Recent Posts
It's the ultimate question: can you really have it all? The relationship, that job, a family, money, a house...can you really have it all, or does something have to give?
I was thinking about this recently when I realized my brother and I were the only single ones out of our generation in the family, ie: all our cousins. Out of our cousins we are both the most highly educated (both have completed post graduate studies) and fair to say, we both have the highest paying jobs. We've also each bought our own apartment.
Now - before anyone starts shooting me down about how life is more than a job. I know that. And you don't need a post grad or even a uni degree to have a decent job. I know that. And 'decent job' all comes down to what the person thinks who is doing the job. I know that, too.
But I'm trying to make a point here.
Those who have paid-by-the-hour retail jobs are married, or engaged. Those who have more blue collar jobs are engaged, or close enough. Could we have unwittingly let relationships and our more personal lives pass us by, as we persued careers and further study?
Or is it just that those who we're more likely to be attracted to (big assumption there, I'm well aware) are those who are in the same sort of industries as us, and we're all currently caught up in the same big rat race that we won't slow down and have it all until we've met our initial career and educational goals?
Or maybe my brother & I are just unlucky in love..who knows?!
September 22nd 2011 11:10
It amazes me how the simple act of waiting for the phone to ring can turn a normally-mature, independent, successful, over-the-hump-but-still-on-th e-right-side-of-30 woman into a complete mess.
A couple of weeks ago my friend introduced me to one of her male acquaintences (y'know how it goes, a friend of a friend of a friend from back home). We had a bit of a chat and the next weekend, we all went out together again for dinner at the pub. There were about 8 of us at the table, we sat next to each other and chatted & had a good laugh all night.
Long story short: he walked me home, asked for my number and 5 days later I'm still waiting to hear from him. Guys - how long do you leave it to call/msg? Gals - how long do you wait?
The stupid thing is, this has happened to me numerous times, as it does with everyone sooner or later. Yet I'm still sitting here on the couch, or at work, or having dinner, watching my phone, waiting & hoping for it to ring, buzz, vibrate...just do SOMETHING, to hear from him. The screen lit up earlier and in a split second, my stomach flip-flopped and my heart started to race, only to find out my parents' plane had landed.
It's pathetic, I know. Yet I know I'm not the only one who gets in this 'state' while waiting for the elusive call, only to undoubtedly be let down. Again.
Why do we let guys do this to us? And we do LET them, none of them purposely make us feel like this. And the fact that we've normally own know these guys for a few hours at most, it's insane that we are hanging on to this (now faint) hope that they will call. And what's more, we can't call them, oooh no. Because that would look desperate. Because sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring isn't?! Please...
If they're going to call, they'll call. And if they don't? Well, we'll just go back to the pub next weekend, find another guy and start the circle again..
I'm sure we've all been there - you like someone but they don't like you back. Then if you see them with someone else you might get a bit angry, upset...basically just downright jealous.
But what if you don't have feelings for someone and truly just value them as a friend, but for some reason you still get those feelings when there's the possibility that they're with someone else?
I was just doing my neighborly duty and putting out the rubbish bins for my apartment complex, when my neighbour's dog came running up behind me for a pat. I bent down and gave him a pat and then realised that it wasn't my neighbour who'd just come home with the dog, but some other woman I'd never seen before. Now, my neighbour & I get along really well and always stop for a chat when we see each other etc. It was only just yesterday that we ran into each other when he was coming home from a run with his dog & we had a good chat for maybe 10mins. He's never mentioned a girlfriend before, now I'm racking my brain to remember if he's mentioned a sister. But she clearly had a key & just walked into his apartment, dropped off his dog & left again.
I should point out that I've never been romantically interested in my neighbour. He's a good guy, got a decent job etc but I'm just not that attracted to him. Which is why I was so surprised when, when I saw this random girl, my stomach flipped. Am I jealous? Was i suddenly feeling protective for my neighbour because I don't want him to get hurt? Or is there something inside us that just naturally makes us feel threatened & on alert if we think someone's entering our territory (even though my neighbour's hardly 'mine'!).
Who knows...maybe I'm just a nosey neighbour who might casually just mention the next time I see him that I ran into his girlfriend and see what he says 
It really does puzzle me sometimes how people can be in relationships - be they married or defacto, and then when the relationship ends (death, unfaithfulness, growing apart etc) some people move on extremely quickly.
Now, we all know there are the types of people who just aren't happy with single life and always have to be in a relationship, and I'm sure you're all familiar with the term 'rebound
[ Click here to read more ]
WRONG!!
I had a few dates with a friend-of-a-friend a few months ago. Nice guy, tiny spark, but to be honest I just couldn't see the spark getting much bigger, if you follow me, so suggested we just be friends
[ Click here to read more ]
For those of us out there in the dating game, we're all after only one of two things: love & romance, or just a bit of fun. If it's the latter you're after, it's normally made pretty clear to the other party. Why, then, if it is not a bit of fun that you're after, if everyone is after essentially the same thing, why do some find it acceptable to play games? I'm not talking about trying to not look 'too keen', but the whole "yeh, let's do this again, I'll call you"...and then the call never comes. If they never intended on calling, why say that they would? Is it just because they don't have the guts to potentially hurt someone or let someone down to their face?
I'm not just talking about guys here, but girls do it as well. As a single woman I've had guys promise to call or message or 'be in touch' and then I've never heard from them on more than one occasion, and my older brother has had similar experiences - except he actually does call the girl, only for them to not answer the phone/voicemails or ever reply to texts (after all indications were that she wanted to see him again
[ Click here to read more ]
http://basque.com.au/
This is a very popular little tapas restaurant on Chapel Street, Prahran. It is more suited to tables of 2-4 patrons, so if you'd like to go with a larger group be sure to book well in advance
[ Click here to read more ]
Here's an original one. Sure, if you're an emotional wreck that can put a guy off. If you're overly sensitive and cry at the drop of a hat, that could also be a turn off. But the scent of our tears putting a guy off? That's something I would never have considered!!
Check out the article and let me know what you think: Really Long Link
[ Click here to read more ]
I went for dinner and drinks at BearBrass, Southgate on Saturday 8th January: Really Long Link
My friend and I both had friends visiting from interstate, but as we were both quite skint til payday we were looking for somewhere reasonably priced to go, and decided to try BearBrass after a recommendation from a friend
[ Click here to read more ]
I recently went to Amigos mexican restaurant on Chapel Street, South Yarra: www.amigos.com.au - the food was delicious!
As soon as I walked in, the smell hit me - YUM. I haven't been struck with such a smell when I walked into a restaurant in quite some time
[ Click here to read more ]
|
|
|
Add Comments
Read More
Comment by CB
on Cheating - who's at fault?
Date Gal
Melbourne Wining & Dining
Random musings of a 20-something
He'd be cheating on their relationship, but I'd be cheating on our friendship, which would make me just as bad and therefore equally at fault. It's not just the romantic relationships that need to be considered but other relationships (eg: friendships) as well.