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After Lucys three month relationship with boyfriend Chad* ended last year she has come to some conclusions about what her life is really all about. Unlike many girls her age its not about snagging the hottest guy or attending all the coolest parties. Though unlike older women its also not love or career that is behind the steering wheel of Lucys existence. [Its] my happiness. If Im not happy I dont think Id stay that way very long and Id try to get to the source of the problem quite quickly. At the moment its family and self [that make me happy]. I have no idea what sort of career Id pursue!
I have no idea what sort of career path Id like to follow at this stage! At the moment I think Id like to become a solicitor but things arent really going according to plan!
This may be sounding all very real to most of you, as well as the desire to have more money and more certainty as to what the future holds for me! But what happens when you venture into the big bad world of solidifying career paths and searching for The One? How do you know when to make crucial, life-altering moves that may change your life and your values forever?
Audrey's story is coming up...
Lucy, 21, is a typical Australian girl. This sounds sad and I have just realized how boring I am! I am a full-time student (all of 8 hours a week!) at Sydney University doing a Bachelor of Economic and Social Sciences with a double major. I work part time in an accountancy practice and I enjoy the beach, shopping and buying clothes (when I have the money), partying and going to see live gigs.
But Lucy is not alone in thinking her life is boring. She thinks the best aspect of a relationship is really getting to know somebody and the worst is the awkward break up conversations (girls everywhere cry out in empathy!) Arent these two of the most extraordinarily exciting yet dreadfully daunting experiences of almost every girls life? How can they possible exist in a boring life? These circumstances alone constitute a life where our fragile mind, body and soul are subjected to matters of the heart be it skipping beats or wrenching aches. Add this bewilderment to an already perplexed world of intricacies and you have the ingredients for one simple fact - that every girl (and boy) leads a pretty spectacular life!
TO BE CONTINUED...
The trick of life is not getting what you want but wanting what you want after you get it Katharine Hepburn
Think about your life for a moment. What do you value as the most important entity? It could be friends, career, love, self or a number of less obvious factors. Are you part of a large social circle or do you have a small group of close-knit gal pals? Are you in your dream job or are you still hunting for something more fulfilling? Are you single, attached, in between suitors or on the rebound? And do you count yourself as a life value, or do all the above overshadowed the importance of self-worth and awareness?
STAY TUNED... 
The Daily Telegraph circulated a similar article also in 2003 entitled Perfect match, thanks to your mobile giving details of Telstra [has been] examining "proximity dating" technology to go with mobile phones. It could be operational by Valentine's Day in 2004. With location mobile services, you put a profile of whom you'd like to meet and who you are into your mobile, and when you get within 100 metres of someone compatible the phone starts beeping. Profiles could include such things as age, eye and hair colour, height, likes and dislikes, star signs and what you're looking for in a partner. If you've got an MMS phone you can exchange photos, speak to the other person, decide where you want to meet, and even videoconference together. The service will work with existing technology using GPS and software from mobile phone carriers.
Although this notion of proximity dating is yet to surface the popularity of mobile phone and other technological services as a means of interaction with the opposite sex is escalating which suggests those beeps signaling romantic matches every 100 metres may be in the not too distant future. It reduces a number of risks including shyness, inability to put together a sentence, stumbling over your words and, frankly, making a complete fool of yourself, plus reducing the sting of rejection. These articles, as well as programs such as Single Girls from the UK four single women spend seven weeks on a dating frenzy in London, using all new technological services to snag the man of their dreams - are testament to the uncontrollable and often successful spree of 21st century dating modus operandi.
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An article published in The Sydney Morning Herald in 2003 entitled Text and the city reported SMS may be the perfect tool for romantic texting, but it means flirting is no longer free. Sending such messages as C4U ("crazy for you") or W2BAI ("want to be an item?") will cost the sender up to 25 cents a time - a boon for the carriers, which have become the modern-day Cupids. Virgin Mobile, which estimates 70 per cent of its customers are under 30, charges only 10 cents when both the sender and the recipient are Virgin subscribers. In a recent "love poll", Virgin found 90 per cent of its teenage users flirt by texting, 53 per cent use SMS to ask someone out, and 25 per cent thought SMS would help them "score". Virgin has even released a guide to textual flirting: "The Joy of Text", and hosts regular SMS "love-in" events. In April, the telco will start a dedicated mobile phone dating service in the UK, Flirt Alert, similar to Vodafone's Luv Shack. A more sinister side to the developments, though, is the presence of mobile phone "stalkers": being pestered by someone sending unwanted advances.
Even before email and messenger facilities there were answering machines that allowed us to dodge any actual human contact. But these services usually assist us in conversing, however statically, with people we already know and just dont have time or dont want to make time for a decent conversation over the phone or over a coffee. Many people may have thought this aloof nature of interaction couldnt possibly develop further than internet chat rooms where we arent even sure whether we are talking to someone of the description provided to us. A tall blonde, blue-eyed guy in his 20s with incredibly tanned skin and killer looks could actually be a hunchbacked middle-aged hermit who preys on a discussion of sexual fantasies with young girls
eww
Just in case youve recently been rescued from the islands of Thurston or Attu after years of isolation and havent the foggiest concept of what Im jabbering about, let me welcome to the technology era of tele-cafes, 7 men in 7 minutes speed dating and sms rendezvousing (and dumping); where chance dating is a thing of the past. Its all about picking and choosing, tailoring your next interaction with your ultimately desirable character.
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You know those nights when youd give anything to get some shut eye? Youve been up and on-the-go since 6am that morning and despite your over-tired state your body just wont shut down and drift off to the land of nod. If not, then youre possibly missing out on a pioneering element on the future of relationships.
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"He's Just Not That Into You: Your Daily Wake Up Call" and "Its Called a Break-Up Because Its Broken: The Smart Girls Break-Up Buddy"
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I was looking at the Google ads on my blog page and realized all were about finding the right guy/soulmate/lover/dirty little fun haver {Zooey Deschanel, Failure to Launch}. Is that a main priority on everyones things to do before I die/turn 30 list?
People are different in all kinds of ways, and when it comes to relationships there are those who want anywhere from fun and no strings to total monogamous commitment or anywhere between these two extremes. It can hit a couple hard when you both evolve in a relationship and change your idea of where you want to be in the future. You may have started out with the same wants, needs, desires and aspirations for your partnership, but those things can start to slide out of view and become differentiated from the ideas of your partner.
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Comment by kate
on The Herald's 'Text in the City'
I think call costs would definitely affect some people's decisions as whther to text or call, but I definitely think approachability and confidence and laziness also enters the equation. I admit all the shorthand drives me nuts - it took me longer than anyone I know to find out what 'pp'l and 'lol' meant (this was many moons ago but still, I was totally lost! You can just imagine how bamboozled I am in this era, haha).
Texting is quick and easy and can avoid awkward situations, but being void of human interaction can actually reduce social communication rather than increase it. In some respect it really depends if you're a talker or a texter...