Do you hurt the ones you love?
December 7th 2006 09:17
How true is this saying?
Have you notice that the people you love the most, the people who are closest to you are the ones you hurt the most?
I mean, you would be nice as a pie to a stranger, to someone you have just met.
But when you're being angry or hurtful, you lash out on the ones you love?
Is it because you assume that they will always be there no matter what you do or whatever may happen?
Does this assumption lead you to take these people for granted?
Do you also notice that the people who you love are the ones who let you down most often?
So many questions ... I know.
I've been asking these questions from observing past personal experiences as well as observing others.
For example, a friend of mine from years back was doing voluntary social work.
She would be spending a lot of time looking after other people but neglecting the people closest to her ... namely her family and friends.
Her reasoning was that her family and friends would always be there but the people she was helping needed her most there and then.
This led me to question her reasoning.
Charity begins at home ... no?
How could she justify running after other people while the people closest to her were falling apart?
There were friends in need and probably needed her most at a point in time but she felt she couldn't be there for them as that would be taking time away from helping other people.
Interesting logic.
This leads to the question, how far would you go to help a friend in need?
A friend who is on the brink of suicide for example?
Would you walk away because you feel that is too big a burden to shoulder?
Would you let the friend self-destruct because you are too selfish to care?
Would you walk away because you only want to be surrounded by happy people?
What would you really do when it comes to the crunch?
Have you notice that the people you love the most, the people who are closest to you are the ones you hurt the most?
I mean, you would be nice as a pie to a stranger, to someone you have just met.
But when you're being angry or hurtful, you lash out on the ones you love?
Is it because you assume that they will always be there no matter what you do or whatever may happen?
Does this assumption lead you to take these people for granted?
Do you also notice that the people who you love are the ones who let you down most often?
So many questions ... I know.
I've been asking these questions from observing past personal experiences as well as observing others.
For example, a friend of mine from years back was doing voluntary social work.
She would be spending a lot of time looking after other people but neglecting the people closest to her ... namely her family and friends.
Her reasoning was that her family and friends would always be there but the people she was helping needed her most there and then.
This led me to question her reasoning.
Charity begins at home ... no?
How could she justify running after other people while the people closest to her were falling apart?
There were friends in need and probably needed her most at a point in time but she felt she couldn't be there for them as that would be taking time away from helping other people.
Interesting logic.
This leads to the question, how far would you go to help a friend in need?
A friend who is on the brink of suicide for example?
Would you walk away because you feel that is too big a burden to shoulder?
Would you let the friend self-destruct because you are too selfish to care?
What would you really do when it comes to the crunch?
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Comment by Little Angry Doll
Falling Haiku Leaf
Inner West Life
But seriously, sometimes it's easier to reach out to people you don't know as well. I'm a sucker for taking in strays in the form of flatmates and house guests with problems.
I can't do it anymore. Yet I always do, until they are on their feet.
Interesting post.
Comment by Hope
Gifted Parenting
Freelance For Life
Comment by Anonymous
and why is it, the more you want to hate the one that hurts you, the more you find yourself praying that you can be a better person so that they will come back to you?
and why is it humans say things out of anger, and then can't seem to forgive themself for the mistakes they made and the things they said?
life's past can't be erased.