Nothing More Than Feelings
December 8th 2006 07:47
What is the most irritating sentence in the English language? Even though Adam Sandler is very, very, rich he keeps on making movies? Yes, that's right up there. But this week, I have heard the following sentence twice and if I hear once more, I might snap.
"I'M SORRY... THAT'S JUST THE WAY I FEEL"
Now both of the people used the sentence to conclude a tragically uninformed theory. Tragic because they were much more loud and passionate than they were... what's the phrase? Oh, yes "Making sense" - that's it.
First of all, no one should be sorry for having an opinion. I'm fairly certain, however, that in these cases (and in most cases) the use of the word 'sorry' was a backhanded gesture. A rhetorical device used by the more intellectual amongst us, and made famous by teenagers in almost every John Hughs movie in the 1990's.
Our opinions should be based on an understanding of the subject to which they refer and it's context, and given freely and without bias. When people repeat something they have heard someone else say; or form opinons based on hate, or fear of something they don't fully grasp, they should be thrown to the ground and jumped on, while I stuff my beer coaster into their gob and pummel them into submission with my size nines.
I'm sorry... that's just the way I fell.
"I'M SORRY... THAT'S JUST THE WAY I FEEL"
Now both of the people used the sentence to conclude a tragically uninformed theory. Tragic because they were much more loud and passionate than they were... what's the phrase? Oh, yes "Making sense" - that's it.
First of all, no one should be sorry for having an opinion. I'm fairly certain, however, that in these cases (and in most cases) the use of the word 'sorry' was a backhanded gesture. A rhetorical device used by the more intellectual amongst us, and made famous by teenagers in almost every John Hughs movie in the 1990's.
Our opinions should be based on an understanding of the subject to which they refer and it's context, and given freely and without bias. When people repeat something they have heard someone else say; or form opinons based on hate, or fear of something they don't fully grasp, they should be thrown to the ground and jumped on, while I stuff my beer coaster into their gob and pummel them into submission with my size nines.
I'm sorry... that's just the way I fell.
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Comment by Andrea
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I must admit, I dislike the phrase "With all due respect ..."
Because it's always followed by a totally disrespectful comment. Just because you say those words first, doesn't make the disrespectful bit any better or less horrible.
"With all due respect ... you smell like a pig and I hate your guts."
Oh, I smell like a pig and you hate my guts but that's okay because you really didn't mean to disrespect me. Thanks.
Anyway, sorry, that's just the way I feel ...
No, I'm only kidding. Don't snap, please don't snap ...
A.H.
Comment by katyzzz
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I just love this post of yours and Andrea's reply.
I think we need more of this 'tackle a subject' approach, without apology.
katyzzz
Comment by Jessicca
Learning Something Everyday
I guess some uses, "I'm sorry" or "With all due respect" is that they are trying to point out the truth of you as polite as possible.
Some might even use "Forgive me if I'm wrong...", I know I'm using this if I am commenting something that I feel right but the other might feel wrong about it.
It's just politeness, no biggie.
If little things like these will start triggering and creeping under you skin, you obviously need to chill out. ^_^
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Comment by Kate 1
Poster Of A Girl
>_< Haha! I am in total agreement about the phrase "With All Due Respect". Don't worry, I've had some 'quiet' time - no fear of me snapping until Adam Sandler releases 'Big Daddy 2: We Left Out some Jokes about Bodily Functions and Boobs"
Hello Katyzzz
Subject tackling is a good thing. Thanks for commenting!
Hey Jessica,
Oh yes, I agree. I am sure that when these phrases first came into common usage, they were definitely meant as a way of softening the blow.
My beef is not in the actual words, but the mis-use of them. Quite often it is blatently obvious that the speaker is not being sincere. Rather, they are using this addage as a way to cushion insults, slurs, or just plain stupidity - as though it will add some sort of validity or, as you say, politeness.
Unfortunately, I didn't choose for the posts on this page to be centred but I'll look at the formatting tomorrow and let you know if I work it out.
Thanks for commenting
- Kate
Comment by David my David
I prefer to say, 'I apologise for the way I feel', rather than say 'I'm sorry for the way I feel.'
To say 'Sorry' always suggests to me that I will try not to do it again. Whereas if I say, 'I apologise', I can say it over and over again without ever meaning I won't apologise again ...
It's just the way I feel.
Comment by Kate 1
Poster Of A Girl
Yes, saying that you are sorry for the way you feel means you shouldn't really feel that way again. At least not in public. Easier to change your words than your actions, hey?
I sometimes like to answer people with "I understand" for a similar reason. I may not care, but I understand, and would like change the subject.
- Kate
Comment by Always Eighteen
Always Eighteen
and then they continue with an offensive comment.
Comment by Soleil
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So that is supposed to affirmed that it is ok to make those jokes?
Ahh ... people are funny.
Comment by Kate 1
Poster Of A Girl
Exactly! There are so many expressions like this
Hi Soleil,
Yes, spot on. They two comments which directly effected me, this week, were based on race and sexuality. Luckily, the people in question did not resort to the "Some of my best friends are gay" type line, otherwise I might not have been able to maintain my normally lady-like composure.
- Kate
Comment by Hope
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When it comes to lines men use, I think "It's not you, it's me", is the most overused break-up line.
Comment by Kate 1
Poster Of A Girl
You know another word? Like - people are just inserting it wherever they want to.
[conversation overheard on the weekend]
"I was like, walking to the edge of the wharf and this guy like jumps out and tries to sell me these like, jewellry things and I was like 'Umm, I don't like them' it was like... gross."