Let me be your selfish friend.....
May 16th 2008 03:52
It is amazing how the value and the expectation of friendship is different from a country to an other and I guess crossing other cultures we have to adapt to their meaning. In some cultures a friend is someone with whom you can share anything and everything whereas in other it is more about the ones you party with and have fun, or even in some countries acquaintances are called friends.
Despite their differences in all cultures and countries we have the notion of friendship but it seems that in the modern society friendship seems more and more selfish. you might argue that actually that is a bit of a generalization and maybe not even true but think about it a bit longer. In my observations I noticed that people are more an more focused on their own person. Sure we are part of an individualistic society, TV ads even people tell us to take care of ourselves, that it is the most important. That most certainly influences our behavior. Seriously you think we are not selfish in friendship?
I do agree that any relationship should go both ways but business????
Anyway, you will notice easily specifically if you like to please people that you are often taken advantage of. It is OK for you to travel to your friends place but you live too far for them to come. It is OK for you to change your plans to do something with them but maybe not the other way round. Concessions are easier your side, worse some might tell you that you don't mind really so it makes it OK.
I am not saying that we are all looking for somebody to take advantage of but just trying to see and analyze why these behaviors are becoming common.
Aren't we feeling more and more lonely and depressed in our modern individualistic society, according to the statistics?
Maybe we should try to reflect on why and look on how we conceive our relations with others and maybe change them.....
We have all lost sight of people dear to us and quite often when I reflect on it there were often one sided relationships, or they ended up because everybody was so focus on himself/herself.
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