JessiccaPassing of a love one
June 25th 2007 03:02
It was a shocking and sad day for the past 3 days during the weekends for my family and me. My closest aunt has passed away on Friday morning and by the time I got the news it was passed noon.
We all had to calm ourselves and continue our work until we get our time off on Saturday and rushed to our hometown as fast as we can. By the time we arrived, it was already night and we could see that my aunt was already nicely dressed, make up, nicely put with her fake teeth and placed in the coffin.
The only thing is we couldn’t find was her glasses.
It was the very first Christian funeral service I ever attended in my life. Things were simpler and there weren’t any multiple rounds of chanting and worship from the Taoist monks I used to exposed. It was just hymns and sermons, and then hymns again.
My aunt was a strong, firm; yet gentle person at the same time. She can be very stern most of the time, but she never fail to share any good discovery of handicrafts with me and her grand children whenever she gets the chance. I never get the use of eating her savouries but her cookies are an exception during Chinese New Year. Guess I just have a sweet tooth.
Whenever I get to return to my hometown I’ll try to visit my aunt if my tired mind and body, not to mention time, allows it. My visits to her has become less and less when I left to work in the capital city hundreds of miles away. Still she never fails to give us her best grin whenever she sees us visiting her home.
I remembered there was once when I tried my best to make a pot of daisies out of the special rubber materials and she ended up blessing me with all kinds of other handicrafts. Up till today I saw my pot of flowers on top of her refrigerator.
Her life has always been hard but she still walks through it every step bravely. She grieved a lot more when her loving husband left her behind after loosing the fight to lung cancer, yet she doesn’t tell much except chatting more with my mom whenever there is opportunity.
How many times do we get second chances, especially spending time with our love ones? I can surely say, almost none most of the time.
Not being able to see my aunt again leaves my heart with wounds knowing that sometimes, when work is important, leisure is great, but loosing the time to spend with our senior love ones can be torturing when we realise it is too late to say “I love you”.
The last moment I saw her eyes staring at me when I leave my cousin’s house a week earlier was empty, as if she felt it was the last meeting. I didn’t realise that until memories came into my mind. I believe she new her time was up and all I gave her at the very last time was my smiling face saying, “I’ll see you around again, aunt”
What do I learn something today:
It is never too late to be a little nicer to the ones you love, until they leave this world.
Never ever regret, because the chance of making thing a tiny bit better is always there. Just that you always take for granted that it stays forever there for you.
We all had to calm ourselves and continue our work until we get our time off on Saturday and rushed to our hometown as fast as we can. By the time we arrived, it was already night and we could see that my aunt was already nicely dressed, make up, nicely put with her fake teeth and placed in the coffin.
The only thing is we couldn’t find was her glasses.
It was the very first Christian funeral service I ever attended in my life. Things were simpler and there weren’t any multiple rounds of chanting and worship from the Taoist monks I used to exposed. It was just hymns and sermons, and then hymns again.
My aunt was a strong, firm; yet gentle person at the same time. She can be very stern most of the time, but she never fail to share any good discovery of handicrafts with me and her grand children whenever she gets the chance. I never get the use of eating her savouries but her cookies are an exception during Chinese New Year. Guess I just have a sweet tooth.
Whenever I get to return to my hometown I’ll try to visit my aunt if my tired mind and body, not to mention time, allows it. My visits to her has become less and less when I left to work in the capital city hundreds of miles away. Still she never fails to give us her best grin whenever she sees us visiting her home.
I remembered there was once when I tried my best to make a pot of daisies out of the special rubber materials and she ended up blessing me with all kinds of other handicrafts. Up till today I saw my pot of flowers on top of her refrigerator.
Her life has always been hard but she still walks through it every step bravely. She grieved a lot more when her loving husband left her behind after loosing the fight to lung cancer, yet she doesn’t tell much except chatting more with my mom whenever there is opportunity.
How many times do we get second chances, especially spending time with our love ones? I can surely say, almost none most of the time.
Not being able to see my aunt again leaves my heart with wounds knowing that sometimes, when work is important, leisure is great, but loosing the time to spend with our senior love ones can be torturing when we realise it is too late to say “I love you”.
The last moment I saw her eyes staring at me when I leave my cousin’s house a week earlier was empty, as if she felt it was the last meeting. I didn’t realise that until memories came into my mind. I believe she new her time was up and all I gave her at the very last time was my smiling face saying, “I’ll see you around again, aunt”
What do I learn something today:
It is never too late to be a little nicer to the ones you love, until they leave this world.
Never ever regret, because the chance of making thing a tiny bit better is always there. Just that you always take for granted that it stays forever there for you.
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Have a blessed week ahead. ^_^
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I totally understand what you mean.
That's why we need to change our mindset and learn to act rather than N.A.T.O (No-Action-Think-Only)
Have a blessed week ahead and thank you so much for your comments.
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It's great to read you can make it into a positive.
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Am glad that you found this article useful. Thank you for your condolences, and thank you so much for dropping by.
Hi JohnDoe,
It will be useless to keep drowning in the negative thoughts and grief that has come to pass. I have learned that passing such as these gives us a wake up call and hinting our hearts "What have you not done today?"
When I heard my cousin repeatedly saying "regret" I really wanted to hug her and said, "there's nothing to regret. What is done is done."
Thank you so much for your supportive comment.
Hi D. Armenta
Thank you very much. We are all still mourning but we know that we still have make good differences for the remaining love ones.
Have a blessed week everyone!