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Get over it. I expect a fair bit of angry debate for this, but here's my thinking on feminism and all that it really has done for us.

1. 200 years ago it would have been PERFECTLY NORMAL for a girl my age to be married to a 42 year old. Who would be allowed to screw/rape me. Yup. Isn't that SO GREAT?

2. Read Lady Of The Hay. If it's still in print. The shit she goes through because she's a woman way back when is disgusting. It's a very violent, and very disturbing book, with lots of gory details on what it was like to be raped...

3. Nowadays, I have the right to speak my mind. I have the right to marry or not do so as I wish, I have the right to own property, I can write, I can be PUBLISHED. About a hundred years ago, Harry Potter would've never existed.

4. Nowadays, rape is actually punishable. Because women are people, not objects.

5. Nowadays, I have the ability to enjoy myself. I have the right to have children or not have children; I have the right to birth control; if all else fails I have the right to abortion.

6. I am a human being. I have worth. I can work, I can get paid for my work.

And I hate to break it to you, but no man of mine is getting away with making ME do all the housework. I'll do it myself if I'm making all the mess. But if he's contributing to the mess, he's contributing to the housework.

To those who have called me a slut, I take care to point out all the girls who are thirteen and who keep the babies. All the girls who are sleeping with everyone they can sleep with at the age of fourteen. To all the girls who are prostituting themselves out for drugs.

Half of these girls do it because of societal pressures. And a lot of these girls end up raped, end up murdered, and it's because they were pressured to become what they became. When the beauty standard stops involving whorish clothes, THEN tell me that they're asking for it.

Because women are people and in case you didn't notice, men have their own faults. They vote for idiots, they screw up, yadda yadda yadda.

All humans are flawed, man and woman alike, and we're all equal.

So, are men who walk around shirtless asking to be sodomized?

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Comment by Aimzster

July 25th 2008 02:29

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Wow, I just read the other post, Dianna and frankly I don't understand this negativity re feminism. While I know a couple of feminists who want to go to the extreme and aim to demean men in the same way women were demeaned in the early times ('so they know what it feels like'), a majority of feminists I know go by the ideal that that feminism is a campaign for 'for women's legal rights (rights of contract, property rights, voting rights); for rights to bodily integrity and autonomy, for abortion rights, and for reproductive rights (including access to contraception and quality prenatal care); for protection from domestic violence, sexual harassment and rape;[10][1] for workplace rights, including maternity leave and equal pay; and against other forms of discrimination.'
Feminism to me is all about making women be on equal footing with men but most of all it's about freedom of choice that women didn't have the rights to before the last century. What's wrong with that? If SL wasn't happy with what feminism has made women become, the fault shouldn't lie in the idea of feminism but more with individual women that make certain choices. Just as men make bad choices, women make the wrong decisions too but these decisions, when they turn out badly, shoudln't be blamed on the feminism movement. Feminism has done a lot for women and I don't understand people who think the world could have done without it.

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 02:55

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Aimzster,

Glad to hear that somebody agrees with me... boy is my blood boiling over that.

Mostly over the fact that I'm apparently a slut. But still.

I should get my grandmother to write a post about HER opinion on all this controversy XD

She's a feminist, a wonderful person, and to top it all off, she is... dun dun dun... a worker at a woman's shelter who's been through rough shit.

Tell HER that women are asking for rape. You'll get one hell of an interesting response...

~Dianna

Comment by Aimzster

July 25th 2008 03:11

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Yeah, I read that accusation and I can understand why you'd be pissed off. I don't see why people who are supposedly educated on Orble see fit to start branding people names or judging them when they know nothing about the person.

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 03:19

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Exactly.

Thanks.

~Dianna

(I'd still love to see what my grandmother would write if I brought HER into this XD))

Comment by RubySoho

July 25th 2008 06:03

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Hi Dianna, good for you. I have been following your comments on that other blog and I just want to say that for your own sake you should probably cease corresponding with that writer. She will just insult and belittle you until you snap and then she will assume the moral high ground. That's just the way she works.

Nice post.

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 06:07

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Ruby,

Thanks. Actually. I haven't snapped yet, and if I hadn't, it means I probably won't.

I'm probably going to discontinue the conversation soon ANYWAY, because points have been made which she should realize are legitimate.

I'm just trying to make her understand that sometimes abortions are necessary. If it hadn't've been legal, I would've gotten a back alley abortion.

~Dianna

Comment by TimmyH

July 25th 2008 06:10

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I think she was having a shot at the feminists she's come into contact with. But some are quite rightly very humble and indeed have a lot to say which is worth hearing.

