heal a wound, and some, to get me into the one I wanted to enter. They were transition affairs, and though I am not proud of the damage I may have left behind, I do not praise it or them either. So lets say I had just came out of relationship where my heart was broken and I was out on the town, trying to forget the things I can not help but remember. I remember being in a supper-club once, and being a complete asshole. I mean I was rude to the valet, the servers, demanding shit out of arrogance, anger and pain, and punishing every woman that attempted to be nice to me because I thought I had it like that. Yeah, I have been a complete dick to people, and even though I am now more humble and appreciative of the position I am in, that does not discount how "Money", almost fucked me up. But in looking back on the supper-club experience, and because I was young, new to the life and me and my crew was buying and popping bottles like it was going out of style, my behavior was chalked up as, "Eclectic, or warranted because of my status and or how much money we were spending". To me, thats a bunch of toxic bullshit, and anyone at that time that really seen what I was doing that would have had the balls to put me in my place, would have slapped the dog shit out of me, as I was not even acting like a wild animal. But that did not happen, and it was because of the element I feel that many did not pay attention to me and my actions, and only got what they felt, was important to them at that time. To me, money like everything else, is a tool to build what you feel you can not build without it. I fully and truly believe that part of my personal success, came from my humility, not my intelligence or a what many think makes you rich. I think that once I realized what I naturally was not, was the exact and precise moment I realize what I was and could be genuinely. I think and feel at that time and moment, when I realize that the feelings I wanted to feel were important, my choice on what I wanted to accomplish to get what I want, came to the forefront. My choice and decisions was not based on my ego and my ability to please or show off, and it was within that time frame when things started to slow down and make a bit more sense to me. Its about importance I think, and how you think about that, all depends on what you feel is vitally important to you and your quest to happiness. So to break things up a bit, what I did was send out a questionnaire on what I am writing about. I sent out around a thousand emails and got back about half of that in responses and comments. The response was incredibly overwhelming, and I just took a few of them to share with you. So as you may have your own thoughts, think about these comments you are about to read from people all over the world on the subject, "Can money make an ugly person look better?". Do not forget to change the word Money around with whatever stimulates you, and do not forget to branch out from the bottom, what comes with what stimulates you. This is cool and here they are and I would really like to thank all of you that participated in this. Enjoy what you are about to read, as I also hope, you Enjoy The Moment:
From Favoured One:
Interesting question. I don't think money can make an ugly person look better at all. I think it allows a person to compromise or settle for money than for love. I feel this way because a few years ago I dated someone that I was not really feeling. And was contemplating breaking it off. Then he hit the lottery for big money. I told myself I am going to go out with him a few more times too see if having money makes a difference. And with me it made no difference. I could not make myself feel any different for him. I am looking for "love", someone to share my joy and happiness, sadness and sorrows. Money is good but not my priority. I dunno....maybe I am old fashioned.....
From Heather P:
Well money can make a person look better but only threw surgery. Just having money doesn't make somebody look better it makes it so people will be nice to them so they can get the money. You give an ugly person 1 million they are still going to be ugly they are just going to have more people to kiss there ass trying to get the money.
From J.M.:
Listen yes it can I am not really a material girl however I did get a chance to go see a friend that I know is loaded (professional comedian) I hate to tell u this but his body was ok and I probably would not do him other wise. The money helped but when he knew what he was doing (around the world) It really did not matter but the money helped him. I did not know his body type that well but i did know him 2 years chatting I wondered why he only wanted to go to 2nd base His body type thats why however since then we broke up and that had something to do with the money too cause if he did not have the money he could not have went to Italy and met someone so It caused problems too. I am on hold and Ill wait just in case of a retirement plan. But if he was not good ( sex) forget it. It only helped him some. smooches J.M.
From Gail F:
Ok, I am sending my 2 cents.....The answer can go either way....It all has to do with the person that you were before money entered your life. If a person thought they were ugly, (which comes from inside) before money.....the money won't help. If a person sees beauty when looking in the mirror (which comes from inside), then money can only accent that person. I don't think anyone is "Ugly", some ppl. just act that way......Hope this helps!
