Men & Women; Ears Apart
July 25th 2007 11:28
Shortly after arriving I was to be hit with a huge pain of loss, I was so homesick that it almost hurt. I come from an extremely small family, all of whom have relied on me heavily and all who are back home in Queensland. I have never been away like this before, and sure I know we all grow up and leave the nest to discover the big bad world but I had no idea that it could really hurt so much. Or that I could feel so guilty for leaving everyone behind.
Not only that but in one trip down south I had lost my independence somewhere along the Princess Highway. I had to depend on my Fiancé for everything; I had no car to get around, we had merged bank accounts before we left so I had no bank cards yet to access any money, I had no credit on my phone and I was miles away from being familiar with anything or anyone.
It was very hard to talk about any of this with my Fiancé as men just don’t listen like women. I tried to explain my homesickness to him, but somewhere in my pain and his wanting to fix the unfixable the communication broke down and frustration came into play. I withdrew and both our days got a lot better, but it made me realise the communication barrier that had failed so many relationships in the past.
What I have come to discover is that a man listens and want to fix, then when it cannot be fixed becomes somewhat defeated. That’s when they start to take it personally, like he just cannot make the partner happy,.. And thus comes a whole round of other issues. I have heard it a hundred times in reference to failed relationships “I can’t do this anymore I just don’t know how to make you happy.”
Men just do not seem to realise that a lot of the time a women just needs to have her feelings heard, and sympathised with. That alone can make one feel much better about almost any issue.
Not only that but in one trip down south I had lost my independence somewhere along the Princess Highway. I had to depend on my Fiancé for everything; I had no car to get around, we had merged bank accounts before we left so I had no bank cards yet to access any money, I had no credit on my phone and I was miles away from being familiar with anything or anyone.
It was very hard to talk about any of this with my Fiancé as men just don’t listen like women. I tried to explain my homesickness to him, but somewhere in my pain and his wanting to fix the unfixable the communication broke down and frustration came into play. I withdrew and both our days got a lot better, but it made me realise the communication barrier that had failed so many relationships in the past.
What I have come to discover is that a man listens and want to fix, then when it cannot be fixed becomes somewhat defeated. That’s when they start to take it personally, like he just cannot make the partner happy,.. And thus comes a whole round of other issues. I have heard it a hundred times in reference to failed relationships “I can’t do this anymore I just don’t know how to make you happy.”
Men just do not seem to realise that a lot of the time a women just needs to have her feelings heard, and sympathised with. That alone can make one feel much better about almost any issue.
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