Depression- is there a way through it? Continued
May 4th 2008 09:15
The hardest thing when dealing with depression is how your feelings can change just so quickly. Earlier today I was out with some friends when I could feel a low coming on and had leave before bursting into tears. Felt quite low until a friend called around a couple of hours later and we just chatted, my mood slowly raised I felt better than I did.
This is one of the things that is helpful, having friends, partners,family that do get it and understand what you are going through, people who won't judge you etc. And if some people don;t get it, then find someone who does.
A couple of people at work were really suprised at what has happened as I'm always so positive, motivated, always there for people, encouraging others etc and then whamo.
I believe in hard times like this, the three words a partner, family or friends can say are: I love you, I believe in you and that I need you. (Actually you should say these anyway regardless), At the moment I wouldn't say I'm happy, just above flatness, tend to do better when not thinking about my ex though.
I have no partner obviously, ref previous post and no family here in NZ, which does make it very hard to deal with feelings of depression, loneliness and hopelessness but I do have a few very good friends who don't judge me, just listen and talk to me when I need someone.
People sometimes say, things happen for a reason? Well at the moment I haven't determined why I would meet my soulmate for it then to turn around like this??
When you are down, your self worth decreases and you think strange thoughts, last night I was very low and really needed to talk to a friend, which I did. Today have spiked up and down but seem okay now.
I'm no expert at this but I do like to try and work out whats going on, I keep daily charts, monitoring how my moods goes during the day, to try and determine if its affected by times, weather, food even? As I always find its easier to go and see your doc or counsellor if you can take some kind of stuff with you to help them help you.
Even though this has been a very uncomfortable blast from the past and I wouldn't wish these feelings on my worst enemy, I have to accept that this is part of who I am and have to manage the triggers and maybe find my dream girl who the posibility of this doesn't worry them as thats what partners do, support and be there for each other.
When this appeared 4 years ago, my first doc just put me on pills and told me nothing about them, after 3 days I stopped because I felt so sick and felt that the feelings had got worse.
Luckliy my manager then, took me to his doc, who gives pills out as a last resort and she is still my doc.
So as I said earlier if you feel people don't get it, then find someone who does.
Sorry if this rambles a bit, I tend to write what I'm thinking, and feeling in a reflective mood tonight. Hopefully this is good?
thanks for taking time to read this and I might not be the best to give advice but I have travelled and experienced lots of things good and bad in my 39 years and if I can be of any help to anyone, just leave a comment.
AverageGuyNZ
This is one of the things that is helpful, having friends, partners,family that do get it and understand what you are going through, people who won't judge you etc. And if some people don;t get it, then find someone who does.
A couple of people at work were really suprised at what has happened as I'm always so positive, motivated, always there for people, encouraging others etc and then whamo.
I believe in hard times like this, the three words a partner, family or friends can say are: I love you, I believe in you and that I need you. (Actually you should say these anyway regardless), At the moment I wouldn't say I'm happy, just above flatness, tend to do better when not thinking about my ex though.
I have no partner obviously, ref previous post and no family here in NZ, which does make it very hard to deal with feelings of depression, loneliness and hopelessness but I do have a few very good friends who don't judge me, just listen and talk to me when I need someone.
People sometimes say, things happen for a reason? Well at the moment I haven't determined why I would meet my soulmate for it then to turn around like this??
When you are down, your self worth decreases and you think strange thoughts, last night I was very low and really needed to talk to a friend, which I did. Today have spiked up and down but seem okay now.
I'm no expert at this but I do like to try and work out whats going on, I keep daily charts, monitoring how my moods goes during the day, to try and determine if its affected by times, weather, food even? As I always find its easier to go and see your doc or counsellor if you can take some kind of stuff with you to help them help you.
Even though this has been a very uncomfortable blast from the past and I wouldn't wish these feelings on my worst enemy, I have to accept that this is part of who I am and have to manage the triggers and maybe find my dream girl who the posibility of this doesn't worry them as thats what partners do, support and be there for each other.
When this appeared 4 years ago, my first doc just put me on pills and told me nothing about them, after 3 days I stopped because I felt so sick and felt that the feelings had got worse.
Luckliy my manager then, took me to his doc, who gives pills out as a last resort and she is still my doc.