From Dave:
I am not a great looking guy, but I think my personality makes me look better. I have a great job and drive a nice car, and that gets me a lot of attention. I get my share of dates, but it seems as though with many of the women I meet, that is all they care about. I am confident in me, but do feel that money does help. At least that is my opinion
From Gwen J:
Anthony money does not change a persons physical appearance unless they get plastic surgery...as for someone elses perception...needless to say money will camouflage a multitude of flaws...there are physically attractive people that are so ugly on the inside and the opposite is also true where you'll have an individual that's not appealing to the eye but they have a heart of gold...and then there the rare occasions when you run across someone that's not only physically attractive but they also have a heart of gold , such is life.
From Toni H:
What is ugly? What may be "ugly" to one person may not be to the next.I'm looking at this in the perspective that if i met someone I thought was "ugly" and I assume you mean as in looks? or personality?I would still have to say it would not make a difference to me but the "ugly" truth is that it probably does to some people.lol, excuse all the self talk, lol
From Celia:
Can money make a person prettier?..Depends on the reference..if you mean inner beauty..no. You either have it or you do not. Loving yourself for who you are is key. Money may in some cases help to make a person more presentable....when a person is wearing nice things they may feel prettier. Personally I think its from within first and outside secondary..as it shines thru if its real. if not it just looks like a bad paint job.. I have been poor and I have had money..struggling makes you stronger..money motivates but it wont make you really love who you are. Thats a kind of self-love you have to have in your core.
From Tim:
Hell yeah it does, are you crazy? Are you kidding, to keep a woman happy, you need to have that green stuff!!!!!!! Who wants to be broke or with a broke dude?
From J:
I think that it possibly can....................... for this reason alone. I don't think it has anything to do with physical beauty at all. I believe that money can make an ugly person look better, if the so-called ugly person did really cool things with their money.... help the homeless, give to charity, something along those lines. I think then that person becomes extremely attractive in the eyes of how people view them. I know many great looking people that are ugly as shit because of how they act. anyway, there is my opinion for the day. Take Care, J
From Mei:
Humm.. my point of view, the money can "buy" elegant dresses, watch, shoes, cars, but how to use all this together is a problem for many people..If the guy doesn't have "taste" &" education", if he is not responsible, caring and "romantic" he can't go along with a woman that have these attributes. He will get the lady as he is...no brain.. Only money...Outside look.Nobody is "ugly"...depends the "eyes" that is looking for the person..."Love is blind".. and if somebody is ugly for many persons, maybe for other one, is cute! So... money really "helps" the outside look, but is not all, it is part of the "package! Good luck with others answers!!!
From Kritter:
Well since you asked. you may like my take on this.. But here goes...Love is a decision you make.. For good or bad..Lust however is a feeling you generally loose before you get your clothes back on.. and can money make a ugly person look better .. if you have a shallow mind.. Then I would say yes...
From Eminna:
Hello, Anthony!
I know that love for me is not the outer beauty, cause I was dating ugly men as well, and their appearance did not make us break up, nor my appearance either. It was more the thing that we may call "not clicking" with that someone. We just were not for each other. Money is necessity that we cannot live without, unfortunately. But I still think that something that you bought with the money is not gonna bring you to the point where the opposite gender is gonna like or love you more... In case the person thinks she/he is ugly, they should fix it only for their own pleasure and satisfaction, but the beauty is something else. Far deeper within themselves. Money, of course, can and will make certain person look better, but only on the outside if they do the surgery and are willing to stand the pain and whole trauma. Which is gonna bring us to the point that you call "Perfectly Blurred Vision". But on the other side, there is a lot of people nowadays that are not payin' attention to how someone looks like, but to their wallet. And those people should or could be a subject of that Blurred Vision as well, cause they are presenting themselves as a nice, honest, decent while they are hypocrites and liars, unfortunately for them. They only want the money, and not the person that has it. And after the person have realized that, it's already too late....
