Me Myself..
July 25th 2008 06:41
I think I have to write it down to put my mind to rest. I wonder why a woman has to somehow choose between her relationships and her self. I mean why cannot these go well together? Does every woman wonder why she has to redefine her life after a 'man' arrives? I always see my friends trying to breathe as soon as they express a desire to live their life on their own terms. Why is this such a problem? A woman has full rights to live her life the way she wants. Why does she 'ask' for it? I now have started feeling that it is we women; the so called 'weaker' sex, who tend to be so insecure and we are ready to sacrifice even our basic duties towards our own self in the name of love. If we look at an institution called marriage, there have been certain conventions going on from past 10,000 years and I believe it is in our hands to change them. As a basic example, having one master bedroom in a 'home' is considered to be the ideal lover abode. So to say : Marriage leading to one home leading to one room signifying a couple! Easy choice. But what if two people need their personal space? Go out with friends? Sit in the lobby? This 'space' issue generates a thousand frictions. Separate room means trouble! Well two people can live happily even if they do not share a room. It is really important for a woman not to lose her identity. Having our own rooms has been our basic need since our childhood. How much we used to love decorating our rooms? How much time we used to spend in there as girls? Collection of dolls and toys, those funky magazines, big posters on the walls, colorful make-up cases and what not! A woman after marriage requires that with the same intensity or maybe even more! I have now realized that if we are not happy and content with our own existence, it is impossible to raise a family! So ladies and ladies, love yourself and more important : respect and embrace your personal space and create it; no matter what..
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