man trouble
November 1st 2007 04:01
What do you do when your boyfriend of 3 years calls it all off with no explanation other than the trusty "it's not you, it's me?" line, and then goes out of town for two weeks?
We strong career women of today struggle a little in these types of situations. Our strong independent self tells us to carry on, head held high and view this as an opportunity to create an even more fabulous version of ourself.
The not so strong, craves-someone-to-love-us self wants to curl up in a corner until you realise you have made a terrible mistake and beg us for forgiveness. Which we try to hold out on, and then give in once you bring flowers.
With such a huge internal struggle on the go, it's not really surprising we can't think about your feelings as well right now. After all, you got us into this mess in the first place. So when you call to say you are so sad about what's happened, forgive me for not being all tea and sympathy. I am too busy trying to get myself out of bed to worry about how bad you feel. About the siutation you created. By yourself. Without talking to me, your girlfriend of three years first.
And then you go away, and I discover that despite not being sure if you want to be with me, you have kindly left your washing in the machine. I only realise as I am hanging it all out.
So what do you do? You go to the park, with chocolate, and a girlie book. And you sit in the sun and pretend that this didn't happen for a couple of hours.
And like a little angel, a three year old appears (could that be a sign? 3 years old? 3 year old relationship? Maybe I do analyse things too much...) and offers you a flower. She even puts it in your hair and tells you how beautiful everyone will think you are. And then, she puts her little arm around your shoulder in an unexpected hug, for no reason at all.
And you realise that just when life seems terrible, it really isn't.
We strong career women of today struggle a little in these types of situations. Our strong independent self tells us to carry on, head held high and view this as an opportunity to create an even more fabulous version of ourself.
The not so strong, craves-someone-to-love-us self wants to curl up in a corner until you realise you have made a terrible mistake and beg us for forgiveness. Which we try to hold out on, and then give in once you bring flowers.
With such a huge internal struggle on the go, it's not really surprising we can't think about your feelings as well right now. After all, you got us into this mess in the first place. So when you call to say you are so sad about what's happened, forgive me for not being all tea and sympathy. I am too busy trying to get myself out of bed to worry about how bad you feel. About the siutation you created. By yourself. Without talking to me, your girlfriend of three years first.
And then you go away, and I discover that despite not being sure if you want to be with me, you have kindly left your washing in the machine. I only realise as I am hanging it all out.
So what do you do? You go to the park, with chocolate, and a girlie book. And you sit in the sun and pretend that this didn't happen for a couple of hours.
And like a little angel, a three year old appears (could that be a sign? 3 years old? 3 year old relationship? Maybe I do analyse things too much...) and offers you a flower. She even puts it in your hair and tells you how beautiful everyone will think you are. And then, she puts her little arm around your shoulder in an unexpected hug, for no reason at all.
And you realise that just when life seems terrible, it really isn't.
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