JessiccaIs Moving In Together - a good decision?
October 23rd 2006 09:09
Today I just read over a 2004 Men's Health issue and found this article rather interesting to debate upon.
Shaking Up Is Hard To Do
If she moves in, you have 2 years to cough up a ring.
Letting your girlfriend move in may seem like a thrifty plan. It saves on gas, rent, and escort services, for starters.
But it may also send a signal that an engagement is in the works. Researchers at Bowling Green State University in Ohio studied 398 unmarried people who had lived together for one month to five years. They found out about 75 percent pf people – male or female – who move in with a mate expect marriage after 2 years.
After 2 years without proposal, reality hits and the relationship disintegrates. The meantime can suck too: The instability of waiting for that proposal (or constantly dodging the issue) tends to make both partners miserable, says Susan Brown, Ph. D, a sociologist at Bowling Green and the leader of the study.
According to Brown, housemates scored higher on a depression test than a group of married couple. “Considering this evidence, I would think twice before cohabiting with someone I wasn’t interested in marrying,” she says.
Now, what about readers out there? I would like to receive some comments upon “Moving In issues” if there is a case that one day my partner decides to ask me to move over.
Those who are married, have you stayed together first before getting married, or does your partner popped the question during courtship and tie the knot without moving in first?
Shaking Up Is Hard To Do
If she moves in, you have 2 years to cough up a ring.
Letting your girlfriend move in may seem like a thrifty plan. It saves on gas, rent, and escort services, for starters.
But it may also send a signal that an engagement is in the works. Researchers at Bowling Green State University in Ohio studied 398 unmarried people who had lived together for one month to five years. They found out about 75 percent pf people – male or female – who move in with a mate expect marriage after 2 years.
After 2 years without proposal, reality hits and the relationship disintegrates. The meantime can suck too: The instability of waiting for that proposal (or constantly dodging the issue) tends to make both partners miserable, says Susan Brown, Ph. D, a sociologist at Bowling Green and the leader of the study.
According to Brown, housemates scored higher on a depression test than a group of married couple. “Considering this evidence, I would think twice before cohabiting with someone I wasn’t interested in marrying,” she says.
Now, what about readers out there? I would like to receive some comments upon “Moving In issues” if there is a case that one day my partner decides to ask me to move over.
Those who are married, have you stayed together first before getting married, or does your partner popped the question during courtship and tie the knot without moving in first?
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Comment by katyzzz
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I don't think moving in together is a good idea, I like a little Romance and believe in Courtship.
I believe young women to-day are desperate and anxious and the guys lazy and lacking in a sense
of responsibility.
Unless the men are going to start having babies, someone has to learn to respect motherhood,
doing without to achieve a good end and as I don't want to write a book I think I'll leave it at that.
I think we are all constantly learning, whether we are aware of it or not.
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engaging.
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Comment by Jessicca
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Thank you so much for dropping by! ^_^
And sorry for the late reply as I just returned from hiking.
I agree with you that living together for the sake of easing up the courtship isn't a good idea, unless both are working towards full commitment and marriage.
I suppose if the guys wanna get their dream girl with them for the rest of their lives, they will have to work for it.
Nowadays how many guys would have that ideal mind of a happy simple family with a loving wife and kids? Now that's a question.
Thanks again for dropping by and do come back in future!