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Wouldn't it be nice if there were such a occurrence as a marriage that never had problems, however merely because of the reality that we are all unique individuals who think and feel in different ways, there'll never be a couple that doesn't suffer from problems at times. It does not make a difference how devoted the both of you are or how great your relationship is, the actual fact is you will on occasion undergo troubles between you.

That being said, in strong marriages couples have usually figured out the right way to solve the troubles that do occur before they produce real harm to the marriage. The following problems are some that can destroy a relationship if not taken care of and are symptoms that the couple needs a little help in solving the marriage problems and learning to make the marriage stronger.

My husband and I make a point to spend time with each other and if you and your other half do not do likewise, your marriage will suffer. I am not talking about just being in the same room together. I mean actually having a conversation while enjoying being together. It is pleasant to enjoy time together with relatives and friends, but you also need to enjoy time together alone. Doing this is a way you stay connected mentally and helps you want to connect physically.

The talk part is frequently the point that causes couples to stumble and it's no surprise that communication problems are an additional sign that the marriage relationship is not where it ought to be. You may perhaps think that you're communicating, but if you cannot recollect the last time you had a conversation about stuff that didn't include your kids or your house, you almost certainly ought to work on the communication between the two of you. True communication keeps you in tune with each other and keeps you connected.

Intimacy by its very definition suggests closeness. A relationship that is lacking in physical intimacy is lacking in the familiarity that only comes by way of physical touch. It's also a relationship where an affair is more likely to happen and recovering from an affair is tough. By our very nature we desire physical intimacy. A marriage cannot be a strong one when physical intimacy is not there. In marriages where one partner through illness or accident becomes unable to physically have intimate relations, the couples who in spite of everything maintain intimacy through cuddling, kissing and touching are those whose marriage will survive the lack of ability to engage in intimate relations. No other thing should send you searching for assistance with your marriage more rapidly than a decline or total lack of physical intimacy.

Although there may not be any problem free marriages, you will find some couples which are in a better position to deal with troubles than other couples. If you recognize yourself in any of the above situations, I promise you your relationship with your partner is not as good as it might be. Expand the amount of time you and your spouse spend alone together and spend some of that time chatting about your hopes and dreams. The end result of this ought to be improved physical intimacy and a much stronger marriage.
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Resentment Can Ruin a Marriage

June 29th 2010 17:58
As time goes by, do you discover your self holding a grudge, not letting go of damaging things that have happened, regularly reminding your spouse of issues that occurred previously, blaming your spouse for all that is not right with your marriage? All of those are symptoms of a buildup of resentment in your marriage. Resentment develops when one or more things your partner said or did causes you to feel anger and hurt. Holding onto these feelings, as an alternative to forgiving your spouse and coping with whatever induced the anger and hurt, is a recipe for resentment. Having resentment towards your partner is among the surest methods to poison and destroy your marriage.

Resentment causes bitterness and if allowed to build, you will soon find yourself full of adverse ideas toward your spouse. The destructive thoughts not only threaten your marriage, however in addition they damage you. A quote I've typically heard is "Resentment is like consuming poison and expecting someone else to die." The poison of resentment affects every facet of your life. As you hold onto resentment you become increasingly bitter. As well becoming bitter, resentment can result in feelings of depression.

The truth is that whatever somebody has done, is done, you cannot change what has already happened. Many individuals attempt to convince themselves that remembering and holding onto the past makes issues different. The only difference this makes is in your attitude, it becomes progressively worse.

The only person who you've got control over is you. Bear that in mind. You cannot manage the ideas and actions of your partner, however you'll be able to manage your ideas and actions. Even in the very best of marriages, issues happen that cause one or the other partner to be hurt. The distinction between a marriage that works and an unhealthy marriage is in marriage that works they learn to let go of that harm and move on instead of harboring resentment and clinging to the hurt.

You can be happy or you can be sad, it's your choice. You may decide to hold on to every real or imagined hurt and continually really feel the pain or you can choose to forgive and let go of the hurt. What I am trying to say is, hurt feelings are going to occur, moving past it or holding on and feeling resentment due to those feelings is completely your choice.


Is resentment a silent partner in your marriage? If it is, I can promise you that it is slowly but absolutely destroying your relationship. You can not love and hate someone on the same time and the end result of harboring resentment is always hate. As you should be able to see, resentment is a relationship destroyer and a major marriage problem. Don't let your resentment damage your marriage. Visit this site for proven strategies to fight resentment and strengthen your marriage.
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