Online Juliet to Online Romeo
This is something I wrote YEARS ago, at least 5 years ago. I read an essay on a newspaper about a guy who called himself an Online Romeo - talking about his online romance. I responded to him with this.
I saw this again while browsing through my files.
I saw this again while browsing through my files.
I met, fell in love, and got involved with someone I can only reach online. Yes, I also am the real thing… or was.
How did mine happen? I was online, finishing a presentation for school, and he was online, looking for someone to talk to. He bugged me, I wanted to take a break from my school work, so I allowed him to bug me, and the rest - as they say - is history.
I was wooed by his wits and funny remarks that relieved me from my tiring school work. I thanked him for keeping me company, he asked for my cell phone number, which I, although hesitant, gave anyway.
Soon, we were talking endlessly, online AND on the phone. He calls me thrice a day on my cell phone(I kid you not, he did. Perpetually.). We talk for hours online, and he got me. He simply got me. So in a matter of four short months, we were, - as they say it – “a couple.” As much as what was happening was something so ironic, something that I told myself I wouldn’t get into, I got caught in a whirlwind romance that I just couldn’t get out of.
I am a hopeless romantic, and he was just romantic. He’s an Asian-American extremely sweet, grew up in an Asian culture (which is why we connected a lot), mixed with gentlemanliness and the wits and smarts of a typical “American hunk.” Who wouldn’t fall for that?
I could not believe I fell in love with someone I haven’t met, I haven’t touched, hell I haven’t even seen him! We’ve been together for more than a year already and yet I still haven’t seen him. No picture whatsoever. But, as what online Romeo said, this kind of relationship entails TRUST. And a great deal of it for that matter.
I trusted him with my life. He’s handsome as what I’ve heard from friends online. He’s a bartender at night, which means he meets tons of women – more aggressive women every night. Some even leave their numbers or calling cards inside his tip jar. I’m talking to him on his cell phone while he was walking to a friend’s house and I hear some girl talk to him, telling him he’s got nice hair, soon enough she’s coming on to him! But hey, I trust him as much as I love him. So much.
True, it feels like I hit the jackpot. I have this amazing guy, who, despite all the women practically throwing themselves at him (including his ex), still sticks with me, somebody he can’t even touch and look straight in the eye. Somebody miles and miles away. He’s all a woman could ever ask for, he’s such a gentleman, has a good job, great family and friends, and loves me truly, that I feel my heart tingle every time I hear his voice, see his nickname online, read his emails or just thinking of him.
This kind of relationship entails a great deal of trust. I already said that didn’t I? Sadly, this jackpot of a guy, had one flaw (I knew he had to have one). Shortly after our first anniversary, I was receiving less and less emails from him. Less phone calls too. Then about 6 weeks after our anniversary, he emails me this… subject: I’m terribly sorry. The subject itself made my heart thump like a stampede of wild stallions. I read the short email, and afterwards, my whole body was numb. Turns out he failed to tell me one thing – that he’s married, well… WAS married. He’s separated the whole time we were “together” and is in the process of getting a divorce. He tells me everything he told me was true, especially his love for me. It’s just that he’s married. OUCH.
Need not say more. My dear online Romeo, I pray and hope everything goes well for you and your own Juliet. I’m only writing this to present the other side of what you wrote. It’s amazing to fall in love, and be in love. It’s exciting, especially if it’s with someone you just can’t be with. Then again it’s Big RISK spelled out clearly for you. I am not against online relationships mind you, but personally, I’d rather stay out of it. I still go online, still know people online, married people who actually met online, and heck I still see him online! He’s actually asking me take him back. I don’t think so.
Like Romeo, I still am thankful for whoever had this clever idea of the internet. For without it, most of what and who I am today wouldn’t be here.
P.S. after we broke up, he sent me his picture.. Damn! He looked sooo fine.
How did mine happen? I was online, finishing a presentation for school, and he was online, looking for someone to talk to. He bugged me, I wanted to take a break from my school work, so I allowed him to bug me, and the rest - as they say - is history.
Soon, we were talking endlessly, online AND on the phone. He calls me thrice a day on my cell phone(I kid you not, he did. Perpetually.). We talk for hours online, and he got me. He simply got me. So in a matter of four short months, we were, - as they say it – “a couple.” As much as what was happening was something so ironic, something that I told myself I wouldn’t get into, I got caught in a whirlwind romance that I just couldn’t get out of.
I am a hopeless romantic, and he was just romantic. He’s an Asian-American extremely sweet, grew up in an Asian culture (which is why we connected a lot), mixed with gentlemanliness and the wits and smarts of a typical “American hunk.” Who wouldn’t fall for that?
I could not believe I fell in love with someone I haven’t met, I haven’t touched, hell I haven’t even seen him! We’ve been together for more than a year already and yet I still haven’t seen him. No picture whatsoever. But, as what online Romeo said, this kind of relationship entails TRUST. And a great deal of it for that matter.
I trusted him with my life. He’s handsome as what I’ve heard from friends online. He’s a bartender at night, which means he meets tons of women – more aggressive women every night. Some even leave their numbers or calling cards inside his tip jar. I’m talking to him on his cell phone while he was walking to a friend’s house and I hear some girl talk to him, telling him he’s got nice hair, soon enough she’s coming on to him! But hey, I trust him as much as I love him. So much.
True, it feels like I hit the jackpot. I have this amazing guy, who, despite all the women practically throwing themselves at him (including his ex), still sticks with me, somebody he can’t even touch and look straight in the eye. Somebody miles and miles away. He’s all a woman could ever ask for, he’s such a gentleman, has a good job, great family and friends, and loves me truly, that I feel my heart tingle every time I hear his voice, see his nickname online, read his emails or just thinking of him.
This kind of relationship entails a great deal of trust. I already said that didn’t I? Sadly, this jackpot of a guy, had one flaw (I knew he had to have one). Shortly after our first anniversary, I was receiving less and less emails from him. Less phone calls too. Then about 6 weeks after our anniversary, he emails me this… subject: I’m terribly sorry. The subject itself made my heart thump like a stampede of wild stallions. I read the short email, and afterwards, my whole body was numb. Turns out he failed to tell me one thing – that he’s married, well… WAS married. He’s separated the whole time we were “together” and is in the process of getting a divorce. He tells me everything he told me was true, especially his love for me. It’s just that he’s married. OUCH.
Need not say more. My dear online Romeo, I pray and hope everything goes well for you and your own Juliet. I’m only writing this to present the other side of what you wrote. It’s amazing to fall in love, and be in love. It’s exciting, especially if it’s with someone you just can’t be with. Then again it’s Big RISK spelled out clearly for you. I am not against online relationships mind you, but personally, I’d rather stay out of it. I still go online, still know people online, married people who actually met online, and heck I still see him online! He’s actually asking me take him back. I don’t think so.
Like Romeo, I still am thankful for whoever had this clever idea of the internet. For without it, most of what and who I am today wouldn’t be here.
P.S. after we broke up, he sent me his picture.. Damn! He looked sooo fine.
