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A child arrived just the other day, came into the world in the usual way
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Harry Chapman, Cats in the Cradle
Three weeks ago I gave birth to my fourth child, Lucas. And he pretty much came into the world in the usual way. As an outsider, the labour and delivery was textbook and fell within the parameters of a normal labour and delivery. No complications, no interventions, and I physically came out of it pretty unscathed.
Mentally on the other hand, it has been a real test.
This whole pregnancy, labour and delivery caper doesnt get easier. Well actually, the labours are easier. My body expedited the labour process with my 2nd, 3rd and 4th children. The pregnancy and delivery part, not so much.
My chiropractor informed me that a womans body never fully returns to pre-pregnancy condition. There is obviously some wear and tear that simply remains. Therefore making any following pregnancy a little more taxing on the body.
I dont understand why pregnancy has to be difficult. What purpose does it serve? High blood pressure, water retention, cramps, back pain, constipation, and the list goes on. Honestly, for as sophisticated as the human body is, it still leaves a lot to be desired.
And the hormones; why do I need to feel like crying one minute and screaming the next. My family around me doesnt know what theyre going to get from day to day. Again I ask you, whats the point?
I still need to be a functioning member of society, why am I struck down with these shortcomings? How does this prepare me for motherhood? How will this make me love my baby more?
But the delivery is a whole other monster. This is one instance where ignorance is bliss. With my first child I had no idea what lay in front of me so I just got on with the job of bearing down and pushing with all my might to deliver my daughter.
However, when it came to my 2nd labour and delivery I panicked. I froze, refused to push out of fear because I knew what was ahead of me. And this fear remained with my 3rd and 4th children. In fact, the fear reached a whole new level with my 4th child.
I dont understand why it must hurt so much to deliver a baby. If that is what our bodies are meant to do, then why make it so difficult. Its true, what they say, once the baby is born the pain is gone and after a while the memory of the pain fades. Presumably so women go back for more.
Well I went back for more, and this last time I was wondering whether I was going to get out of this alive. Right at the crucial moment I promised myself that 4 children are enough and I would never endure another pregnancy and delivery because it would be insane to put myself through all this again.
Mr M suggested that perhaps nature is trying to limit how many children we have; otherwise wed all have a dozen kids. I wonder what kind of world that would be?
But babies are so damn cute aren't they? Melts the heart.
September 29th 2009 11:47
Cat Stevens' Father & Son son lyrics
From the moment I could talk, I was ordered to listen
The Godfather
I have a sentimental weakness for my children and I've spoiled them as you can see. They talk when they should listen. - Don Vito Corleone
Hmmmmm.....
This Sunday is Father's Day here in Australia. The day we give the dad's of this world a pat on the back and say "You know what? You're alright."
Mr M is a good dad. It's nice knowing that I chose a good man to have a family with. But what makes him a good man? It's not that he's flawless. He's not. Neither am I. It's the fact that Mr M doesn't hide or deny his flaws or limitations; he recognises them, addresses them.
Basically he's man enough to be honest with himself and rise to it.
And his reward isn't that this Sunday he will be celebrated (although it is nice) it's the fact that everyday when he walks through the front door the kids excitedly run up to greet him.
We're quite a few years off the teenage years so we'll see how the greeting process goes then.
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY MR M!
DONE GOOD, PLAYED STRONG!
How do you handle disappointment? Do you embrace it? Do you ignore? Do you distract yourself from it? Do you use it to empower you?
The thing about disappointment is that it is 100% guaranteed to come knocking at your door several times over
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About a month ago I announced to the family and friends that Mr M and I are expecting Baby No. 4.
Congratulations and delight abound I was feeling pretty good. Until I read the following article
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Do you think weve lost our ability to think? I think we dont give ourselves enough credit in some cases
.and in other we give ourselves too much credit.
Over the last 8 years, since I became a parent, the amount of parenting titles available on our bookshop shelves has just exploded. Is there really a market for this many books? Is there any end in sight? There is of course the baby section, the toddler section, the preschooler, starting school, heading into the tween faze, teenage years
.Im assuming we stop once our children become adults. There are books concentrating on boys, and there are books concentrating on girls. Those with learning difficulties and disabilities
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Over the last couple of weeks I have been watching parliamentary question time on ABC. Im not altogether sure I gain any clarity on current issues as the politicians seem to always dance around the answers with their fancy deviations and verbose responses.
However, I truly sit in amazement for the speaker of the house. He keeps proceedings moving forward, he quickly pounces on anyone getting out of line and most importantly he keeps his cool
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Did homework make you smarter? Did it give you that edge over the other kids in class? Did it make you appreciate more what you were learning in school? Or did you just do it to get to the end? To appease parents and teachers?
Ive just had an article go on live on www.webchild.com.au titled Homework or Childs Play? Discussing whether homework really is relevant
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Its true. I was in my local Myer store looking for canisters to fit our variety of teas and there she was. Her mobile phone rang and it got my attention; I looked towards her. I instantly recognized her; but still I had to be sure.
As for the wife of a former prime minister she wasnt all that striking. I dont really know what I expected but she really just looked like my mum. No fancy shoes, no fancy bag, no fancy dress and no fancy hair. She just looked nice
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Comment by Mrs M
on A CHILD ARRIVED JUST THE OTHER DAY
Mum's Word
So are you frequenting Babes in Arms movie sessions?
So if there is a God, he's definitely a man because no woman would let the system be this flawed...except for the unconditional love that comes with babies.
And if science and evolution is responsible for us being here, someone forgot to carry the 1 because I'm sure 10 cm dilation is just not enough.
Thanks for your well wishes Tracy
Love & stuff
Mrs M