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I cut my hair this week.. short blunt fringe, messy look… like a 60’s glam rock singer. I have also been wearing black dark make up and wearing black clothes. Why? No – I am not channeling Christina Amphlett from The Divinyls… no it’s my ‘fk all men’ stage. Women often go through this after some dirty dog has played them for a fool and pissed them off. Being hurt and angry at the same time is a dangerous combination and that is exactly what I am going through at the moment.
Not so angry at this particular person but more angry at myself that I let this guy into my world, that I believed his bullshit and that I let him play me for so long.
It started a few months back and my first mistake was getting involved with someone I work with. You know when every time you start a work thing you think it will be different and it’ll work. Don’t be disillusioned. It never does and it’s always the chick that comes off second best.
It was all really good… went out, laughed, enjoyed each other’s chemistry, text, email, call, chatted, everything. Then it all seemed to just go to shit. Why? Well I only just found at the real reason the other day via text.
I went off this guy when I could feel him being distant. I thought the only way to stop liking him was to hate him and ignore him. It worked for a week and then he went overseas for a week for work. The whole time he text me… and being the fool I am, I text back. These weren’t ‘hi how are you’ texts, no! These were texts that if your Grandma saw she would have a heart attack.
It seemed everything was back on track… but a week after he returned, again it went to shit. In my usual fashion, I drunk called (another mistake) and gave him a serve for treating me the way he did. Oh the next morning I hated myself. I just decided in my head that it was over and he was a dirty dog.
I got a text from him a couple of days after explaining that he didn’t want to get into a relationship after his last one and he should have told me a while back… yep you should have told me from the start buddy. Thing was, like most men, he thought as soon as he started pashing me I wanted a relationship? Um… no thanks. Sometimes girls just want fun… no strings attached and well I didn’t really want to have one with him, just enjoyed his company. Loser!
So now I am angry and hurt… and I need to be like that for a little while. It’ll pass and I am sure we’ll be friends but in the meantime I will ignore the loser, keep my hair the way it is, work out at the gym like no tomorrow and well hate all men… for the moment anyway!
Christina Amphlett eat your heart out!
Til next time,
DG x
Ola friends! Yes I know it has been a LONG time since I have last posted... slack tart but now I am armed with a crap load of great dating adventures.
First things first though, I need to know what you guys think about online dating? Perhaps one is thinking of partaking but needs a little nudge. In fact, there are a couple of us ladies at my work who are seriously taking the leap into the unknown to the hope to find the man of our dreams (vomit, I hate that cliche).
The other two lovely ladies who are interested are fantastic - work in a great industry, successful, supportive, loving, honest, attractive, funny and have everything going for them. Yet like myself, we continue to meet complete losers or bad boys who use us, or we're just not meeting anyway at all. So what to do?
Sure we're time poor and I guess online dating does make sense. We can suss out potential suitors on line, get to know them and then decide whether we want to catch up or not. But what are the cons?
My friend told me not to go for men in photos who are not smiling as they have bad teeth. Ha - WTF? That is a good one. I guess you can be anyone you want online but how is that going to help me find an honest man?
Another girlfriend went on a dating site for some time. She was about to give up when she met Anthony. They fell totally in love and are still together now. I have no doubt they'll get hitched and live happily ever after!
So should we do it? Just go for it - I guess there's no harm in putting ourselves out there... afterall we're not meeting anyone out at bars or pubs or through work. Oh the dating world... such joys!
Til next time,
D.G x
So everyone keeps banging on about this supposed man drought that we're having... ok so there may be more single women than men but I think women might have a little something to do with that... we're just too fussy!!!
The truth is... there are plenty of men out there - at the gym, the pub, work, everywhere! And they are looking for lovely ladies too. It may be true that some are looking for one night stands and can be complete a*holes, but I truly believe there are a lot of men out there like us, looking for love.
The only problem is that women are turning their noses up at these guys playing the 'fussy' card. We're picking their faults and coming to the conclusion that they're not good enough for us.
I am first to admit that I am too fussy and so are half my friends. We whine that we can't meet a guy or there are no men out there but at the end of the day, there are, we're just not giving them a chance! We're very quick to make up our minds when we meet someone, that they're not for us, so quick that we hardly know them.
But here's the other side of the argument... sure, women are fussy but why push something if nothing is there. Ideally, you want to be physically and mentally attracted to someone, right? But what happens if something is missing? Do you keep at it trying to find that attraction or is a waste of time?
Isn't love suppose to come easily?
True, maybe women need to give men more time before closing the book on them - maybe we might not get a lover but more a great friend out of them. Who knows, they might just be perfect for one of our friends.
What do you think - are women too fussy? Are we giving up too easily on what could be a wonderful thing?
Let me know!
Til next time,
D.G x
You know how people say when you meet someone - you know they're the one! You fall head over heels in love! Well what happens if you never find that someone and you never fall in love??? Do we die old spinsters with a million cats in our house as our only companions
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Ok the story goes... I was seeing this guy who lived in another State and from what we know from my previous posts... well it didn't work out. He just wasn't for me Cool
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Oooohhhh one of my favorite topics.... if there was a Olympic Sport in Drunken Texting, I would win hands down!!! Let's just say alcohol combined with a mobile phone is a very BAD combination
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Remember the song 'Breaking Up Is Hard to Do'? Well I think those kids knew what they were talking about. Even if you're the one who is doing the dumping, it is still bloody hard. Last week I felt like a right royal cow when I told one of the most perfect guys in the world that he wasn't so perfect for me... let's go back to the start
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September 11th 2008 00:11
I was chatting to my friend Nadia the other night about dating. We're two single professional ladies who have a fair income – I wouldn't say we're as rich as Donald Trump but we're surviving. We both often date a lot as well and we were discussing how being single is actually quite expensive
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An interesting article passed my desk yesterday from News.Com that suggested the internet is credited for more and more people talking and viewing sex than ever before, however when it comes to real life relationships, we're not speaking up about our problems with getting jiggy in the bedroom
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A few months ago, my closest friends had an intervention with me! We laugh about it now, but they seemed to think that I only dated celebrities and sportspeople! Well, okay I didn't do it deliberately but yeah I did have the tendency to date people with a profile. So they thought it was time to put an end to it as I always seemed to get treated like crap by these particular people and end up having my heart broken (well not that extreme but yeah they didn’t make me feel amazing afterwards
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