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Im going to be a what? dads guide to the first few months of pregnancy

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Final chapter of the story

February 18th 2009 04:29

We lost the baby 6 ½ weeks in and our little bundles of joy left us to go to whatever lies beyond this life. I say “joys” because we lost twins. Its hard to explain the pain other then feeling like part of your soul has been ripped from your body and squashed under a ten ton truck.
When you set your hopes and dreams on something only to have it ripped away it makes life a little hard and believe me when people say oh it gets easier after a while IT DOESN’T just shut the fuck up ok. People will try to be kind and offer condolences and generally smother you but in the end you and your partner have to grieve both separately and together. Never blame one another for what has happened because you will destroy your relationship and everything you have both built together.

I will post some thoughts and feelings as the months go on its been a very rough month for us

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Month 2

February 18th 2009 04:26

Month 2
We almost lost the baby last night it must have been pretty bloody close there was a huge fight between my fiancé and her brother the biggest loser was the door to the lounge room but it scared me to the point that I was still shaking 7hrs after it happened.

I have seen Rachael mad but never to the point of hysteria. I'm worried about her but I don’t know what to do. I'm scared that we are going to lose the baby, scared about her health both physical and mental and scared that if we don’t get the hell out of dodge so to speak that something very bad is going to happen. What can I do? We don’t have the money to fix the door or to move out even though our lease is up. Our only option is miles from anywhere and is only a 6month offer so even if the baby survives we would be thrown out of there before he or she is born. Now you know why I'm scared we have no stable future for our child.

Month 2 has just started and its blood test time yay we get to find out exactly how far along the bub is. We have an ultrasound next month so we get to see it moving around which should be pretty cool

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month 1

February 18th 2009 04:22

Month 1
I’m sitting on the floor with a dog curled up to me, It’s nearly midnight, I have a sleeping fiancé to my left and the sound of nothingness around me. I found out about a week ago that ive got a little bundle of joy on the way and already life is changing rapidly.
My first thoughts when I got the news were holy crap, no way, is she pulling my leg, am I really going to be a dad?

The honest reality is that im not one who is easily motivated or easily changed so its been strange dealing with the reality that A. I'm going to be a father and B. I’m going to have to do a hell of a lot more then sit around and play computer games.

The mood swings are the hardest to deal with at this stage and it takes a bit out of you but its also nest of time you realize that the time has come to knuckle down and pull your share because you have 8 months of this to come and a life time of being a parent.

Its hard not to take to take a lot of what is said to heart in the heat of an argument but this is one of those cases where you need to listen to what she says and try not to argue back. Going against a pregnant woman in an argument is like fighting Mohammed Ali at” the rumble in jungle” you will get your ass kicked from one end of the ring to the other, come out bruised and battered and have achieved absolutely nothing unless you include a bloody big hole in your relationship that you are going to have to mend.

Ive been a man child for a long time refusing to grow up because grownups have to be serious but now reality has hit me and im slowly beginning to come to terms with the fact that im going to have to grow up or im never going to have a family or a wife. Life is like a stone skipping across a pond, wherever the rock lands its causes ripples and those ripples continue well after the rock has bounced away.

It’s been a hard month, a reality shock, a time of realization and yet a period of great joy this is the beginning of a new phase of life and as someone once said I'm not quite sure where this road goes but ‘I’ll never know unless I travel it so here’s to the journey folks where ever it takes us
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Guys for goodness sake make your better half as comfortable as possible. The mood swings will only get worse and if you don’t do your best to help her out you may very well not have a baby or a partner by the time the nine months is up. Stress can cause miscarriages especially early on so no matter how hard it may seem at the moment be patient because it doesn’t take much to lose it all.

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