Sadly, as with any cause or movement the people who get the most media, and hence public attention are the ones which are able to create a stir...we commonly stereotype feminists, as we do any group...

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 06:11

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TimmyH,

I've noticed that a lot. And I'm not like the stereotypical ones-I just want freedom and the ability to safely walk the streets in whatever clothes I damn well feel like.

~Dianna

Comment by RubySoho

July 25th 2008 06:15

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Well Dianna, you have just described why abortion was legalised in the first place, because women (and girls), were dying and getting severely injured from botched abortions. Actually, in the 19th century abortion was not illegal but it was not regulated and so women were at the mercy of backyard abortionists then too. And so abortion was criminalised, not because it was considered murder but because of the damage it was doing to the women who had them. The whole "pro-life" movement is a modern phenomenon. Prior to the legalisation of abortion, backyard abortionists who were arrested were not charged with murder but with the bodily harm they did to the women. Isn't it funny the way the pro-life movement has twisted it all around to make the women seem like monsters?

But about your jousting partner, tthe truth is, she will never accept anything she does not like, no matter how much evidence you offer up to back up your claims. I congratulate you on not snapping, what with all the insults she has been hurling at you. And I'm really amazed at your honesty and the way you are not afraid to describe your life experiences.

I'm glad there are women like you to counteract women like her.

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 06:22

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Ruby,

Thank you. You know, the biggest reason I'm arguing with her is to try to make her understand that at least in my case, abortion was the best option.

And that I'm fourteen, not two.

Besides, in the states, I could be emancipated and could legally work and support myself, so I'm not a kid anymore, sorry...

And okay, I did snap, very briefly, but not in my comments. I just sat there and listened to metal because it calms me down.

~Dianna

Comment by RubySoho

July 25th 2008 06:31

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Haha, metal calms you down...actually you are not the first person that has said that. It has the opposite effect on me....

You are still only 14? Wow, it actually makes me sad that you have to deal with people like her that try and make you feel bad about yourself at that age. I'm 33 and she upsets me like crazy sometimes. Mainly because I can't believe the stuff she comes out with.

Anyway, I know you did the right thing for yourself and don't ever let anyone make you feel bad about it.

Ruby

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 06:33

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Ruby,

She left. I think she knew I was right but wouldn't admit it, either that, or she's blind.

Yeah, I'm fourteen. I've had to deal with a lot worse than her, I think getting beat up and called every name in the book for most of my life kind of prepared me for the sheer stupidity of some people.

Thanks Ruby. And don't let her upset you; she's just a person obsessed with making controversy. And not in the good day, like the oldies will remember David did.

~Dianna

Comment by Morgan Bell

July 25th 2008 08:51

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So, are men who walk around shirtless asking to be sodomized?

best line EVER!

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 08:59

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Morgan,

Why thank you!

I'm a bit of a smartass...

~Dianna

Comment by Mrs M

July 25th 2008 13:19

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HI Dianna,

You sound a whole lot more mature than Bradish. Don't let that biddy get you down. She is truly astounding....for all the wrong reasons.

You go girl.

Love & stuff
Mrs M

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 14:01

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Mrs. M,

Thanks. The sad thing is she's in her thirties...

I find it fun to debate with people like that, sometimes, though, because I know, in the end, that I won't change anything. But a good debate can get me going and get me excited.

Adrenaline.

Thanks again,
~Dianna

Comment by RubySoho

July 25th 2008 14:13

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Actually Dianna, she is in her fifties or sixties....

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 14:31

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Ruby,

*Headdesk*

Please tell me that this is some kind of sick joke.

~Dianna

Comment by Morgan Bell

July 25th 2008 15:12

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no Dianna, its no joke, S.L. Bradish has an 18 year old granddaughter by her youngest child . . . i dont know her exact age but i would have presumed 60-70 . . . she also lived through the counterculture of the 1960s as it happened, well as far as i can gather from things she has said

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 15:15

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Morgan,

I think that's the saddest thing I've ever heard. And she still can't understand that sometimes things like abortion are the lesser of two evils.

*Sigh*

~Dianna

Comment by RubySoho

July 25th 2008 15:22

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Dianna, you are quite an amazing young lady!

Comment by Dianna G

July 25th 2008 15:25

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Ruby,

Thank you.

~Dianna

Comment by Lola Tahlulah

July 26th 2008 11:28

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So, are men who walk around shirtless asking to be sodomized?

Totally brilliant. Bravo. I'm going to shove that one-liner in my back pocket and use it someday. Don't worry, I'll totally give you credit! You appear to be wise beyond your years dear girl!

Comment by Dianna G

July 26th 2008 15:05

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Lola,

Thanks

~Dianna

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