Adult Survivors of Foster Care
July 26th 2008 04:38
I go it alone and have done for quite some time now. I am an Adult Survivor of Foster Care. I now stand at the fork in the road, do I carry on as I always have or do I journey down the path of healing? For many that appears to be an easy question, but for those of us who are aware of a trauma in our life, the prospect of healing is scary.
I have been fortunate and successful in many ways, but have found myself in a place where it is only me I can rely on and talk to, yes I did this. It was easier than getting close to people and getting hurt yet again.
I am now finding out I am not happy with this, and I have started to look at what is available for people like me. In short, see a Counsellor. Small problem, when you have started a life with no money and have only lived week to week, the money let alone the justification is hard to come by. I know now there are options, but they are still limited.
A lot of services out there are specific, for example, sexual abuse, A.A, Mens groups, Womens Groups, Parenting Groups etc, etc. I am hoping to use this as an oppurtunity to share my experiences of being a foster child, and finally talk about it. In doing this I am also hoping that others, no matter where you are at, will share their experiences of being a foster child, what you have done to survive and to move on. And if you are looking for advice, well post a comment and maybe somebody, if not me, can help.
Too many foster kids get lost in the system, get chewed up and spat out. Many will stay stuck in the system, and just as many will be cut loose and set adrift. The attitude is your an Adult, grow up, deal with it and move on. If you do not have the tools, you have to travel a hard road to achieve what most take for granted. And if you can achieve it, it is hard to find a sense of belonging or identity. There is a lot of shame, guilt and embarrassment attached to being an Adult Survivor of Foster Care. If you hear what I am saying, please post a comment. Let us join together and find a place to feel secure about telling our story.
I have been fortunate and successful in many ways, but have found myself in a place where it is only me I can rely on and talk to, yes I did this. It was easier than getting close to people and getting hurt yet again.
I am now finding out I am not happy with this, and I have started to look at what is available for people like me. In short, see a Counsellor. Small problem, when you have started a life with no money and have only lived week to week, the money let alone the justification is hard to come by. I know now there are options, but they are still limited.
A lot of services out there are specific, for example, sexual abuse, A.A, Mens groups, Womens Groups, Parenting Groups etc, etc. I am hoping to use this as an oppurtunity to share my experiences of being a foster child, and finally talk about it. In doing this I am also hoping that others, no matter where you are at, will share their experiences of being a foster child, what you have done to survive and to move on. And if you are looking for advice, well post a comment and maybe somebody, if not me, can help.
Too many foster kids get lost in the system, get chewed up and spat out. Many will stay stuck in the system, and just as many will be cut loose and set adrift. The attitude is your an Adult, grow up, deal with it and move on. If you do not have the tools, you have to travel a hard road to achieve what most take for granted. And if you can achieve it, it is hard to find a sense of belonging or identity. There is a lot of shame, guilt and embarrassment attached to being an Adult Survivor of Foster Care. If you hear what I am saying, please post a comment. Let us join together and find a place to feel secure about telling our story.
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