From Tammy:
Hell no money is the root of half the evil in the world the other half is just pure ignorance and no amount of money can change the ugliness in a person heart!! it may buy plastic surgery though!! Lol. Hope you had a great thanksgiving Anthony.
From Laura:
I would love to answer your question. Money will not and cannot make an ugly person look better or a good-looking person look any better. Beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder and if you tend to judge people on how they look or how much money they have you might as well be blind. For me I don't judge anybody on the way they look or how much money they have i would rather have a good personality and a good attitude and happiness than someone with a whole lot of money whether ugly or handsome. And don't ever think someone elses money can make you because, just because you are together what they have is still theirs. Be careful of the wolf in sheeps clothing. and that beautiful devil in disguise. That is my own personal opinion.
From Galina:
Look better to who? I am sure there are still people that love the ugly person anyway. There is no clear definition for ugly as there is none for pretty or beautiful. It is pure subjective.
From Adolph:
It all depends on the needs of the person. People do silly things for silly reasons. You can use money, sex or anything you want. We all are driven by the all mighty dollar. The media drives it inside of us. That is why I hate the Television.
From Sexy Cool:
I'm not about the money so the only way that may make a man look better is in the way he presents himself or the things he may do for a female to get her attention. With me it's all about the approach and in the way you treat me.
From Deborah J:
No, I don't think that money for me is a big motivator.. if you are a gold digger...I guess the old cliche "You can put a paper bag over their head would be true then...." it is more of what is inside a man...if people say that looks are not important then there is some attraction there....and I don't believe in PAPER BAGS!!!
From Steve:
Money is just a tool. If you want to build something that is surrounded or financed by only money, then you will have a paper house when it is finished.
From Hali:
Well as far as I'm concerned, no it cannot. I met a man here in Calgary who was very interested in me but wasn't attractive to me and worse yet had such an attitude ... he thought he was the best of everything. He had money, nice home, nice car, traveled, etc. but I just couldn't bring myself to be with him. I would rather be poor and be with the man I love then settle just because of money. Money does not buy happiness. My guess is that you will get different answers depending on the age of the man/woman responding. I would think younger people probably would prefer the money and would "settle". Those of us that are a little older have been in several relationships and have realized what is truly important in life.Just my two cents worth.
Have a great day.H.
From Kari P:
That is an interesting question and I am not sure there is one correct answer. It depends on the individual and their heart. I can only speak from my own heart. Yes, I do find a few men attractive but what is or is not in their wallets is not what I am attracted to. It is their heart and how well they get me and treat me. I have a...comfortable life now. Not rich, not poor financially anyway. I have been ignored, talked down to, and material things are obviously more important than I am. Guns and home theater equipment we seem to be able to purchase but I ask for new jewelry (fake), shoes or clothes and money is usually too tight for that (except when I bitch and I hate bitching). To me, love is respect, passion, laughing and enjoying each other's company, having things in common you can enjoy yet respect one another for your differences. I am sorry, but money can not buy those things. You either have it, or you do not.
