Health Affected By Relationships?
January 23rd 2012 10:35
We have relationships with any and everything in our lives. You have a relationship with your favourite chair; your pillow, that’s why you carry it with you whenever you sleep over with friends or in hotels; a child carries its blanket, favourite toy or whatever it loves, with where ever he/she goes. We have relationships with people around us. Many years ago I had a “street” relationship. Different sidewalks were easy, uncomfortable or downright difficult to walk together with my guide dog... Then there were the people who travelled on the same bus each morning; people I met regularly on the street on or from work to the bus stop, shop attendants where I often did my shopping, lift attendants, etc.
What does this all have to do with my health? Everything.
Relationship before birth
Relationships are formed with the foetus even before birth. The mother’s emotions and feelings have either a positive or negative effect on the unborn baby. If she is tensed, depressed or anxious the baby is directly affected.
Not only the mother but also the father of the unborn child will have an effect on it for the rest of the unborn baby’s life. I am sure you have heard of a baby become restless when it hears the father’s voice when daddy-to-be comes home. What and how daddy says it, can either make baby kick with joy when he touches mummy’s belly or the foetus may even stop moving or doesn’t fall asleep in the womb when the relationship between its parents is harsh, or even abusive. Therefore daddy-to-be should also talk calmly to the pregnant mother. A loving relationship between the most important people in a child’s life, even before birth, will give direction to its entire life. Psychiatrists and psychologist are realizing this fact and do go back to a patient’s life in the womb to resolve certain problems and phobias in the adult’s life.
Compliments, false and true
Compliments can have a negative effect on a child too. If the compliment is false, the child can sense it in your voice, body language or eyes. Such lies undermine a child’s trust in the person lying to him/her. This lack of trust is often the cause of a child, even adult’s, problems upholding relationships with the people in their lives.
Some people think it is a compliment to tell a person who passes exams that their efforts rendered great results and then encourages the student to try and do even better in the next one. There was a brilliant medical student who passed all her exams at the university with above-average results. When she completed her studies and had less than 95% in one of her subjects, she committed suicide. The letter she left her parents read, “Sorry mum and dad, I weren’t good enough. I failed your trust in my abilities.”
Do we give our Undivided Attention to our children, spouses, friends and colleagues? We are running through life without ever realizing that a moment wasted is wasted for ever; the sad results last forever too. We all know that feeling of tenseness as we experience that there is so much to be done and so little time to do it! What we don’t realize is that we are depriving ourselves, children, friends and families of precious moments in all of our lives. Because we don’t listen or pay full attention, we miss what we are told. Children feel neglected or rejected; not good enough therefore not living up to the parent’s expectations. Unfortunately SMS’s, mix it and other modern technology becomes more important than face-to-face conversations. Communication skills are therefore of the utmost importance. These skills are part and parcel of our children’s up bringing but unfortunately also the most neglected because “there is not enough time” resulting in people drifting further away from one another.
The short and the long are: Never pass a compliment if you don’t feel like passing it on. Never withhold a compliment where it is earned. Whether you realise it or not, you do have a positive or negative influence on other people’s lives.
I hope you now understand how important relationships are for us to live a healthy, happy, fulfilling and thankful life. Agree? Disagree? Tell me about it.
What does this all have to do with my health? Everything.
Relationship before birth
Relationships are formed with the foetus even before birth. The mother’s emotions and feelings have either a positive or negative effect on the unborn baby. If she is tensed, depressed or anxious the baby is directly affected.
Not only the mother but also the father of the unborn child will have an effect on it for the rest of the unborn baby’s life. I am sure you have heard of a baby become restless when it hears the father’s voice when daddy-to-be comes home. What and how daddy says it, can either make baby kick with joy when he touches mummy’s belly or the foetus may even stop moving or doesn’t fall asleep in the womb when the relationship between its parents is harsh, or even abusive. Therefore daddy-to-be should also talk calmly to the pregnant mother. A loving relationship between the most important people in a child’s life, even before birth, will give direction to its entire life. Psychiatrists and psychologist are realizing this fact and do go back to a patient’s life in the womb to resolve certain problems and phobias in the adult’s life.
Compliments, false and true
Compliments can have a negative effect on a child too. If the compliment is false, the child can sense it in your voice, body language or eyes. Such lies undermine a child’s trust in the person lying to him/her. This lack of trust is often the cause of a child, even adult’s, problems upholding relationships with the people in their lives.
Some people think it is a compliment to tell a person who passes exams that their efforts rendered great results and then encourages the student to try and do even better in the next one. There was a brilliant medical student who passed all her exams at the university with above-average results. When she completed her studies and had less than 95% in one of her subjects, she committed suicide. The letter she left her parents read, “Sorry mum and dad, I weren’t good enough. I failed your trust in my abilities.”
Do we give our Undivided Attention to our children, spouses, friends and colleagues? We are running through life without ever realizing that a moment wasted is wasted for ever; the sad results last forever too. We all know that feeling of tenseness as we experience that there is so much to be done and so little time to do it! What we don’t realize is that we are depriving ourselves, children, friends and families of precious moments in all of our lives. Because we don’t listen or pay full attention, we miss what we are told. Children feel neglected or rejected; not good enough therefore not living up to the parent’s expectations. Unfortunately SMS’s, mix it and other modern technology becomes more important than face-to-face conversations. Communication skills are therefore of the utmost importance. These skills are part and parcel of our children’s up bringing but unfortunately also the most neglected because “there is not enough time” resulting in people drifting further away from one another.
The short and the long are: Never pass a compliment if you don’t feel like passing it on. Never withhold a compliment where it is earned. Whether you realise it or not, you do have a positive or negative influence on other people’s lives.
I hope you now understand how important relationships are for us to live a healthy, happy, fulfilling and thankful life. Agree? Disagree? Tell me about it.
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