So as I said earlier if you feel people don't get it, then find someone who does.
Sorry if this rambles a bit, I tend to write what I'm thinking, and feeling in a reflective mood tonight. Hopefully this is good?
thanks for taking time to read this and I might not be the best to give advice but I have travelled and experienced lots of things good and bad in my 39 years and if I can be of any help to anyone, just leave a comment.
AverageGuyNZ
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Try and do / read / watch something that makes you laugh. It sounds trite but laughing raises endorphin levels. I hope you can always find something to smile about even though I know sometimes it must feel almost impossible. Hang in there.
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Sadly, depression may be a part of us for as long as we live but it doesn't mean that we can allow it to control us. We have control over our depression.
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Comment by Kleonaptra
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I have depression and anxiety, and its thrown into overdrive by my psychosis. Ive said those same words -
You sound like you're doing all the good things, getting to know triggers and monitoring your moods. I think its also important to never forget about it, no matter how good you feel it can trick you and come back at double force.
And its really hard to find people who understand.
Comment by averageguynz
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This was one of the reasons I started this particular blog so not only could I share through my writing but also to connect, help and maybe inspire likeminded souls.
Today has been a bit up and down. I was bit emotional this morning but had a session with a counsellor with EAP Services, Christchurch, NZ, they work with employers etc and it was a pretty good session. At the moment I'm feeling best I have since this all started but as previously mentioned, I am aware how deep blue can ambush you from time to time.
Actually thats a thought, if you call it by a name that becomes a joke to you, would it have such a hold over you??
Shall keep monitoring it this week and see what happens? The strange thing is at this moment, I'm sort of thinking 'What the deuce'when I'm thinking about last week etc and have I been over reacting or being a drama queen?? But then the last few days have been very real.
I actually run another blog on here although a few days ago I was unsure about opening myself up on it so hence this one, but thanks to you all being open with your comments, feel free to have a read if you would like? Its at www.kiwiauthor.com
shall leave you all with a thought:
I'ts not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance in the rain' got that from the front of the depression leaflet.
regards
AverageGuyNZ
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Going through depression is something that is very difficult, but those who got through it, will find themselves to become an even wiser and stronger person.
There is something I heard on the radio once:
I can't remeber the exact words, but it basically said
We as human never stop growing up, we can live till eighty and still be growing up. Growing up is something that is constant, it never stop.
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Thanks for reading post and also for sharing your thoughts, sorry to hear about your shallow friends but you have been positive by sharing your feelings. I would say that your friends aren't really nice people for the things they said. But then you are better than them Kenny as you might have loved and lost but you have still loved and I bet they haven't felt this way and more of the case, being a real man and standing up and admiting it, that take real courage and well done.
It is natural to feel angry at times, as no one likes to get hurt, be made a fool of and all the other thoughts that run through our minds. I've had my heart broken a few times, the last just recently and I'm 39 years old and even though I have had 'thoughts' from time to time, I realised 'why should I let them beat me'?
I don't know which country you live in but there will be support networks set up, so if you are feeling these thoughts, please find someone to talk to, could be family, a friend, someone you trust or even someone in a church. We all need help and support at times and its the right thing to do, to stand up and say help me, that takes courage and guts. Plus someone just giving you a hug and saying you are okay, works wonders.
Sometimes finding things that make you smile could be good, Family Guy always works for me.
Today I had a strange morning but still got a lift out of it. I cycle to work and got two punctures from the same nail, also cut my finger on the metal, so i was getting cheesed off, but then as I was cycling through the inner city suburbs, I spotted a seagull just standing in the middle of the road with cars whizzing by it. So waiting for a gap in the traffic, I quickly picked it up and placed it safely behind some bushes in a garden.
My thinking was, on the road no chance, in the garden 50/50 chance but the thing is if I hadn't have been late, I wouldn't have saved that bird and doing a good deed actually lifted my mood, so there is hope out there as even on the darkest night, dawn always follows.
If you have any of those thoughts please do try and find someone to talk to as you are better than that, how do I know this? Because you have stood up and recognised how you feel and shared your thoughts and feelings, none of your so called friends would do that, so good on you!
If any of my readers can offer Kenny some helpful positive advice, please feel free to leave a comment.
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