Hooking Up With The Same Sex Is Still Cheating
January 3rd 2008 02:54
Disclaimer: This was not sparked by something my girlfriend did. I wrote this because a recent close friend, not to be named, and his slut girlfriend have had to go through this, shall I say, traumatic experience. My girlfriend Alex happens to be amazing, and wouldn't do this. Also it helps that AT LEAST two of my ex girlfriends have done this.
I've dated a few girls who considered them selves "bisexual." I put that in quotes because I'm not really sure if they were or not. I know plenty of people do it these days for the attention. It's become quite the trend here in America, I'm not sure about anywhere else in the world. Most of these girls found it okay for them to hook up with other girls while dating me. This is not okay! This is wrong! I don't care what you think or how you feel, if you're dating someone, and you so much as KISS someone else, you're cheating. It's not a hard concept to grasp.
I don't discriminate. Women want to be equal with men? Fine. So if you hook up with another chick, I'm gonna treat it like you're hooking up with a guy.
Cheating is cheating is cheating. Whether it's kissing or sex, it's still cheating.
Stick to one person, please.
Which is also pretty crappy. When I'm dating a straight girl, I have to worry about other guys coming along. When I'm dating a bi girl, I've gotta worry about not only guys, but girls, too! How stressful.
I'm done ranting, but strangely I don't feel better. I have a feeling this is going to bother me for a long time.
I've dated a few girls who considered them selves "bisexual." I put that in quotes because I'm not really sure if they were or not. I know plenty of people do it these days for the attention. It's become quite the trend here in America, I'm not sure about anywhere else in the world. Most of these girls found it okay for them to hook up with other girls while dating me. This is not okay! This is wrong! I don't care what you think or how you feel, if you're dating someone, and you so much as KISS someone else, you're cheating. It's not a hard concept to grasp.
I don't discriminate. Women want to be equal with men? Fine. So if you hook up with another chick, I'm gonna treat it like you're hooking up with a guy.
Cheating is cheating is cheating. Whether it's kissing or sex, it's still cheating.
Stick to one person, please.
Which is also pretty crappy. When I'm dating a straight girl, I have to worry about other guys coming along. When I'm dating a bi girl, I've gotta worry about not only guys, but girls, too! How stressful.
I'm done ranting, but strangely I don't feel better. I have a feeling this is going to bother me for a long time.
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Comment by Michaelie
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Many girls 'experiment', for fun, and I suspect those girls were maybe a little bit immmature, but didn't mean to hurt you by it. I doubt it was the result of any real conflict of attraction.
That's my take on it anyway - hope it helps.
Michaelie
Comment by Garrett Mickley
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I understand what you're saying and agree with you, but that doesn't anger me any less. Like I said, cheating is cheating is cheating. These girls were all in high school and college. Most of the time they were sober when it happened, too, so alchohol (or drugs) wasn't their excuse (nor is it an acceptable excuse anyway, in my books)
Comment by Michaelie
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Out of interest, would you have been more angry and upset if they had cheated with a male person?
Comment by Garrett Mickley
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I wouldn't have been MORE upset, probably just as upset.
Like I said, I'm all for equality. For me, cheating with a girl is the same as cheating with a guy. I don't care who it's with, it's the fact that they're doing it that angers (and hurts) me. Especially since these are things I make clear at the beginning of the relationship.
Comment by Anonymous
Have you ever asked them why the feel the need to do it?
Comment by Garrett Mickley
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Maybe I have asked in the past and don't remember. I probably got an answer like "I dunno..."
Comment by Michaelie
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Michaelie
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Comment by Patricia 7
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I think you should stop dating bisexual girls so you only have to worry about men...
Comment by Garrett Mickley
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I never seem to find out until AFTER we're already dating.
But I don't discriminate against sexuality.
And my current girlfriend is absolutely AMAZING and would never do that stuff to me.
Katyzzz, it's not harmless if there's conflict of attraction.
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I have kissed a lot of girl myself, mostly under influence of alcohol etc, and because we got carried away by how much we adore each other as friends (girls are very much like this though. Very close) , but I wouldn't do it now that I'm in a relationship, because it would feel like cheating on my boyfriend.
He is a very manly man who could say something like:
-Go for it girls, I want to watch! and ofcourse, if I felt like it at the time, and with his permission, I could kiss a girl. Absolutely.
But behind his back or without his concent, it is as wrong as kissing another guy.