Parenting- no previous experience required
June 25th 2009 01:55
I have the peasure of being the parent of three grown children who have become responsible adults who contribute to society in a positive manner. I would like to think that my style of parenting, my love and concern for them played a part in their development. I know that being a parent has been the greatest joy and accomplishment of my adult life. It has been the toughest job I have ever had. I have realized as a parent and a professional educator I have learned that parents learn their skills from the people who raised them. Being a parent is a job that you can't quit. It is one in which you feel like the world is watching and judging your skills and abilities by the product................your children. Whether you are aware of it or not parents teach their children at times when they do not thinkthe children are paying attention. Authorities agree that children need unconditional love, guidelines and boundaries which lead to a sense of belonging. Everyone needs to know that they matter to someone else. When my children were young I thought that once they were adults they would no longer need their mom. I have been delightfully surprised that they still need a sounding board. As they work out their decisions, ideas and set goals for their future. Even though parents do not think that teenagers do not listen to their parents youth surveys show that parents are still the most powerful reason that young people make decisions to avoid drugs and alcohol. Parents have consistently set a standard and example for making positive decisions and setting goals. Learning to set goals, deal with disappointments and a sense of belonging are all factors in a persons life that help them develop into responsible productive citizens. So if you are a parent with children still at home, think about the example you set for them. What are your standards for the way you live your life? Do you take the time to express them to your children? Do you set goals and boundaries? It is never too late to take stock in the example you set for your children. As you take time to assess your parenting style etc. There comes a time when children must make decisions for themselves and accept the consequences,good or bad. When that time comes parents should also know that everyone has to make some mistakes themselves. Mistakes do not equal failure. Failure only happens when a person quits learning from istakes they have made.
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