insight...
August 19th 2007 11:17
Is it better to hide the pain? Wear the smiling face...
Or should we acknowledge the hurting feeling and let the tears flow.
Is it lonely and sad to go to dinner by yourself?
Or is it empowering?
I stand and watch. I begin a conversation and she does not stop. I think to myself maybe she just wants someone to listen to her and she can't stand to talk to herself anymore. She tells me that her kids are grown up and left the nest, and while she has many degrees and has gone through different jobs... she is very discontented in life. She has nothing to do, she says. I feel like saying there is always something to do in life. I feel like there is too much to do, and so few hours to do it in.
Watching and learning from body language I see what people actually say, but am interested to know what they really mean.
When you ask a question to someone it is only once you ask it four times that you will recieve a truthful answer to the question. This information was relayed to me from a 28 year old Irish friend of mine.
I sat and pondered this information and stored it in my head forever.
But really what did this mean? Is it that people want to hide things?
I don't really think thats the case. I think its more so that people are so used to having to not tell the whole truth. Really the truth is there but it's not until someone bangs it out of us that it is revealed.
I asked the old lady, table for one, many questions as I truly was interested but there was so much I missed out. All i wanted to ask was why she had come to dinner all by herself and let herself look vulnerable and lonely, when the insightful truth may be far from that.
Or should we acknowledge the hurting feeling and let the tears flow.
Is it lonely and sad to go to dinner by yourself?
Or is it empowering?
I stand and watch. I begin a conversation and she does not stop. I think to myself maybe she just wants someone to listen to her and she can't stand to talk to herself anymore. She tells me that her kids are grown up and left the nest, and while she has many degrees and has gone through different jobs... she is very discontented in life. She has nothing to do, she says. I feel like saying there is always something to do in life. I feel like there is too much to do, and so few hours to do it in.
Watching and learning from body language I see what people actually say, but am interested to know what they really mean.
When you ask a question to someone it is only once you ask it four times that you will recieve a truthful answer to the question. This information was relayed to me from a 28 year old Irish friend of mine.
I sat and pondered this information and stored it in my head forever.
But really what did this mean? Is it that people want to hide things?
I don't really think thats the case. I think its more so that people are so used to having to not tell the whole truth. Really the truth is there but it's not until someone bangs it out of us that it is revealed.
I asked the old lady, table for one, many questions as I truly was interested but there was so much I missed out. All i wanted to ask was why she had come to dinner all by herself and let herself look vulnerable and lonely, when the insightful truth may be far from that.
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