From Yvette:
it Depends! yes and no... Personally? Not to me, because money is not what I am looking for..... if u have enough and can make me smile with ur fine self... I am all-good. But someone else, if u have tons of cash and thats what shes looking for? then hell ya, y r fine as hell.... so it goes both ways... and theres nothing wrong with either one of em... LOL
From ADGere:
So there it is. A few opinions and takes on things we all may find comfort in, and things that may make us pray for that person that thinks a bit different than you do. I mean really, what more can I say, than what has not already been covered or already vented out. "Money", just like sex, features, a persons body, what they can make you feel for the moment or a lifetime, materialistic things and more, can make a person more desirable if you find what that specific thing is, stimulating. To me, it does not matter on what you have that I already have, it all depends on what I want from you that I can not naturally get by myself, and that can be money, love, knowledge, personality, sex or whatever. But what I can never lose sight on, is what comes with what I am needing, and the responsibilities it holds that I may not know about. I also need to ask myself honestly, can I give what is required to get what I wish to be given to me. Am I worthy of it, is it worthy of me, and can I live with myself, if I live in something that is not what I am all about and think I deserve. So before closing, ask yourself this. What happens after you get what you desire? Does it now lose its luster, become ugly again or what? Does it become the Pumpkin at midnight, or do you recharge what you just took from, for someone else to come and empty your tank? Are you "Paying It Forward" or "Buying It Backwards?" The thing about this theory is that the focus is on the word "Money", not how that word can be changed with anything we wish to swap it out with. The theory simply mentioned the word "Money" and all of a sudden, another element came into play. But did you think about that? Or did you not think about the need or want for it or anything else we feel will make us happy? "Money" is just that, "Money", like "Sex" is just "Sex". But in saying that, a lot comes with it and that is the premise on what I am writing about. Just like "Money", anything is what you want it to be, and just because you may have it to waste like some stupid baller, someone else has ideas on how you need to spend it, so they can have a ball. We all settle, compromise and more, but use reasons and justifications to defend it when I feel we do not need to. If I see something, like it, crave it, desire it and more, I am going to search deep inside my pockets to see if I can afford it. If I feel I am warranted in asking to obtain it and can afford it in ways it wishes to be purchased, then hell yeah, I am going to get it, or at least, go for it. But I am not talking about money, per se, when I say I can or can not afford it. I am talking about any and everything that is important to me, the person, and not the person wanting to take and not give what is required in return and all that comes with it. Because remember like I said in the beginning, "When you take on one thing for what it is, you are also taking on what it is not". And I only hope you have enough foresight when you use your hindsight to see and know what those responsibilities are and are going to be when you get into things you wish to stay in. So for me, if you have what I desire, then yeah, you look better to me than someone that can not give me what you can. Why, easy, it is what stimulates or excites me. What you may think is important, may well be to you, and God Bless you. But if it is not important to me, it is not, and I am not going to defend why I feel a certain way about something that means something to one person, and another to another. I think at this time in my life, I have figured out a few important things about myself and how I wish to live and not live my life. You see I grew up in a well to do family, and maybe because of that, "Money" does not mean that much to me. Thats why I consider myself a great father, because even though my father is great in his own right, he was not there for me when I was younger, because he was out making money to support his family. So maybe that is why money does not mean much to me, but I also realize that I need it, to live the way I wish to live. So I figured out how to protect myself from myself, and not just waste what does not mean that much, that also, provides a life I love living. Thats why my accountant is important, as is my core group and family. If it were up to me, I would give away all I have earned, because I could care less if I have it or not. Money just like meaningless Sex to me, is not important. But I need it when I need it, and if it were not for my accounting firm that handles my Money, I would seriously be homeless. So I also start taking that approach to the rest of my life. The things I need and the things I want. The things that I know will ground me, and the things that will keep me from acting like a complete asshole like I did when I was in the supper-club many years back. I would like to think that I know me well enough to surround myself with the things that will keep me, myself. I got tired of being The Dennis Rodman of Relationships. I got tired of the rebounding relationships, the un-needed attention and not being where I needed to be for me and the person that did not know who I was when I was someone else. So I had to change, to be who I naturally am, and find out, what makes a person better looking, and what makes me un-attractive. Why they may want me, need me, and can I be that person the see when you strip down everything else everyone views or glances at. So does or can money make a person better looking? All depends on who is looking and what they are looking at, in my humble opinion. I mean yeah, does or if a woman is a complete freak in bed, does that make her better than the ones that are not, yes and no. I mean yeah, the freak shit is fun, but to me, we are going to eat and talk, way more than we are going to have sex and fuck. So that is what is important to me, not the other shit, even though the other shit, is fun. But does it make them better, maybe, but then again, maybe not, all depends on what is important to you and not me. So take it as it is given from me, unconditionally, because thats my opinion, and the end of An Isolated Definition of the Word "Money", that is the foundation of a theory called, "Perfectly Blurred Vision". Thanks again to all that sent me their comments, and I hope I did a great job in opening up my opinion on a subject that is thought of, but not often placed on a table for many to eat. Enjoy The Moment - May All Be With You As You Are Within It. Enjoy The Moment -
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